Get out of my dreams and live your own!

“Get out of my dreams and live your own!” is the word I have for the thousands of people who are not settled with the fact that their life is worth living as well. Thousands and perhaps millions of people live in a state of disorientation when it comes to determining their own passion. Many people’s passion is based on someone else’s passion because they feel that their life is not interesting enough. These people are like children who are always competing for the attention of their parents or some adult.

One day, I was around a bunch of children that just wanted to say hi to me as though I was some rock star. I was flattered, but I also felt thronged by these children who were all competing for a handshake or a hug. I asked a young boy, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Another little boy quickly interrupted and said, “I don’t know.” Another little boy stared at me as though he was pondering on the question and shouted, “I want to be a fireman.” Immediately, the previous young boy that did not know what he wanted to be, yelled from the top of his lungs, “I want to be a fireman.” The bewildered young boy continued to change his life’s ambition based on what other children were saying because he thought I showed interest in what the others wanted to become. I thought to myself, this little boy has no clue that he was laying the foundation to be very unhappy with his life because for him his dream will never measure up to dreams of others.

Oftentimes, my wife and I would talk about the things we did as children growing up and how we daydreamed about what we wanted to become. She informed me that as a child her lifelong aspiration was to become a nurse. She was so aware of what she wanted to do that she pursued it all of her adolescence and young adult days. When she graduated from college, she no longer had to dream about becoming a nurse because her dream was realized when the Nurse State Exam Board mailed her test results, which was stamped—PASSED. She did not get her dream from someone else; she always knew that nursing would be her life assignment. It is particularly dangerous when a person desires to be someone else because they will eventually become lost in their own mind while trying to live the dream of someone else.

“My mother said to me, ‘If you become a soldier you’ll become a general, if you become a monk you’ll end up as the pope.’ Instead, I became a painter and wound up as Picasso,” said the great painter.

No one ever became great by imitating others. Do yourself a favor—don’t become some cheap copy of a great original. Make your own impression in life. I believe all people are created equal and endowed by their Creator with inalienable rights to be what they are destined to be. I am also persuaded that there is something for you to start that is ordained for you to finish. If you are like most people, who are waiting for the right time, you will discover that time will not wait for you. To only dream of the person you are supposed to be is a waste of the person you are. Claiming to be you while living the life of someone else is double trouble. Living a double life will get you nowhere twice as fast.

Seek to discover your gifts, talents and passion. If you do not have a plan, don’t borrow one until you get one or else you will end up settling with what you already have. Avoid becoming a complete stranger to yourself. Find out your uniqueness and fall in love with it because you are one of a kind. Start with what you have and develop it until there is nothing remotely close to resembling it.

Understanding Your Commodities

Don’t spoil today by worrying about tomorrow. Pressure is not your enemy; it is what is in you that causes you to react to it the way you do. Pressure normally occurs when the flow of something is held up either by the narrowing of the channel through which it flows or when momentum is met with a dead end. If the hindrances persist, the pressure will build until it stops the flow or until the flow violently breaks out under pressure. Pressure squeezes what is in you out of you. If there is a lack of character in you, it will come out under pressure. When life’s pressure pushes you in a corner, the first lesson is to not panic.

Some things may get in your way but they don’t have to stay in your way. Bats are said to live longer for their size than any other animal. They have a life span of twenty years. It has been suggested that the secret to their longevity is their ability to relax and go quickly into the deep sleep of hibernation. Right after fighting, bats can almost immediately slow its heartbeat from 180 per minute to three and it can retard its respiration from eight breaths a second to one every eight minutes. A person under stress needs to study the life of a Bat and practice its habits of rest because it may not only extend one’s life, but also strengthen their psyche.

A woman was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given a short time to live. She and her husband began to live each day with tremendous clarity and love. When it was nearly the end of her life, a friend finally got up the courage to ask the dying woman a question: “What does it feel like to live each day knowing you are dying?” She raised herself up on one arm, and then asked him, “What does it feel like to live each day pretending that you are not?

