Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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Unsolicited Consequences

MB Text 7-26-2015 (Consequnce)What are consequences and why can they be fatal?

A consequence is something that follows as a result. Consequences can be good or bad, however, it is the relation between a result and its cause. If it is a negative result, it means a previous action resulted in an unpleasant or difficult outcome. There’s one thing about consequences – we all pay them.

Can you recall a time where you’ve personally said or done something for which you felt the consequences were unwarranted? No one ever complains and wonders why good things are happening to them, but most people are usually very confused as to why negative consequences occur. Negative consequences would never materialize without them first being paid for. Every consequence is paid in advance.

Now I believe, there is a cause and effect, and a ripple effect for everything everyone does, and those actions can have positive consequences as well as negative. Everyone has to make their own decisions, however you have to be able to accept the consequences without complaining. A person’s acceptance of what has taken place is the first step toward overcoming any unfortunate consequence. Everything has positive or negative consequences, and I can’t repeat this enough.

Sometimes, tremendous consequences come from what we sometimes consider to be little or insignificant decisions or actions. When the results seem to have a more devastating effect, I am tempted to think there is no such thing as little decisions or actions. On the other hand, small actions and decisions can also result in gigantic results.

“I never looked at the consequences of missing a big shot… when you think about the consequences you always think of a negative result.”
–Michael Jordan

Most youth never take into consideration the consequences of their actions until it is too late. How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it. Is it possible to get in the way of someone’s consequences for an act they committed? Nothing is free in this world; either you pay your own consequences or someone else does. Choices made, whether good, bad, or indifferent, follow you forever and affect everyone in their path one way or another. Some of a person’s emotional scars can be the result of another person’s emotional pain. Hurt people; hurt people.

The way I avoid, as much as I can, the foolishness of someone else’s actions, is to mentally be aware of their capability. It’s similar to making a conscience decision, while you’re driving, to drive for the other guy as well. When you see someone swerving back and forth on the road, stay a good distance behind them or they may inadvertently cause an accident for you.

Without reflection, we blindly go on our way, generating more unintended consequences, and always falling short of achieving anything useful. The actions we take and the decisions we make in this waking moment will have consequences reaching far into our futures. It doesn’t matter if we don’t mean to do the things we do. It means nothing if it was an accident or a mistake. It doesn’t even matter if we think this is all up to fate. Regardless of our destiny, we still have to answer for our actions; and our consequences are those answers.

We all make choices, big and small, every day of our lives, and those choices have consequences. Everyone is going to eventually sit at the table and eat the meal of consequences. However, you can personally be totally engaged in the effort to ensure that the consequences you eat daily, are good and beneficial, as the result of you making sure your actions and decisions are calculating consequences worth paying for.

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Just Do It

Mb-text_1 If you want more out of life, discover your inherent potential. Within this writing are hidden tips on how to discover your potential, which will allow you to make a dent in the universe. If you find them, they will make you wise; overlook them, and you may remain unproductive. Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything.” However, Edison went on to hold more than one thousand patents and invented some world-changing devices, like the phonograph, practical electrical lamp, and a movie camera.

People who truly succeed in life are those who don’t just do their best, they just do it! Your best efforts will never secure your success. It takes more than effort, it takes passion.

Wasted talent and ability is the humiliation of humanity. The worst thing a person can do is have such great potential but so little confidence. The lack of confidence is a by-product of how a person sees him or herself, especially during times of extreme pressure, frequent letdowns, and difficulty. Pressure in life exposes the weaknesses in the armor, which causes cracks and breakages when people wear the face of pretending to appear strong. It is extremely easy to hide behind the thin paper veneer of words, but words without history are simply chatter without power.

What is a person’s invaluable commodity? What makes a person great and their personality standout? Is it because he or she is funny or because they are smart? I would love to say these are important qualities of a self-assured person, but this is not usually the case. Many smart and funny people are undisciplined and irresponsible when it comes to performing on the grand stage of life. Life often produces challenges which reveal our ability or inability to handle timidity. What is actually absent from the majority of people with great potential, is personal leadership or mentorship. Avoiding a person who can possibly help channel your strengths and diminish your weaknesses, is a waste of your commodity.

Believing that simple effort is effective in accomplishing a person’s goals, may reveal that you are the kind of person who usually takes short routes which lead to nowhere. Millions never reach their full potential because they choose not to maintain their posture of discipline. While a few people do realize their dreams, the young and the goalless have reclined in the comfort of their frail attempt at realizing theirs.

In other words, they liquidate or reduce their God-given ability to weak efforts that are only produced from feeble attempts. Potential is the intrinsic ability one might have, which for whatever reason, they have not come to realize. I am convinced that most of us are content with just trying to live better lives, instead of living better lives.

