Control Your Environment for Success

Control Environment MB TextHave you ever felt a sense of hopelessness about a situation in your life or felt completely powerless to change your circumstances? Well, welcome to the club! Anybody who has ever thought of attempting anything worthwhile, has at some time in their life, looked up at a huge mountain of things to do, which seemed beyond their reach to complete. This viewpoint leads many people to never set goals, for fear they will not score.

People often approach me with the thought of starting a business, but they are quickly discouraged when they discover the amount of paperwork which must be completed, or the funds which are necessary to begin. Having a desire to start a business or to author a book is not motivation enough to propel a person to not only start, but also complete the endeavor.

Government agencies encourage people to pursue government funds which are offered to serious people. Bureaucratic red tape is a deterrent only to those who are not serious enough to pursue much-needed assistance, which may be offered to the general public through start-up business grants or low interest loans. As a result, their dreams will usually come to a squelching halt because they did not take into account how laborious and painstaking it is to start a business.

Listen to me! You do not have to be dissuaded or shoved around like some rag-doll by fear. You can discover the power to stand up to the bully of success, which is fear, and never feel powerless again. Feeling powerless and being powerless are two different positions, and feeling powerless does not make it so. The impediment standing between you and starting your dream endeavor, is not the lack of knowledge or money; it is simply the apprehension that it may be too hard or too much of a price to pay. Therefore, failure is the mental image which must be changed before you will ever believe you can set your dream in motion.

People have gone to great lengths to protect their emotion of fear so that in the eyes of relatives, friends, and associates, their personal image is not tainted. They want people to see them as powerful and daring. Therefore, they lie and shield their fears with anecdotes and excuses to direct the focus away from them. In truth, they are frightened of challenges and they have chosen to sit back in the comfort of mediocrity. Don’t look to manage your fears, learn how to cripple them before they cripple you.

People do not drown because they cannot swim; they drown because they believe they cannot swim. If a person drowns, it is because they panic and fight the water until they are completely exhausted. Afterwards, their bodies float to the top. You do not have to drown in order to float on top of water, you can simply decide to relax (be at ease) and you will find yourself floating. When people lose the fear of something, they can learn to master it; but as long as fear dominates a person, the thing they are fearful of will dominate them.

I would like to think that I am interested in wanting the best for people I love and mentor, especially those I am intimately engaged with on a daily and weekly basis. However, my nurturing image of what many of them can become, and the things I believe they are capable of accomplishing is oftentimes in conflict with where they have chosen to settle instead of pursuing their highest aspirations.

Stop living in fear and start fearlessly living. Life is short and filled with frustrations, disappointments, and failures. On the other hand, life is inundated with contentment, pleasures, and fulfillment. Failure and disappointment do not define you; they are designed to refine you.

My friend, it is how you see it. Frustrations can become advantageous, disappointments can become fulfilled appointments, and failure can be replaced with success. The choice is yours! Choose today, how you are going to live the rest of your life. Remember, how you live tomorrow is determined by the things you do today. Decision Determines Destiny!

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What We Have Is A Failure To Communicate

Communication1Does what you say matter more than how you say it? This is the age-old question that many people have concerning verbal communication. This dilemma seems to arrest people as they are trying to verbalize their feelings in order to get their point across. There is a huge discrepancy between the way people generally process the information they hear as opposed to the way they communicate their thoughts. Factors often exist when there is a breakdown in the communication process that are often overlooked such as culture, ethnicity, education, economics, a person’s mental condition, preferences, etc. These factors should not be undermined as though they are not important to proper communication. If a person desires to get their point across without causing a ruckus, it will prove to be a wise investment of time to learn communication skills. Especially if you are married, where most of your communication battles will occur, this is the ideal dialogue for you.

