How do you think you would do in the area of exercising mental toughness?
It is easy to sit back and analyze another person’s performance, and say what you would do if you were in their situation. The truth of the matter is, if you have never been there or been trained for certain situations, you have no clue as to how you would respond under such severe mental pressure. Sometimes we are unable to change our environment to manage stress – this may be the case where we do not have the power to change a situation. Therefore, a person must learn to adapt and improvise in order to overcome the mental challenges and to have the best possible chance of succeeding. This is only accomplished with training.
A protégé of mine was concerned with a particular problem, and sought my thoughts because his problem needed immediate attention. He said that if he did not make a decision about the matter, it could possibly cost him a considerable about of money. My recommendation to him was to call the company first thing in the morning regarding his concession, and send an email detailing his reasons. After several days had passed, I happened to see him and inquired about his decision concerning his problem.
He said that he and his wife decided to hold off on making any decision and that they would call the company next week. I asked, “Do you think that your problem is going to go away?” He replied, “These things have a funny way of working themselves out.” My response was utter silence and I concluded the conversation with, “Good Day.”
How could people be so naïve as to think that if things are left to themselves they will evolve into something beautiful? That makes as much since as Darwin’s Theory of Evolution. The last explosion I can recall left everything affected by its force in complete ruins. Do you believe in chance?
Are you the kind of person who leaves his problems alone, thinking that somehow they will work themselves out? The person who leaves his or her life to chance simply believes in luck.
Life may hold some unfair advantages for some people if success is considered luck. Fortunately, success yields itself only to the self-disciplined, driven individual who believes that he or she can force their success. E. B. White said,
“Luck is not something you can mention in the presence of self-made men.”
God informed Joshua in the book of Joshua that if he adhered to His laws and was courageous, then he would know good success and would make his way prosperous. No marriage works without sacrifice; no business succeeds without a proven product or service; and no person overcomes their ignorance without information and applied knowledge. Therefore, get your head out of the sand and make something happen.
Lucille Ball once said,
“Luck? I don’t know anything about luck. I’ve never banked on it, and I’m afraid of people who do. Luck to me is something else: Hard work — and realizing what is opportunity and what isn’t.”
What amount are you willing to pay for success in any given area? People want success in their marriage, finances, business, life, etc.; but most are unwilling to pay the price. They would rather have someone else pick up the tab while they enjoy the free ride.
In marriage, one person wants to assume none of the responsibility for making the marriage work, but enjoy all of its benefits. The same scenario occurs with finances and other situations. This is one reason why so many spouses are left holding an empty bag when a spouse has died.
Millions of dollars from potential insurance death benefits are never claimed because the surviving spouse never took the time to know about their spouse’s family business affairs. The spouse enjoyed spending the money but never had the time to learn how to protect it in case of loss.
Various prices have to be paid for any and everything. However, someone has to be willing to pay the price for it. How much are you willing to pay? How much you are willing to pay for something may not be the price others are willing to pay; but the price you are willing to pay determines the value of the reward. No one likes laboring for something while perfectly healthy people, who could have assisted, get to enjoy the results of their labor without having to pay any cost.
It should be understood that not all of us have the same amount of resources, but there should be an equal sacrifice. If you solicit the help of others, you should be willing to help them while they are helping you. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. paid the ultimate price of losing his life for the success of his generation, as did others. Others paid with lost wages, suffered beatings, and had homes burned to the ground. It may not equate to equal amounts paid, but it is equal sacrifice. Help others while others are helping you.