Force yourself to establish habits that are conducive for you to produce the life or business you want. To reach your full potential or to get close to fulfilling it, you must unlearn many of your bad and unproductive habits. Your chief deterrent, inhibitor, or restraint, is the lack of passion—I mean having a deep fervor to not become a narrator of your dream, but the architect of it. Potential is the full intrinsic capacity which constantly expands a person’s ability to do more than what they may think they are capable of.

Let’s figure out other reasons why these talented people spend their wheels and end up nowhere. Maybe, just maybe, we can awaken the giant within, and cause these giants to rise. Most people have been tutored and motivated to give their best efforts in school, sports, and other activities. However, many of us lack the encouragement that we are more than capable of consummating any goal or task. Therefore, our ability is not limited, but our knowledge is.

Effort points to trying your best to do something even though you don’t reach your full capacity. Humanly, we rest on this premise of effort, only to secure the feeling that we gave it our best shot. Unfortunately, your best shot usually proves to be inadequate for the task. People who do not realize their potential will be satisfied with their efforts and promote their efforts over their potential.

The people who usually claim they are never able to get over the hump, are the ones who are simply afraid to push themselves to step over the hump and experience what they can really do. In other words, the time, energy, and resources needed to push hard to realize or to reach their goals, is too much of a price to pay. They want others to pay the price, but they want to collect the dividends.

Oftentimes, what hinders many potentially great and powerful individuals, are their predetermined limitations. The reason for this dominance of fear, is taught restrictions. Whether these restrictions were learned voluntarily or involuntarily does not matter because regardless, they are very real. Efforts are learned limits, while potential is unlimited.

Never ever settle for getting close, while never finishing. I fully believe potential can only be realized if God is placed in the equation. When you accept God’s divine image in your life, you will never settle for reaching a goal line when you know winning requires that you cross over it.

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Uncompromising Dedication

dedication-postWhat is your level of dedication? Is dedication necessary for success? If so, how dedicated should one be if they are going to succeed? Can a person succeed with half-hearted dedication? The answer is yes, if the task before them requires little or no dedication. However, if the challenge is daunting and extremely difficult, which in most cases are the battles worth fighting; it will take everything in a person to succeed.


Dedication can never be categorized as a neutral void in the middle. You are either dedicated or you’re not; there is no in-between. Dedication is vital for success in anything you do, but especially in whatever your ultimate life pursuit may be.

Dedication is determined by the hours upon hours spent honing in on your craft. A professional athlete understands that the game they play is so competitive, and the margin for error is so slim, that if they are not dedicated to improving themselves to perform at the highest level of their game; they will not last long playing their particular sport. As great as talent is, it is not always enough to succeed. Another person’s natural talent may be greater than yours, but their heart and dedication may be diminutive.

I would love to tell you there are shortcuts to succeeding in life, business, or whatever sport you may be presently engaged in, but the truth of the matter is there are none. If success is what you genuinely want in life, it must, [not should], be pursued with a phenomenal amount of fortitude and dedication. Don’t misunderstand me, winning isn’t everything, but it is the most desired outcome for a goal oriented person, or any competitive athlete who is actually driven to succeed in life or business.

Dedication involves courage which is the gap between knowing the right thing and doing it. You really don’t choose courage and dedication; it chooses you because of your undying devotion to succeed in whatever the mandate laid upon you. It is an empowering decision to stand and fight rather than run; to persevere rather than quit. Dedication is refusing to overlook a difficult challenge standing in your path to prevent you from reaching your goal and choosing to move forward rather than remain stagnate.

What is dedication? It is a very strong mental and emotional support for, or loyalty to someone or something or a cause. It is not a desire to conquer or rule another person; instead, it is a deep intrinsic desire to conquer oneself and defeat one’s own fears. I believe and have often said people are generally one quality decision away from accomplishing any goal, achieving any personal desire or obtaining anything they want in life.

Dedication is not only an undying devotion to a particular cause or purpose, but a commitment to thrive and live out ones determination despite the cost. It is not the process of deciding to try or pursue something until it becomes difficult. The person of a dedicated quality mindset, who lives by their personal convictions, is no longer flexible concerning their life assignment; however, they may be flexible concerning their methods. Without preparation and attention to detail, one’s actions will not amount to courage. It takes courage and dedication to push through the difficulties of life and to maintain a positive mental attitude. Some people may not understand your relentless drive to do what you do on a daily basis, but they will appreciate it.

John is the kind of guy you love to hate, though not in a bad way. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!” He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing his style really made me curious, so one day I went up to John and asked him, “I don’t get it. You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” John replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, ‘You have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes, it is,” John said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.”

I reflected on what John said. Soon after, I left the Soar Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I decided to choose life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that John was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, John was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw John about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied. “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Would you like to see my scars?”

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon to be born daughter, “John replied.” Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.

John continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read ‘He’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

“Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said John. “She asked if I was allergic to anything.” ‘Yes’, I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Gravity.’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead’.” John lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of the amazing attitude that he embodied as a result of his dedication to being a positive person. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully, however, dedication is required.

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