When life is underestimated, so is the value of time. Moreover, when time is misappropriated, life is simply wasted. Doing nothing is about the most tiresome work in the world because you cannot stop and rest. God may be in control of time, but you determine what to do with it. We cannot recuperate lost time or lengthen the amount of time given to us. However, if we are wise, we can fundamentally know how not to waste it. The law of waste dictates that when something as precious as time is squandered on worrying, it becomes litter or trash. If wasting time was against the law, how many people would be in jail or fined? I do not believe that it is possible during this lifetime to estimate how much time is wasted doing nothing. Worrying is like throwing time away when it could be used for brainstorming solutions.

A young successful attorney said:
“The greatest gift I ever received was a gift I got one Christmas when my Dad gave me a small box. Inside was a note saying, “Son, this year I will give you 365 hours, an hour every day after dinner. It’s yours.”
“My dad not only kept his promise,” he said, “but every year he renewed it-and it’s the greatest gift I ever had in my life. I am the result of his time.”

Time is your most precious commodity; if you spend it wisely, it will not only benefit you but the world as well.

Are You Connected?

What separates the very good from the very best? One of the key principles of life and business is always searching for ways to get better at what you do because it is not how good you are it is how good you want to be. Life has rules and understanding those rules will help you stay in the game of life.

There is a difference between being wise and being smart. Smart people generally know how to do something, but wise people understand why you do it. Wise people may not be as knowledgeable as those who are considered smart, but they realize how to employ the expertise of others to create the wealth they desire. Knowledgeable people are usually the employees of people who operate in wisdom. Wise men and women are accustomed to making the kind of choices that smart people have calculated as impossible. Sometimes knowledge can get in the way of just plain simplicity, confusing the simple as complex. Calculating every move can prove to be a waste of time and it may signal that fear is chauffeuring you around rather than faith.

It takes faith in God, faith in yourself, and faith in your mentors to develop a mental toughness during these ever-shifting economic and speculative times. Confidence does not eliminate or undermine the importance of knowledge; it simply moves knowledge down the list of priorities when it comes to using the appropriate components to accomplish difficult tasks. When you possess an inadequate amount of knowledge or when times do not call for knowledge because the potential of your knowledge cannot be measured or used, as a way to accomplish a particular thing, there is a more useful, intangible ability. There are times when the situation is beyond knowledge that it requires belief in oneself that is predicated on faith; and that faith will find a way to make the impossible possible.

If you are going to be successful, if you are going to accomplish the goals you have set for yourself within the next twelve months, you will be required to transition from one mindset to a greater one that is conducive to handling the explosiveness that your life is going to experience. It is necessary that you be fully committed to your dream. I believe a connection to the right mentor will be the bridge to living your dream. You cannot fake a connection. The sure sign of someone being connected to a mentor will reflect in that mentor becoming the transitional bridge between them existing in life to actually living life. The voice of a mentor is the bridge that allows the dreamer to have access to their dream life.

People, to some degree, have this picturesque ideal life, which many would love to live. Most people have aspirations that they would love not being encumbered with exasperation. Are you tired of living the life that does not match up with the life of your dream? Do you see your dream on one side while your job is on the other side and would want nothing more than to get from the job that you hate to your dream that you love. If this describes you, you need to build a transitional bridge and have a transitional strategy. A proper mentor connection can help you get into the environment of your dream. Success leaves clues while failure leaves you with the blues. There are two ways to learn-mistakes and mentors. Advisors are everywhere. Avoid going after someone who is available; pursue someone who is qualified.

There are three things that must be adhered to that will become the catalyst to your turning point, from what was to what is, and transition your life into high-octane synergistic energy. Remember that in every orange seed is the blueprint for increase, multiplication and/or duplication. Your best work will be on display when you are proactive. Here are the three transitional strategic steps.

  1. Do Not Place New Wine Into Old Wine Skin. (You cannot pour new wine into old wine skin without the acids from the new wine cracking and sipping through. In other words, you cannot get new results with an old way of thinking.)
  2. Water the Seeds in Your Own Personal Life Garden. (Whatever you water grows. Use the books you read as water for your mind. Readers are leaders!
  3. Get Connected and Stay Connected. (Being “appropriately-connected” means a lot in our society. It means everything in nature – it’s a Web of Life. All species and populations in isolation accomplish little. It’s only when they are linked that things begin to happen and ecosystems begin to work.)

The right connection can be the bridge to your success or the wrong connection can be the downward escalator to your demise.