The Communicator’s Aim:
The person communicating should immediately take into account the aforementioned factors. This is not an assumption of one’s intelligence, but rather wisdom. The communicator’s aim should be to be understood. If a person attends any of my business conclaves, they can easily discern that I do not use big words to try to impress the people in attendance. My aim is not to impress, but to impress upon them the importance of the information given. I like to hold my audiences with my verbal skills not lose them.

Communication Problems in Marriage:
When married couples have communication problems, it is usually because they have established a non-verbal communication basis that they have not mastered. Assumptions are made because of previous misunderstanding and therefore instead of clearly communicating their thoughts to one another they give out singles that are rarely caught or understood. If you find yourself often saying, “I thought you meant…,” this response is an indication that you clearly have a communication problem.

A Communication Problem:
Some years back, there was a movie that Paul Newman starred in entitled, Cool Hand Luke. The character Paul Newman was playing was a rebel young man that often found himself in trouble with the law. He ended up in a back-woods prison surrounded by swamp and venomous snakes. The Warden would often inform the prisoners that if they tried to escape, they would both be recaptured and returned to be brutally beaten to serve as a reminder to not attempt to escape again or the swamp would kill them before they could escape to freedom. One day, Paul Newman’s character escaped, but was later captured and returned to the prison to resume his sentence. This is when the Warden spoke the famous phrase, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.” As a young man, I loved the phrase but I did not fully understand it until later in my years. What was meant was if you continue to do the opposite of what is spoken, obviously there is a misunderstanding.

Body Language Speaks Loudly:
Oftentimes, when words or phrases are misunderstood, it is usually because what is said may have a different meaning or connotation to the listener. The second reason for the possible misunderstanding could be, and in most cases is, when what is said does not correspond with the tone and facial expression when it was spoken. Therefore, the person may not have heard what you said because they were engulfed by how you said it. This is a major problem in marriage and sometimes in business board meetings. Identifying the problem is a third of the solution. However, knowing what to do with your new discovery is another part of the solution. Having the humility to place priority on the importance of getting and receiving an understanding, is far better and advantageous than gratifying your frustrations.

Clarification of a Solution:
Take your time, be patient, because the person you may be talking to, may have a legitimate hearing impairment. Communication is the basis to life. General simple verbiage gives you a far better percentage of being understood than speaking in an extra extensive vocabulary that may not impress anyone but you.

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If Others Can Succeed, You Can Do It Too!

MB Text 3-29-2015There are certain myths and beliefs about why some people seem to overcome life’s struggles, and somewhat thrive through the ranks with such ease. I’m not talking about those who inherited money from their great or great, great grandparents, but rather the people who had humble beginnings and tragic upbringings, yet whose gifts or talents opened many doors for. In comparison, there are millions of people with great abilities who are smart and intelligent, yet it seems as if life is passing them by.

When you hear and read the stories of people who have risen out of humble or poor conditions such as Michael Jordan, Mark Zuckerberg, Oprah Winfrey, Howard Schultz, Russell Simmons, Earvin (Magic) Johnson, John Paul DeJoria, and others who have come from low income lifestyles only to rise to the lifestyles of the rich and famous; You can almost believe to a large degree that maybe there are people who had a little extra gold dust sprinkled on them at birth.

These are some of the people of which 90% of us look at as being super- human, or as having some special gift that most people in this world just don’t have. Perhaps, they sold their soul to the devil in exchange for wealth and success. Now, as outlandish as this may sound, some people will accept this as a reality to justify why they just can’t seem to get over the hump.

Well, let me tell you the truth. Not one single person has any more ability to succeed in life or business than you. Life doesn’t have to be hard; it has to be functional and purposeful. You have to add meaning to your life; and goals, dreams, and vision are one way to add significance. Some people excel at life and business and some don’t – which one are you?

Contrary to popular belief, there are no codes to crack, safes to pick, or mysteries to solve. All that is required is to understand that the so-called-secret hidden behind a successful life, is diligence. You have to know what you want, and you have to want it bad enough to go for it regardless of the sacrifices it demands. Sometimes, the only thing blocking you from reaching your goal is the one thing you have a difficult time letting go. So, what’s blocking you?

“Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.”
~Napoleon Hill

When people come to me about what they would like to do with their lives, I usually try to get them to make the decision to start the journey of reaching their goals before they find an excuse they can believe. If you give them a ‘What if it doesn’t happen’ scenario, you will have just reduced their dream or goals to an excuse. The excuse would prove to be just what they were looking for, because the demands may be greater than their desire. There is no room in my life for excuses—every space is occupied.

If you want to be a winner, change your philosophy about what it requires now! If you think you are totally incapable of owning and running your own business, then make that your goal. Why? It’s hard to keep score without a goal. Life needs adventure, excitement, and challenge; without these you’re just waiting for the grave.

Did you know that you only have today to get tomorrow right; but you cannot use today to correct the wrongs from yesterday? Belief in yourself and in your God-given abilities is a premium. Real confidence and empowerment is not determined by knowledge. Knowledge is from the past, which means it is safe but outdated. Why? Because what got you here, won’t get you there!

Some knowledge conflicts with originality and innovation. Knowledge is experience, and most people wish they had avoided most of the experiences they’ve encountered during their lifetimes. Experience can be an inhibitor to your success because it is built on solutions to old problems and situations. If you have the knowledge you most likely will use it again. Experience is the opposite of being imaginative and resourceful.

Find your true authentic self, and you will discover your hidden treasure. However, if you continue to search outside of yourself, you will only seek to be a cheap carbon copy of a great original.

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Encouragement: The Essence of Cool

cool-postTo be encouraged is one thing, but to maintain encouragement is a whole different ball game. It is important to realize that whatever got you where you are usually isn’t enough to get you where you’re going.

This is a very important lesson to learn because oftentimes people have the propensity to think that doing the same thing initially done is important to maintain. However, trying to maintain the same motivation factor to propel you to a higher attitude and mindset level is inadequate for the new struggles ahead. For instance, married couples have a tendency to think that their marriage will always be the same and that their love will never be challenged because they are sooooo in love. LOL.

The young couple’s level and intensity of love for one another is wonderful if you are considering that most couples start their marriage with borderline infatuation. Honeymooners are not thinking about the challenges ahead because in their mind, love will conquer anything that comes their way. Nah! Love, like any other form of expression starts off in its seed form. Love grows from being tested, stretched, and proven. Young couples may have the love for one another, but do they have the patience to endure the little idiosyncrasies of one another that can wear on one’s patience over time? With the divorce rate being higher among the ages of 23 to 43 than any other age group, it exposes the essentials needed to expand love, and maintaining it is being ignored. Nothing left to its self will work itself out, contrary to popular belief.

To maintain encouragement is the epitome of cool. Staying cool under pressure is an art form. Its foundation is confidence, being personally persuaded and convinced that regardless of how something looks, your outcome will be favorable.

Giving encouragement and living encouraged are two extremes. Oftentimes, the encourager receives just as much inspiration from giving encouragement as the person receiving it. One of the key components to maintaining encouragement in a situation where you feel as if you are under tremendous pressure is finding someone to encourage. I believe it was Celeste Holm who said, “We live by encouragement and die without it – slowly, sadly and angrily.” All things are subjected to one thing—change, so do not give in when you know things are always changing.

Children are one of the best sources of encouragement. The way children are is that they will find a play time in the midst of some of the most unfavorable situations and laugh regardless of the circumstances. However, most adults are just the opposite. They will find every reason to focus on the negatives about a situation, only to use it as an excuse to complain and surrender in the fight.

Being encouraged means you never stop fighting until the change you desire occurs, and you will find every reason why you should continue fighting until you do.

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Four Steps To Help You Move On When Critics Want You To Stop

criticism-postOnce you make the decision to go all out and make something happen, all the components of various materials conspire to make it happen, and every naysayer and malicious person connives to block it from happening.


