Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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Stop Paying For Excess Weight

excessive-weight-postNow, before you start to think of where I might be headed with this title and you commence to criticize me—thinking that I disapprove of people who are overweight; stop, and do not jump to conclusions. Read the entire article. Personally, I do not make a hobby out of criticizing people who may be overweight or underweight. My aim is to help people establish a strong perception of who they are and to facilitate as they work to build a healthy self-esteem about themselves. The excess weight I am writing about is a person carrying with them all the additional weight of concerns.
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The Secret To Discovering Solutions

solutions-post-630 Are you overlooking the solution by only focusing on the problem? Understanding the origin of life’s situations holds the key to discovering solutions to every problem.

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Disarming Pressure and Stress

stressed-200HOW DO YOU HANDLE PRESSURE OR STRESS? Pressure has a way of disorienting you, scrambling your brain patterns, and causing confusion. If you don’t learn to get a handle on it the moment it appears, the result could be drastic mood swings and destructive behavior patterns.

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Produce Your Own Amazing Comeback: An Excerpt from Dr. Brown’s New Book MAXIMIZE YOURSELF (Coming Soon)

Success is going from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.
~Winston Churchill

comeback-185Winston Churchill’s quote may seem difficult and challenging, but the reality of life is that you are going to experience failure and disappointment in your life, and how you handle it will be the difference between success or permanent failure. The person who doesn’t make mistakes is unlikely to make anything.

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Self-Confidence and its Attractive Nature

What does self-confidence have to do with the law of attraction? Is there a parallel between the two? Does self-confidence affect everything about a person?

Before I answer these questions, allow me to paint a picture for you that should cause you to think concerning yourself, especially if you have ever played any sport where it involves competition. The analogy goes like this…you are a Major League pitcher and the first 10 batters hit a homerun or they get on base. If you were this pitcher, how would you rate your self-confidence, from one to ten and ten being at the best self-confidence level? Do you think that your confidence level would be high enough to finish the game with a win or would you internally battle with your confidence being shaken? If your confidence is extremely low, do you think that your opponent would notice it? Absolutely, yes!

People feel the same sense of anxiety when it comes to sales; the inability to land a date; when you’ve had one job interview after another and no one hires you; and the list goes on. It is at these times when your confidence can be shaken and or inoperable. I have seen people make mistakes with the simplest of things to do, but because they made several mistakes, they became discombobulated. For instance, when I was in the military many moons ago, I was sent to a military leadership school with about one hundred or more guides from all over Europe where American soldiers were assigned. If there was one thing I did well, I knew how to soldier. Being the first in the class to receive a merit instead of a demerit, which everyone receives throughout their training, I was assigned to help one soldier with his marching ability. This may seem hard to believe, but it happens all the time when one’s confidence has been shaken. The problem with this sergeant’s marching came because he thought too hard and therefore he struggled with the simplest of tasks, marching. When a person walks, their arms swing opposite of the movement of their legs, which is the natural swinging motion when walking. Sergeant Blank, whose name I will keep concealed for the sake of embarrassment even though it was over thirty years ago, moved his arms in the same motion when he tried to focus on marching. My first thought about the assignment given by my facilitator was cruel and unusual punishment because I was given a relativity short period to work with Sergeant Blank, which also took up several evenings. However, it proved to be a blessing in disguise.

