The Value of Experience

Experience and life lessons are not the best teachers in life. Discover why in this post.

Experience is expensive, and the lessons of life never end. Just when you think you have graduated from the school of experience, along comes a completely new study course with tests at the end of every lesson. It seems like experience would be a better teacher if it did not charge so much for tuition. The value for experience costs more than most people are willing to pay. Sometimes the price of experience costs us more later because we are oftentimes unwilling to pay the cheaper price earlier. Experience is actually what enables you to recognize mistakes when you see it again. If you fall into the same trap that you experienced earlier, it is because you did not gain new experience in how to avoid it. Since life is inundated with the guarantees that life attracts trouble, struggles, and problems, it is necessary that we learn how to take the heat without being burned.

Greek mythology

There is an old Greek mythology about a baby named, Achilles. Baby Achilles was dipped into the waters that would make him impervious or impenetrable to the stroke of the sword or the point of an arrow. However, according to this legend, his submersion covered every place except where his heel was held. Therefore, when Achilles went into the great fight, at first nothing could harm any part of his body. Finally, an arrow pierced Achilles’ heel and caused his death. Centuries after this Greek myth, we still refer to someone’s “Achilles’ heel.” This means an unprotected area or a weak spot.

Weaknesses and Vulnerabilities

All of us have weak and vulnerable areas of our lives that we struggle to protect. We become disturbed by the illusion of problems and therefore we fix our sights on the visible instead of the invisible. Most people would rather treat the symptoms than the problem because fixing the problem means working on oneself. Usually, ‘me’ is not the problem; the problem is the other person. Avoiding your weaknesses does not make them eventually disappear. If you are unequipped for trouble then you are ill prepared for life. Life is loaded with difficulties and struggles. If you are going to get through the struggles of life, you are going to have to struggle to get through. You can no longer act civil when facing problems that are designed to take you out. I discovered that life is not a choreographed wrestling match. People go through real life situations such as divorce, rape or incest, death, financial ruin and so many other tragedies.

Making Adjustments

When you are experiencing turbulence in your life, you must learn to make adjustments and cut the autopilot switch off. You must take control of the instruments of life and weather the storm. As the storm eventually subsides, your problems will let up because you refuse to give up. You must combat your weaknesses, confront your fears and persevere until you get through your troubles or outlast them.

“Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles, which he has overcome while trying to succeed.” –Booker T. Washington

Develop Your Full Potential

Do you ever question yourself on why you do not reach your full potential? I am certain that at one time or another, you can recall a teacher, a coach or mentor tell you about the great potential you have. It all sounds so promising but oftentimes people do not feel like they have as much potential as others have claimed they have.
Many people struggle with low self-esteem and other mental defective processes because of their past occurrences.

Potential vs. Talent
Potential is not something that sits on the surface as though you can just pick it up and use it. Potential is hidden deep within the crevices of a person’s natural ability called talent. Talent is the natural ability to do things almost as second nature. However, potential is unrealized ability that goes far beyond talent. This simply means that the ability is present but it takes a lot more to first realize it and second, to tap into it. Potential is not easily accessible because it takes believing in yourself to push beyond your failures and disappointments.

Wanting More…

“I feel like I can do and be anything in the world that I want. I see other people far less talented than I am succeeding and enjoying the good life. It is not that I am lazy, but something holds me back from going full steam ahead. It’s become so frustrating, wanting more out of life but not going for it.”

Does this sound like you? You believe that you are different from those who sabotage their success because of an underlying feeling of no self-worth. Your lack of success is not based on incompetence or low self-esteem. It may be that you are among the more talented people with great potential to succeed. However, your challenge is that while you may have a passion pushing you in one direction, you also have other interests pulling you in another.

Less Talented but More Successful
A lack of focus leaves you experimenting in areas that keep you from being as productive. Therefore, you have very little to show for your short-lived efforts. Although there are people out there less talented than you, their advantage is their ability to remain focused by becoming frozen on one goal until success has been achieved. Accomplishment of any magnitude is difficult without follow-through.

Potential Scattered
Your weakness is not the lack of passion. It is just that your energy and attention is scattered. In addition, to compound your situation, you are probably prone to dwelling on ideas constantly and insatiably so that you force yourself out of your previous project leaving it oftentimes undone. Potential means nothing if it cannot be used.

Fix It

To remedy your problem all you have to do is stay emotionally connected to your passion behind your objective. When other ideas and interest comes to your mind, you do not have to dismiss them; categorize them from least to the most important. Your brain is simply craving variety, but you must remember to force focus in order to be mentally stable to continue on your present objective. This will help you realize your greater potential to succeed.

7 Destructive Financial Habits

Money problems can be traced back to a lack of self control. Discover if you operate in any of these seven destructive financial habits.

