Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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Do You Love Or Like What You Do?

Love your Job textThe title of this post is in the form of a question. I believe that success is the difference between what you love to do and what you like to do. I have never seen or known of anyone who exponentially succeeds at their business, job, or life who didn’t love what they do. I also, have never known of any successful person who didn’t respect his or her time.

There is something extraordinarily interesting to watch a person do what they love doing. On the other hand, there is nothing more disinteresting as to watch a person do what they absolutely feel they have to do without applying any real energy in the process. Success is the difference between loving what you do or simply liking what one does. If life is a bore, then you can believe work makes life that much more boring.

I love waking up in the morning—ready to approach a new day with new exciting adventures waiting for me to experience. I look forward to pioneering new territory and bold endeavors. I can’t imagine what life would be like if I didn’t have a purpose or agenda. When God wakes me up, I get to use the creative ability He gave me to create or to format my day. I discovered the reason successful and creative people love staying up at night to work on ideas as much as getting up in the morning to go back at their project.

I remember sitting in the lobby at the office of a friend of mine, who was on the phone at the time while I was waiting for him. At the lobby desk were two women that stood out to me because there appeared to be such a great contrast between their demeanors and body language. The woman who I assumed was the higher paid secretary appeared more friendly and professional than the other woman who was the receptionist. Sometimes, our tendency is to associate performance with pay grade, but not so in this case.

The person that appeared livelier and more professional about her appearance and how she approached doing her job was actually the receptionist. The secretary looked nice, but every movement of hers suggested she didn’t want to be there. She was bland in her response on the phone, she didn’t greet others with a smile, and there was nothing about her that would make people feel comfortable in approaching her. In fact, I saw one man who seemed to wait for her to turn her back so he could ask the receptionist a question. To me, this would imply that her body language was as intrusive and offensive than someone with halitosis.

After the secretary took me into my friend’s office, I asked him a question about her demeanor. He said, “Funny you would ask that question. My partner and I spoke of moving her to another office with less traffic.”

You see, the receptionist exuded personality and vigor because she loved what she was doing. People who are in business or simply a domestic engineer, if you do not love what you’re doing the odds of you succeeding in that field is slim to none. To love or to like is the difference between surviving and striving. Your energy level will always be low when you don’t want to be somewhere or when you don’t like the job you have. For those who enjoy their job, life, or business, there seems to never be enough hours in a day.

People who like what they do, work to live; people who love what they do, live to work. People who do not understand life and how it works are oftentimes envious of those who do. Low energy people think that the person who is full of energy and excitement about what they do is over doing it and that much effort is not necessary. When you find yourself pondering on thoughts like this, usually somewhere in your subconscious, you believe that all financially successful people are greedy. This is the furthest thing from the truth!

If you don’t love what you do by committing your life and energy to it, it’s not worth doing. When you hear of a house flipper buying houses and fixing them up for a person to buy, it’s not just for the money. People like this will go from one project to another because they love the challenge. Their motivation is to see their creative value put into a dilapidated house that will then cause others to want to buy their work. To love what you do has to have a motivation that is beyond money. Successful people have a motivation to help others, to be creative, and they ooze purpose. A person will work harder for their children and legacy than they will for only themselves.

If you can find joy in your work, it will become more than a job; it will be a daily adventure. If you can change your attitude, which is that small thing that matter, you will be promoted from mediocrity to excellence. Success will always be the experience with the person who loves what they do.

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What is Your Time Worth

MB 7-21-15 TextCan time make you rich or poor? I want you to think for a moment, and ponder on this question. Are you spending your time learning and planning to die or are you using your time learning and planning to live?

I am impressed with the urgency to do. Action is a unique word that I love to see in motion because I become thrilled by the prospect of its results. I am not impressed with just knowing something; it just isn’t enough for me. However, the application of knowledge is captivating. To be willing is not enough; I believe we must be more than willing, we must do. If people will govern the time they have to accomplish the things they truly desire for their future, they will have more time in their future to live the life they really want to live.

