Handle Your Business And Make Life Happen

MB Text 5-24-2015 1(Handle Your Business)How do you handle being offended? Are you easily offended by the truth, unsolicited advice or offended by a lie? How you handle an offense is most likely how you handle everything else in life. Oftentimes, when a person struggles with offense it is demonstrative of a lack of character.

Some people think they are strong and can handle correction or misfortune, but in most cases, their skin is slightly thicker than a thin veneer of cosmetic make-up. I learned early on that life is full of rules, policies, and systems. When any of these have been violated or misappropriated, correction has to be made by the violators if they want their lives to turn for the good. You won’t always get things right the first time, but you have to keep working at it until the correct system or pattern for doing something is discovered.

There are no shortages of opportunities to make a living at what you love; there’s only a deficiency of resolve to make it happen. It’s odd how people can get upset with everyone around them when they struggle with trying to accomplish something, as if everyone else is the chief cause of them getting something wrong.

Allen Iverson, one of the NBA’s great small guards, said that after making bad choices as a young NBA star, and no other team wanting him after he was released from his previous team, he penalized his children and wife as if they were the reasons for all his misfortune. In other words, he treated them badly because he found himself offended by other people’s rejection of his lifestyle, thinking he would be more of a hindrance than a help to their teams.

Sometimes, people carry in their minds a sense of entitlement because of their talents or abilities. They act or behave however they please, as if there are no consequences and others have to concede to them because of their ability to perform well in their gifted areas. Get over yourself! There are thousands of people who can do exactly what you can do, if not better. Balance your emotions and target your anger in the right direction. Make the necessary adjustments and refocus your efforts to not just develop your skills, but your character as well.

Never let life, or others’ opinions, impede on your ability to manifest your dreams. On the other hand, don’t be closed to correction and advice which can help you overcome the hurdles of pride and a false sense of confidence. Dig deeper into your dreams and deeper into yourself. Believe that anything is possible, and make it happen. This cannot, and will never happen, until you learn how life works. You cannot break the rules and expect the status quo to become your own opinion. You’ll never win at life if you don’t know how to play by the rules.

Just because you are struggling, it does not mean you are failing. Every great success requires some type of struggle to get there, even if it’s just learning something you were never trained to do. If you sit back and never do anything, you will never achieve anything. It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed on your first, second, third…or fiftieth attempt. All that matters is that you learn something, get back up, and do it again, until you learn the correct way of doing it.

Accomplishing something brings a good feeling, but achieving it after you almost gave in to failure, or when nobody else thought you could accomplish it, brings an awesome feeling.

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Managing Your Emotions (Pt.2)

If you have not read Part One of this article, I suggest you read the first part of “Managing your Emotions Pt. 1” before reading this part.

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Every person will experience various problems, with no exceptions. You need not think that your problems are unique and feel like the Lone Ranger. Problems or troubles are the bare necessities of life. Either you have a problem, you are the problem or you live with the problem. Having problems do not develop your character, as some would say; it is what you do while experiencing them… this is how your character is revealed. You cannot always stop dilemmas and difficulties from occurring, but you can certainly stop being the root cause of it.

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My Incredible Self

Psychologists claim that the number one problem that people constantly confront is how they think about themselves. Are people actually wrestling with the concept of understanding themselves? To say the least, people generally illustrate the level of their self-esteem by how much they attempt to change their outward appearance rather than focusing on their inner self.

How you feel about yourself should be 10 percent exterior, and 90 percent interior. A person’s house can look immaculate on the outside, but unfortunately, people do not live outside of their homes. Feeling good about yourself begins with how you feel internally about you. If you place all your stock on your exterior, your self-esteem is actually unhealthy.

What if you gained 50 pounds or more or crashed into an on-coming vehicle while driving your car, and your face became severely scarred; or your health quickly deteriorated, leaving you physically incapacitated? Since how you feel about yourself is based mostly on your physical appearance, if any of these three things occurred, it would drive your self-esteem in the basement.

I am not suggesting that the exterior does not matter; but what I am alluding to is that you have a natural propensity to give more credence to a part of yourself that does not equate to your inner most recesses. Who determines if you are unattractive, weak, or worthless? It certainly cannot be other people; because they don’t live in your skin. You determined that how you feel is the way you are. This is the furthest from the truth. Your feelings (emotions) are the imagination (pictures) of your thoughts. Change what you think, and your feelings will shift as well. Do not simply think of yourself as incredible, believe that you are incredible; and thus, you will live an incredible life.

An Excerpt from Marianne Williamson, “Our Greatest Fear”

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
  • Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
  • It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
  • We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?