How can people account for mindlessly spending money, earmarking funds for big-ticket items such as a big screen television or other such items when they complain about being so deeply in debt? On the other hand, let us strongly consider the person who spends money without the thought of how much they actually have to spend. Both of these individuals are robotically controlled by their impulsion to selfishness.

I can respect the person who owes a debt and pays it before they splurge money on themselves, especially when that debt has to do with God, a relative or a friend. I am not undermining the importance of debt owed to department stores or credit card companies as though they should be lastly considered.

Pay Day! Yippee!
Usually when married couples are experiencing financial problems, it is because one of the spouses is looking to spend money just because it’s payday. Payday does not suggest that money is available before bills and needs are taken into consideration. If spouses have this impulse, they are usually in denial.

Who’s to Blame?
They will blame their spouse, their IRS income tax refund for not coming by a certain time; the dog ate their checkbook, and a list of other ridiculous excuses. However, one thing is certain among people that are debt-ridden from their lack of control; they will not fully accept the blame for their problem. Although a person is single and in debt, this characteristic is pervasive with people that continue to repeat the same financially destructive habits. Here are a few indicators that may help you assess if you are one of these people:

7 Financially Destructive Habits

  1. You become unusually happy when you have money.
  2. You start spending money before you get your hands on it.
  3. You become protective and defensive when money is the focus of discussion.
  4. You look at family income as your portion.
  5. You seldom ask about the family bills.
  6. You inwardly think that your spouse is hiding money from you.
  7. You are judgmental on how others manage their money.

These are just seven markers, but I can name more. Some people may periodically slip back into a state of sanity just long enough to get a glimpse of their problem, but not long enough to do something about it. This is when you need to cry out for help without bashfulness.

Now What?
What if you can understand and change 10 of your most common, annoying, puzzling, self-defeating behaviors and habits? If you were unconscious, you would not feel the pain of a cut or the insult of a naysayer. However, if you were completely conscious, you would feel the discomfort and seek to stop the cause immediately.

It is not that you want to cause yourself pain, you just are not always aware of the significance and detriment of your actions. When you are no longer in the dark about your behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs, you will no longer act out of habit. Do not be afraid to examine yourself on a daily basis. If you are fair and honest with yourself, you will not only help yourself, but you may possibly save your marriage or friendships.

6 Awesome Points for Greatness

As I look across the spectrum of a sea of people, I cannot help but notice certain characteristics that seem to stand out among such a vast array of individuals. There are people who I encounter on a daily or weekly basis, some of which I involuntarily engage because we share the same proximity, that all display noticeable traits. What I mean by this is that people have a tendency to wear or carry with them the scent of where they have been and the influence they have been under.

What do you smell like?
If a person’s influence was egocentric, those individuals seem to wear that same self-centeredness. If their sphere of influence was competitive, the individual seems to have a competitive disposition about everything. Nonetheless, what I see in most people is the lack of passion for personal growth.

If the person who influenced them was one who felt that they had learned all there is to learn about their profession or life in general, the person under them becomes stuck in the process of where their leader stopped growing. Because they were trained by someone whom many consider the best in their field, oftentimes, people become condescending toward others, as if their knowledge gained through other leaders is obsolete.

Phil Jackson’s Leadership
I follow sports quite a bit and I consider myself a student of the game – football, basketball, and baseball. One team I am particularly fond of is the Los Angeles Lakers. Phil Jackson is not a good coach; he is considered a great coach. Just because a player played the game of basketball under his tutelage does not make the individual a great player. Most players do not thrive well under Coach Phil’s system; as a result, many are cut from the team.

Six Protégé Points

  1. A player may have played one or two years for the Lakers, under the great Phil Jackson, but that does not make the individual a great player.
  2. One should not assume the posture of “great” because they were trained by a well-known leader.
  3. Never take the name of a great leader onto another team and think that the new coach and players should listen to you because of who you’ve learned from. A great name is a lot to live up to.
  4. Moreover, one should not try to get doors open for themselves by dropping the name of some well-known person because it speaks volume about you.
  5. People who do well under the training and system of a great leader develop the heart of that leader.
  6. It is not necessarily what you have learned that should matter the most, or the person you learned it from; but whether you are illustrating and epitomizing the lessons you have learned.

Leaders, Coaches and Trainers eventually die and systems become obsolete as players become bigger, stronger, wiser and more agile. In spite of this, there is One Leader and system that will never go out of style or become irrelevant, and it is the Greatest of the greatest.

“If you have really heard his voice and learned from him the truths concerning himself (Jesus), then throw off your old evil nature–the old you that was a partner in your evil ways–rotten through and through, full of lust and sham. Now your attitudes and thoughts must all be constantly changing for the better.” Ephe 4:21-23 (TLB)