Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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The Discovery of Your Life’s Primary Purpose

Primary PurposeIs it too late for me to discover my life’s true purpose?

There are two primary reasons why I believe most people live their entire lives in the dark concerning their true purpose. Oftentimes, these reasons compel them to go on a futile search. There is no chance of finding what they are looking for while they are under their old mental regime. Not only are many of these people making constant blunders with their lives, but they find themselves always moving from one job to another or from marriage to marriage because their inward compass is out of balance. Life for these people is one big earthly laboratory experiment, and they seem to be the guinea pig.


One reason a person is unable to discover their true purpose is that they mistaken what they like to do for their primary purpose, when in fact it is their sub-purpose in life. The second reason is similar to the first, they are unwilling to give up searching among places, peoples, and religions believing that these entities are the most likely places one can find his or her purpose.

Bruce Lee, one of the greatest martial artists that ever lived was once asked by a master martial artist to teach him everything he knew about the martial arts. Bruce Lee held up two cups, both filled with liquid and said, “The first cup represents all your knowledge about the martial arts, and the second cup represents all my knowledge about the martial arts. If you want to fill your cup with all of my knowledge about the martial arts, you must first empty your cup of your knowledge of the martial arts.”

Perhaps, you may not understand the cost of self-discovery. However, one thing for certain is, it will come at a price of surrendering all the knowledge you once deemed necessary, even though these experiences made you who you are today. If you want to learn about what your true primary purpose is in life, you must empty yourself of all the false purposes you’ve been taught. This includes the idea that you have no purpose at all.

You cannot be yourself until you know yourself. So, while you are in search of the ‘who’ and the ‘why’ of your being, life is in constant transition. I know how it feels to harbor thoughts of wanting to do one hundred different things to define your purpose, but you just can’t seem to come across the one simple thing you want to do more than anything in the world. Sometimes, the mental block exists because self-knowledge can be painful and we prefer the gratification of an illusion. If most of us remain ignorant of ourselves, it is because we want to.

Can I help you? The low road to take is to simply ignore any intuition that life holds for you more than just a job and a family. The high peak of knowledge is perfect self-knowledge, that you believe you are not a mistake, and that you are wonderfully and uniquely created by your Creator for His purpose. God never creates mistakes, we are simply mistaken. There is no self-definition without God-recognition. To know God is to have a revelation of God. It may display wisdom to know others, but it is enlightenment to know one’s self.

I want you to do something that you might consider quite odd. I’m asking you to do one exercise that can probably help you easily discover your purpose in life. It is important that you understand that despite the games played with others, we must not play games with ourselves. We only get one try at life, and there is actually no room for error. Experiments are too costly and it is an ongoing expense. So, if your life and future seem dark, get some white paint and brighten it up. This is a good place to start.

My suggestion to you is to get a blank sheet of white paper and write as the header, “My Life’s Purpose.” Underneath the header start to write a list of things that matters most to you about what you believe your purpose is. Don’t over-think, just start listing things. The one that makes you happy is a substitute, but the one that breaks you down and reveals your compassion is most likely to be your purpose.

Your life is a novel, but your purpose is a novelty. A novel is a fictional prose work with a relatively long and often complex plot, usually divided into chapters or episodes, in which the story traditionally develops through the thoughts and actions of its character(s). However, when you consider a novelty, it is something new, original, and different that is interesting or exciting, though often for only a short time which no other person will have the same privilege of assignment.

Life holds purpose and it should be touched to release its meaning, not strangled until you kill it. Life is supposed to work fluently, despite the bumps and turns, highs and lows; for these are all a part of life’s obstacle course. Therefore, when your purpose is discovered, its treasure is worth more than life itself.


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What is Your Attitude When Things Go Wrong?

Wrong Attitude
When Things Go Wrong…
Perhaps you are like me, feeling as though you have heard all the clichés about how you should watch your attitude when you are going through unfortunate and tough situations. These expressions sound good, but when you hear phrases such as, “Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things are, think about how good they can become” or “attitude is everything”, you just want to slam the person who says it. Nevertheless, the truth of the matter is that your attitude does play an important part in how you will go through those tough times.

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Back on Track

Sometimes you don’t realize how far you have gotten away from the things you use to do and the person you use to be, until you look back to see how far off track you are.

Train on Track
Train on Track
Sometimes you don’t realize how far you have gotten away from the things you use to do and the person you use to be, until you look back to see how far off track you are.

Train tracks are designed to take a train to a particular designation. The train is designed to travel only on railroad tracks. The train cannot take short cuts, it cannot cut through fields, and the train cannot change its course without the conductor. Even if the conductor changes the direction of the train, the train maintains its position on the train tracks. If you see a train going down Broadway in New York, you will know that the train has been derailed. Continue reading “Back on Track”

How Cleaning Your Closet Can Help You Break Bad Habits

Messy Closet
Messy Closet
Are you embarrassed by the disgraceful state of your closet? Do you quickly throw things inside and slam the door, hoping that the closet’s entire contents won’t come crashing down? Are you secretly hoping someone will come and straighten out your mess so that you will not have to personally deal with what you have created—giving you a fresh start? What does your cluttered closet have to do with the state of your mind?

Whether you are an inveterate procrastinator, a junk food junkie, or a perennial job hopper, I believe the first step to breaking any bad habit is to clean up your clutter. If your closet is messy and unorganized, your thoughts probably are too—so start small and work your way up to the big stuff. If you are interested in being successful or starting a business and you do not have enough time to read twenty books, first sit down and determine in your mind and heart what you really want to do. Once you have made your determination about your future, you are then in the captain’s seat.

There is no elevator designed to take you to the success floor; you have to take the stairs. One-step at a time towards the goal line of accomplishment is the difference between dreaming about success and living it. Usually, people are looking to increase their bottom line when they have not yet figured out why the line is at the bottom. Being organized is the initial way to ensure success, but having no plan is unquestionably a way to kill your dream. When you organize your thoughts, it is an indication that your life is organized as well.

Let me give three important principles to help you succeed in business, increase your job performance and even make your life better. These three principles can easily become actionable and will produce immediate results, if they are used appropriately.

  • Discover if the sky is the limit for your dream business or if it’s the top of your closet.
    Most people end up putting their dreams on the shelf because they were unwilling to exit their comfort zone.
  • Develop the skills to become your own “Think Tank.”
    It is a good feeling to accept money generated by your thoughts. However, it is a better feeling knowing how to make your business or life work for you.
  • Visualize yourself as a mover and a shaker.
    In the 1970s, Lee Iacocca became the man to champion the Ford Mustang when it was considered by the Ford Corporation to be held in limbo. He was later hired by the struggling Chrysler Corporation, whose federal debt was nearly a billion dollars. In 1983, Lee Iacocca wrote a check for the Chrysler Corporation in the amount of $813,467, 500 to clear their federal debt and he became a premier business innovator to this day.

I REFUSE TO BE AVERAGE! #IR2BA

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