Opposition usually doesn’t rear its ugly head until a person is serious about achieving the goals of their life. Have you ever noticed those you were so were true friends, remained so, until you made a decision to move your life in a positive direction which did not include them? All of a sudden your so-called-friend was trying to sabotage your success by giving you every excuse they could think of, in hopes it would influence you not to continue in your personal pursuit of living your dream. They are discouragers not encouragers. The personal interest of this type of person is not to promote someone, but rather to secretly demote them in subtle ways.

I cannot recall a time when I was the brunt of a joke, as much as when I was twenty-three years old preparing to end my time of service in the United States Army. A group of constituents and close acquaintances came together to throw a farewell celebration for me. However, it turned out to be more like a Dean Martin Celebrity Roast Night. Some cracked jokes and laughed about my exiting the military. They laughed about me having no prospects for employment, and they sentenced my future to be as one receiving public assistance and eventually finding myself back in an Army uniform after my dreams had crashed. Nevertheless, they were wrong.

They were wrong for two reasons. One, I never had any doubt or apprehension concerning my decision to get out of the military;…and two, I did not set out to prove them wrong and to prove to them I could make it without big Uncle Sam watching over my shoulder. Sometimes, a joke can be a cover for how someone truly feels about you and the decision you are making with your life. With today’s cell phone technology, you can text a joke to a person about him or herself, and then put LOL on the end; and they may not ever catch the person’s true intent.

When a person makes every attempt to bring you down, it is because they are already beneath you. So, don’t get mad, get glad…because at least you have something for them to joke about. How else can they laugh? Their life is so miserable they need something to laugh about just to keep from crying.

Do you know what you want to do? You should never try to figure out who you are—you should be settled on that. A bird doesn’t try to be a cow and a horse doesn’t attempt to act like a dog. Their internal instincts cause them to habitually be what they are, just as your internal instincts should stir you into who you are. The problem that exists with human beings is most people are only interested in changing who they are to be accepted by their critics.

At the end of the day, be solidified on who you are and not on what others want you to be. Don’t lose sight of your personal desires just because someone does not want to see you succeed. Below are four steps for moving on when the voice of your critics seems to get louder each minute.

1. Don’t respond to your critics.
You know you are paying too much when you are paying attention to your critics.

2. Don’t give up on your dream.
You can stop your day job, but don’t stop your day-dream.

3. Don’t stop your perseverance.
Usually a person discontinues in their perseverance when they anticipate a problem before there is one.

4. Give no credence to how many times you didn’t succeed.
Instead of looking at one failure after another, you should have amnesia after each failure. You can survive by forgetting.

These four basic steps are all that is needed when you are pursuing your goal. Remember it takes little effort to bend over and pick up the fruit that has fallen from a tree, which in most cases, is already rotten. However, it takes pushing, believing, creativity, and stretching to get the best fruit from the top of the tree, which is usually the juiciest. Do you want to bend over for the rotten things in life which are the leftovers no one wants, or are you willing to fight for the best things in life which only a few ever strive to attain?

When you apply these four steps as you engage a non-constructive critic, you will eventually end up winning after losing their bad advice.

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Avoiding Contradictions

contridictionsPeople who recognize me when I’m out and about usually like to stop me to ask a question or two about a concern of theirs. Typically the first thing to come out of their mouths is a brief resume on who they are and what they’ve done. Well, one young man was telling me about how he is going to start eating right and taking care of his body. He spoke about what another person told him about vegetables and the benefits of eating them on a daily basis. So, he said, “I’m killing myself with my bad eating habits.” Then he said, “I have to go outside and have a cigarette.”

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Building the Life of Your Dreams

Low standards will always equate to poor quality.