What was my strategy to get this soldier to do what was natural, naturally? Of course, my assignment was quite amusing to the other sergeants assigned to this leadership school, but not all of them graduated. On the other hand, Sergeant Blank did graduate and later was promoted to the next rank all because of a simple strategy. My strategy was as simple as walking. Sergeant Blank’s problem was not that he could not march like a soldier; his issue was in his head when he had to march like a soldier. I worked on his confidence, not his lack of ability to march correctly. When I tried marching him, I did not succeed and I only became frustrated. Until I realize that his confidence was shaken by everyone yelling and laughing at him, I put a new strategy into operation. I asked him to walk with me and keep up as I walked more in a military form without him thinking about it because I did not speak of marching I was asking him questions about his family and children…things that mattered the most to him. Whenever he would focus on me I would inform him that we were not marching, we are only talking for now. After he became calm and relaxed, we started synchronizing our steps; he was marching without the thought of marching. After a short while I said, “Did you notice that you were marching?” He started laughing with excitement because he discovered his own flaw; he had allowed all of the distracting shouting by his facilitators and laughter from his contemporaries to affect his self-confidence. I informed him that some things do not need your focus, just your cooperation. You do not focus on breathing and yet you have no problem with it. A healthy self-confidence helps you to do the normal things effortlessly and increases your ability to do extraordinary things with an enduring strength.

Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Confidence is a feeling you believe you are capable of doing something and that you are optimistic. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself. However, true self-confidence is not a feeling that you are better than others are. Confidence influences success in all areas of life. As you know, there are other important factors to your success. Some factors are beyond your control but they can be assisted with one critical factor called confidence. However, you must realize how confidence is always crucial for your success. In fact, most people are not confident enough. Self-confidence makes you sociable and likeable and can easily become one of your attractive qualities. Self-confidence will turn you on to life, and if you turn yourself on, rest assured, it will resonate so that you will cause others to become turned on to life as well.

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How to Pull Yourself Out…

How do you pull yourself out of the dumps financially, spiritually, and emotionally when you feel you are so down in it that there seems to be no possible way out of it? I understand how one can feel when it seems that every door you have knocked on has had no response to the urgency of your need. Time does not stand still and neither do people; while life is being slowly siphoned out of you daily as you look for ways to escape the vicious cycle of one disappointment after another. As you attempt to avoid the symptoms of an internal virus, the virus continues to eat away at what progress you may have made. However, the struggle is apparent and the questions you have are still unanswered. You are tempted to capitulate and join the ‘woe is me’ association in hope that you can bury your head and never resurface again.

When you are in a dark hole financially, spiritually, and emotionally, it is easy to feel discombobulated by the frustration and anxiety that comes with feelings of displacement. In times like these, it is important to know that not all who wander in the maze of frustration and disappointment are lost in it. Take advantage of your present situation and think with sobriety and not with anxiety. As calmness settles in, so will clarity concerning what to do. Your life will begin to adapt and reflect the status of your mind. A person who thinks that their life is not a reflection of their thoughts is one who believes they had nothing to do with the unpleasant consequences that resulted from bad choices. Situations are usually not favorable because instead of being active in searching for ways out of them, we sit inactively waiting for someone to rescue us out of our apathy. The degree of responsibility you take for your life determines how much change you can create in it. The actions of a man help to determine his value. Little action results in little value. If a person doubles their action, they will double their value.

As long as you are alive, no situation is truly hopeless. Having a passion for life and a desire to live it to its fullness will ensure that your attitude about it will remain fresh and vibrant. Refuse to waddle in the puddle of discontent, when you can swim in the ocean of vast opportunities. Despite how doom and gloom you feel about your life’s condition or the collision course you feel that you are on with failure, remember, failure is only failure when you have made it your permanent residence. The obvious is that you are not satisfied with where your life is right at this moment, and most people are not. However, rather than waste time and energy complaining and worrying, use that time and energy to wisely and constructively deal with whatever is causing your anxiety.

Many years ago, a young Midwestern lawyer suffered such deep depression that his friends thought it wise to keep all knives and razors from him. During this time he wrote, “I am now the most miserable man living. Whether I shall ever be better, I cannot tell. I awfully forebode I shall not.” He was wrong. He did recover and went up to become one of America’s most-loved presidents, Abraham Lincoln.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” –Viktor Frankl

I know at times you wish you could change your circumstances and how they affect your life and your loved ones, but here is some good news…you can. Everything and every occurrence is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality. Change things mentally, and mentally things will change. Speak to the things you want to change in your life, and your life will change into the things you speak. Jesus said, “…you shall have whatever you say.”

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