The Components of a Win

The Los Angeles Lakers have won the 2010 NBA Championship and it was not with style, finesse, or individuality. This Championship belong to the entire team who contributed throughout the season while facing opponents that despised them, critics who could not stand the sight of Kobe possibly winning another championship, while Lebron “King” James fans were wishing it was him instead of Kobe fighting for the win. However, more gut went into this season for the current LA Lakers than any other season before this one. This year, the Los Angeles Lakers team that won the Championship in 2009 came of age.

What were the components that contributed to the Lakers winning the 2010 NBA Championship and what can we learn from it? Some would say Kobe was the contributing factor. I will not deny that Kobe was one of the contributors of this Championship win, but it is impossible for him to be the only component to this team. Every player played an important role in ensuring that the NBA Trophy remained in Los Angeles. However, it was not just the players, Phil Jackson and the coaching staff of this great team; it was the intangibles that transcended individual talent. This June 17, 2010 night, a team won; this night cohesiveness won over talent. Neither a coach nor the players, in any sport, can under mind the power of multiple parts merged and welded into one big whole. Individuality is lost in the residual effects of oneness. The uniqueness of the singleness of thought will always win over strength, statistics and talent. A team of five that fights as one is greater than one team of five individuals who simply play as a team.

In additional to cohesiveness, as being one of the components that helped the Lakers to win the NBA Championship, the next overlooked component was tenacity. Talent alone is good, but talent is not enough when your opponent is just as good as your team is on any given night. Talent will not give you the edge to drive and give that extra push to remain focus at a time whenthere is total mayhem. This attribute is not intermingled with talent. Tenacity lurks in the psyche of an individual that causes them to stay with the game plan despite the mental and physical challenges. Imagine Bulldog doggedness persistence to hold on until it decides to let go. These attributes cannot be found on the stat sheet because they are intangibles, but yet visible. When these two components are active with talent, a team playing as one will grind out a win under any circumstances.

How can these two components help you, your business, church, or family confront and overcome the challenges that oppose your success? Can cohesiveness and tenacity be the missing ingredient in business or church? Emphatically yes! When any group or team performs as individuals, you have a recipe for disaster. Screaming and pointing the finger at teammates during a push to win a game will only perpetuate the problems even more. This is why teams with great individuals never succeed as a team. That includes families, churches and friendships.

People that are involved in churches rarely view themselves as a part of a team. The same goes for employees working with coworkers to complete a task or an assignment. If you are employed by a company or a member of a church or a team member of a local softball team, if you see yourself apart from the team, you will never do your part for the team. GO LAKERS!

Failure to Communicate

Does what you say matter more than how you say it? This is the age-old question that many people have concerning verbal communication. This dilemma seems to arrest people as they are trying to verbalize their feelings in order to get their point across. There is a huge discrepancy between the way people generally process the information they hear as opposed to the way they communicate their thoughts. Factors often exist when there is a breakdown in the communication process that are often overlooked such as culture, ethnicity, education, economics, a person’s mental condition, preferences, etc. These factors should not be undermined as though they are not important to proper communication. If a person desires to get their point across without causing a ruckus, it will prove to be a wise investment of time to learn communication skills. Especially if you are married, where most of your communication battles will occur, this is the ideal dialogue for you.

The communicator’s aim

The person communicating should immediately take into account the aforementioned factors. This is not an assumption of one’s intelligence, but rather wisdom. The communicator’s aim should be to be understood. If a person attends any of my business conclaves, they can easily discern that I do not use big words to try to impress the people in attendance. My aim is not to impress, but to impress upon them the importance of the information given. I like to hold my audiences with my verbal skills not lose them.

Communication Problems in Marriage

When married couples have communication problems, it is usually because they have established a non-verbal communication basis that they have not mastered. Assumptions are made because of previous misunderstanding and therefore instead of clearly communicating their thoughts to one another they give out singles that are rarely caught or understood. If you find yourself often saying, “I thought you meant…,” this response is an indication that you clearly have a communication problem.

A communication problem

Some years back, there was a movie that Paul Newman starred in entitled, Cool Hand Luke. The character Paul Newman was playing was a rebel young man that often found himself in trouble with the law. He ended up in a back-woods prison surrounded by swamp and venomous snakes. The Warden would often inform the prisoners that if they tried to escape, they would both be recaptured and returned to be brutally beaten to serve as a reminder to not attempt to escape again or the swamp would kill them before they could escape to freedom. One day, Paul Newman’s character escaped, but was later captured and returned to the prison to resume his sentence. This is when the Warden spoke the famous phrase, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.” As a young man, I loved the phrase but I did not fully understand it until later in my years. What was meant was if you continue to do the opposite of what is spoken, obviously there is a misunderstanding.

Body langague speaks loudly

Oftentimes, when words or phrases are misunderstood, it is usually because what is said may have a different meaning or connotation to the listener. The second reason for the possible misunderstanding could be, and in most cases is, when what is said does not correspond with the tone and facial expression when it was spoken. Therefore, the person may not have heard what you said because they were engulfed by how you said it. This is a major problem in marriage and sometimes in business board meetings. Identifying the problem is a third of the solution. However, knowing what to do with your new discovery is another part of the solution. Having the humility to place priority on the importance of getting and receiving an understanding, is far better and advantageous than gratifying your frustrations.

Solution

Take your time, be patient, because the person you may be talking to, may have a legitimate hearing impairment. Communication is the basis to life. General verbiage gives you a far better percentage of being understood than speaking in an extra extensive vocabulary that may not impress anyone but you.