It is a well-known fact that people of accomplishment rarely sit back and let things happen to them. This is because they do the inside work first, something transpires within them which causes them go out and generate things to happen for them. All that occurs with passive time, are the things you don’t want to happen.

Children spend most of their time growing and learning as the world opens daily to their senses. Young people spend time searching for ways to live and enjoy life. Aging people usually stop growing and learning, and have little to no interest in searching for ways to live life, because they’ve decided the only thing remaining for the aging is to sit and wait for time to close their eyes forever. When time is spent, eternity begins. Waiting is procrastination stealing your time away. No matter how old you are, time is available to use wisely.

Living with purpose is the act of living on purpose. In other words, you have a reason to get up every morning with the anticipation that something good awaits you. You view your alarm clock as your opportunity clock alerting you of the time you have for that day. Time stays long enough for anyone who will use it. If you spend too much time thinking about doing something, you will actually end up wasting the precious time you have to do it. Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than they do trying to solve them. Life becomes more challenging when you are actually engaged in the effort, and not primarily with the results.

Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. Believe you me, when your time used wisely converts to dollars and fulfillment, it becomes worth it for you. When you value your time, you will do something with it. You will not allow others to steal it from you, nor will you give it away to undeserving people who don’t value their own time.

Think about this for a moment; your time is your life. Time is nothing but years, months, weeks, days, hours, minutes, and seconds gifted-wrapped as a precious present given to humanity, and it’s called life. The only difference with this gift is that it is not a surprise you know exactly what’s inside. The only issue which can possibly exist is your ignorance of knowing what to do with it. There is nothing that cannot happen today in the allotted time you have.

We all have dreams. But in order to turn dreams into reality we need to turn time into effort. Your life and dreams are like a garden which requires patient labor and attention. Plants do not grow merely to satisfy ambitions or to fulfill good intentions, they thrive because someone took the time to expend the necessary effort on them.

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Missing “U”

missing-u-postIt has been said, that if the letter ‘U’ were removed from the alphabet, the English language would lose over 3000 words. In defining what I believe is a critical element of creative, effective writing; I think about the famous quote from “Animal Farm”: “All words are equal, but some words are more equal than others.” Out from among the top ten most powerful words one can use in the English language, is one word that stands supreme. However, before I say what this word is, let me suggest to you that if the letter ‘U’ were absent from the English language, it would point to how psychological and indispensable some things are.


There are certain power words that hold more influence over our decision making process than others. Words like ‘Free’ or ‘New’ are powerful and they often influence the guiding principle for why we buy items. However, when it comes to a person’s name, especially in print, there is a wow factor that comes into play.

There is a word that I believe is unequivocally more powerful and equal than others, as was said in the movie “Animal Farm”, and that word is ‘YOU.’ Most people would rather say ‘You’ over ‘I’ because the ‘you’ word takes all the responsibility and/or focus off of them. The amazing power behind the word ‘you’ is that it could refer to anyone. When it is used in a speech or in copywriting, the word is so cleverly used that it causes a person to take stock of what is being shared.

Think of statements like; You are powerful!, You can do it!, You are amazing!, You can be great!, You can be rich!, or You are my hero!, etc. Can these words help facilitate a more powerful sense of self? Absolutely.

They say that people are dispensable and can easily be replaced. However, a person is indispensable and can never be replaced. People refer to plural, but a person is singular. You are so important to the natural balance of this universe, that if you were not here, millions of incidents would be missing from history. Think for one moment of how many people you have touched during your lifetime, how many lives you have inadvertently inspired, or the difference you have made in the lives of children. You may never know in this lifetime how people were touched by your life or words, or how many business ideas or inventions you may have inspired. It would be staggering how many lives would be different today if you were missing from the mind of God.

You are important, you are necessary, you are great, and if you feel that you are not, just think retrospectively of people in your life. Some people wouldn’t be married had you not introduced them to each other. The movie, “It’s A Wonderful Life” with James Stewart is one of my favorite movies, and it shows how important one single life can be on this Earth.

So when you think that you are insignificant, remember how many words would be missing if the letter ‘U’ was removed from the alphabet.


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