~ Dr. Mikel Brown

your-dreamsAre you overscheduled and under rested? You can improve the quality of your life with the right strategies to free up time for what you really want to do. There are different ways to overcome goal-challenging weariness and accomplish your objectives, which may seem like shortcuts to reach your goals. However, they really aren’t shortcuts at all. These so-called shortcuts are simply better avenues and methods of doing something when you were originally using the long version or the wrong technique.

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Why Are They Laughing?

People Laughed
People Laughed At Me…
When I told my friends my dream, they laughed! And, boy did they laugh, until they saw what I achieved.

I discovered that there are more people who will laugh at your dream when you talk about it than there are people who will laugh at your attempt to achieve it; but no one will laugh when you accomplish your dream.

The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing. Like most people, it is extremely more comfortable to talk about doing something than it is to actually do it. It costs you more than you ever anticipated spending to live your dreams, than it does for you to get a job. A person who is willing to live on less to achieve their goals understands that they have more to live for.

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The Challenge of Perseverance

...you should see the loser!
There is but one major quality that works alongside of one’s faith. I regard this quality as being most greatly associated with success, whatever the field. It is the quality of persistence. Determination to endure to the end after facing horrific and discouraging situations, demonstrates perseverance.
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Job, Career, or Entrepreneurship

Have you ever said, “I need more money”? Before you spend another dime read what I have to say about creating more money.

Before You Spend A Dime On More Gas to Deliver Pizza for Extra Income, Read what I Have to Say!

“I need more money, and the only way I know how to get it without stealing, is to get an extra job!” said Fred.

Worrying about Money
Money Worries

I know how frustrating it can be when you have more month at the end of your money than money at the end of your month. Oftentimes, people are confused and unbelieving when it comes to creating ways to increase their income without having to get a second job or receiving a hefty pay raise. I am not saying that an extra job is not a viable option; I am simply pointing to the fact that there are other alternatives to increase your income without the added stress load. Besides this, employers are not passing out huge pay raises to people except to their top executives. Let’s face it; working yourself to death is not the answer for increasing your income. And, even if you were successful at increasing your income by working extremely hard and or having two jobs, you probably will not be around long enough to enjoy it. There are two ways to increase your income.
  1. You chase money until you have caught up with it, which makes you work harder.
  2. You learn how to attract money and make it work for you, and work smarter.

You make the choice. Get a job or create one.

There is a powerful scripture in the Bible that can unequivocally be a booster for one’s self-confidence, if they can believe it. This verse has empowered me to create the kind of opportunities to multiply my earnings by producing streams of income. This Bible verse does not pacify the self-helpless person because it places the ball in the individual’s court to produce actionable results to improve one’s income. For me, this is a self-help verse.

Deut. 8:18 But remember the LORD your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth… (NIV)

Hundreds of millions of people have subliminally placed making money as some special gift that only a few exclusive heavenly endowed people have. Therefore, the person who accepts this philosophy as being true has already viewed their nominal salary as the motive to insert them in the average and ungifted category. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Rather people believe in their intrinsic ability to make as much money as they want to or not; based on this Bible verse, every human being has the impregnable gifting and right to create or produce wealth.

Playing dumb is not going to better your situation, nor is sticking your head in the sand to avoid the obvious going to make your financial woes disappear. People who think that they have money problems are sadly mistaken; their actual problem is not money, it is the lack of information and belief in their God-given ability to create wealth. In order to stop this infectious supposition from permeating the next generation, I believe parents have a responsibility to instruct their children and embed the belief in their psyche of their inherent ability to make and manage money, so that when they become young adults they are already ahead of the money making curve.

I both challenge and desire to change the way millions of people around the world think about producing and increasing wealth. There are viewpoints that often contradict conventional wisdom, mine is one of them. The first step to income multiplication is to believe that income multiplication is possible. Go ahead and take the first step. Then the inevitable will come into view.

Watch for my next blog post as I reveal FREE simple solutions to increase your income potential. #IR2BA (I Refuse to Be Average)

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