When the last chapter has been read and the book cover of your life closed, will most people feel as if they never had the opportunity to experience your full potential? Will they say that the wisdom gained throughout your life died along with you and therefore the next generation was not able to draw from your resources and years of experience? It is supposed to be that the philosophy and education of the previous generation serves as common sense for the next generation.
The good and bad experiences we have had in our generation are to help the next generation avoid the pitfalls of our time, while embracing the good experiences and improving upon them. Legacies are left behind so that others can experience the passion of the past.
I discovered that the richest place in the world is not the United States; it is not Saudi Arabia; and it certainly is not Holly Wood (Beverly Hills). The wealthiest place in the world is in the most unlikely proximity: the grave yard. More wealth is secured in a small six by three plot of land than the greatest oil producing countries in the world.
Once that wealth of knowledge and wisdom has been permanently stored away in the minds of the deceased, there is no way to unlock it. It is forever lost; and the next generation must suffer from the void of what they cannot realize is absent.
The greatest mentor of my life was a man I both revered and loved. His embracing me as a son unlocked in me more potential than I ever thought I had.
To this day, I am still experiencing the many-sided possibilities because a man, Dr. Turnel Nelson, emptied himself before he went on to be with the Lord. What a legacy! He would often say, “Don’t die full!”
The fruit that grows from the tree of your life experiences is to leave the seeds for those left behind to germinate. Growing older does not translate into stop growing and enjoying life. In fact, growing older suggests the opposite. The longer I am on this earth the more fruit I get to grow and the more seeds I get to drop for those following my example.
Have you ever listened to a live band that was sounding so good that you found yourself patting your feet to the rhythm of the beat, and then that ‘odd sound’ happened; someone abandoned their note or one of the musicians played the wrong cord? Did you suddenly feel something was wrong, especially if they continued to play that way? The problem was easily recognizable—the rhythm was broken. The continued sour notes and playing the instruments out of key becomes unbearable. To sit throughout the entire performance would be a sacrifice. Unless, of course, if it were your child after their initial music lessons giving their first recital.
There is a rhythm to life that can easily become broken and that is when life’s priorities are out of sync. When people find themselves unhappy after achieving success, getting the girl or guy of their dreams or after landing that six figure job, it is because they are finally awaken to the reality that having things or accomplishing one’s goals does not necessarily translate into happiness. The disharmony in their life creates a repugnant and unpleasant feeling. They were under the assumption that happiness is the ultimate reward of success, but that depends solely on the priority the individual gives to their success.
Generally, people think that their dreams and priorities will automatically synchronize, but this is the furthest from the truth. True synchronization is when a person deliberately places their wants, needs and desires in the correct order and are completely content with that sequence. You may ask, “What is the correct order?”
There is a general order to the rhythm of life, but not all arrangements fit all. The order of your priorities may not be the exact order for me. The Rhythm of Life is putting life’s priorities in perspective.
Two men looked out through prison bars. One man saw the mud; the other man saw the stars! It is often just a matter of perspective. Before you consider changing jobs, churches, or spouses in hopes of finding the fulfillment you seek, examine your attitude. If your attitude is not right, then it does not matter where you work, how much you are compensated or even what you do.
There is an innate quality that is in every human being and when that quality is disrupted, so is life. God is that quality which gives life its quality and rhythm, not things. Counting numbers is just not the same starting with the number two. It is virtually impossible to sincerely start your day with God and end up out of sequence.
Here is a remedy for being cantankerous and just plain irritable about life’s situations. Instead of trying to force yourself to pretend you are cheerful about the circumstances that seemingly are getting the best of you, take a real-life approach to fixing the whole matter.
I discovered that circumstances do not truly create moods, people themselves do. Your frame of mind is not preconditioned to circumstances, which causes your emotional reader to act erratic. People have simply learned over time to associate emotional responses with certain occurrences. Our thinking patterns are involuntarily forced into emotional responses based on the consistent images that suggest behavior responses. It took years of seeing these mental images that became conducive to producing reactionary responses without forethought. Therefore, it is not that simple as to act as if you are happy about things falling apart in your life that can ultimately cause an emotional shift.
However, since you do not have as much time as you previously used to develop these preconditioned patterns, try another method that I believe will help you overcome the melancholy responses to your situations that will eventually lead to depression. This method is simple and you need not be a mathematician to apply this technique. All you need to know is how to add or reasonably consider and this system will work for you. Are you ready to hear how you can change your seemingly predisposed behavior?
Count your blessings or they do not count! “What?!” you might respond. I know that you thought that the remedy to controlling your emotional moods is in a more complicated process, but on the contrary. The answers in much of our problematic situations are discovered in simplicity.
Count Your Blessing. Think of how much worst your situation could be, if you are only considering how bad it is. There are more things working in your favor than working against you. When you begin to count your blessings, you will notice how the good will far outweigh your bad.
Therefore, thank God! Complaining about your circumstances will not fix it; it will only exasperate it. However, if you count the good things that can come out of a bad situation, you will cause your emotional response to react favorably instead of negatively. Try it; it works.
The road to success is littered with failure. Failure is a part of the process to archiving great success. Thomas Edison is a great example of this principle in action.
How do you deal with failure when its effect can be so devastating to your psyche? I am sure that you are aware of the encompassing feeling of discouragement that seems to drain you of the energy that is necessary for the next challenge. Especially when your attempts are consecutive failures, you have a tendency to protect yourself by excusing your disappointments instead of dealing with their affects on your mental stability.
How you look at your circumstances is important to whether or not you will muster up the strength to go at it again. I cannot over emphasize the value of a failed attempt. That’s right. I said that there is value in failure. How else can you learn to persevere if you never experience the kind of challenges that test your resolve and tenacity to fight until accomplishment has been achieved?
Discouragement is an emotion (negative feeling in motion) that can be altered by the will to win; and failure can easily be overcome with constant attempts. The more you fall short of your goals, the more you learn concerning what not to do.
Thomas Edison tried over 700 times to come up with a bulb that can cause light. If Thomas Edison stopped on the 700th attempt, he would have probably never achieved the notoriety and confidence to accomplish all the other patents he owned over his life span. The light bulb would have eventually been developed by someone else who exerted him or herself to overcome their failed attempts at the bulb’s invention.
The rewards of success are capitulated only to those who persevere over failure and accomplishment. Therefore, do not use failure as a reason to quit, but the motivation to try harder because your failures can only make you smarter and privy to information you would not otherwise have accumulated.