Give It Your All Or Don’t Do It At All

Giving it your all textWould You Like to Discover Why a Poor Black Youth Became a Billionaire?

More progress and opportunities in life are forfeited by half hearted efforts than one can ever imagine. Something is deficient in a person’s character when they relapse into obscurity when what they are pursuing doesn’t happen fast enough. This can easily cause the average person to become cynical and skeptical of opportunities. In fact, their cynicism reveals itself in their behavior and lack of drive. They become nonchalant or casual in their efforts because they’ve lost hope of anything ever happening favorable for them.

Sustained success will never come to those who are casual in their endeavors. And, if you are in a hurry to be successful, you will inevitably end up making one blunder after another. Whatever you do, it has to be intentional and purposeful. Choose the battles worth fighting and only fight if there is benefit involved. Learn to take your time. Success is always in walking distance. You either have to give it your all, or don’t give it at all.

If you do something half-heartedly, you have more of a chance of losing both whatever you want, and the possibly yourself in the process. You can’t allow fear or apathy to dictate to you because they can cause you to miss out on living your best life. If you’re going to have a chance at succeeding, you have to give it your all, despite the challenges. Oftentimes, failures are experienced by people who give up before realizing how close they are to success.

I’ve discovered that just knowing something isn’t enough; you have to apply the knowledge. To be willing may sound admirable, but this is not enough; you have to employ action to make things work. You must become the change you want to see. Unless you change, nothing will change around you.

One of the greatest weaknesses in life is giving up. The most certain way to succeed in life is always to do it just one more time when something doesn’t work. Do not fear mistakes because God specializes in turning mistakes into miracles. The only way failure can actually exist is if a person is no longer willing to get up. People with options are usually those who anticipate failure in what they are doing, so they run to the next endeavor before they fulfill the expectation of the first.

How do you kill a man with a dream—give him another one. It is easy to give into distractions when your dream doesn’t seem to be working out. Most people struggle with perseverance and would rather capitulate to the circumstances than fight for their dream. It was George Burns who said, “I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love, than to be a success at something you hate.”

What you want to do, and what you can do, is limited only by what you believe you can do. Your dream, your business, your family, and your life must be valued enough to lose the fear of opposition; you must work hard and do whatever it takes to achieve success in these areas. This is how you will grow.

There are only two categories of people—the ones who will give their all and the ones who admire the ones who will give their all. Those who give 50%, also give 50 excuses why something can’t be done … Those who give 100%, just do it.

When challenges create a need for me to step out of my comfort zone and exert more energy than I might be willing to give, I consider how preserving beyond them will benefit me more than the discomfort. I could easily come up with 50 reasons why something can’t be done, but how is that productive? It’s always better for me to just do it!

Michael Jordan was not born with a silver spoon in his mouth. He did not have extra gold dust sprinkled on him at birth. He had the same possibilities as anyone else—he just had a greater desire to succeed than most. After being cut from his high school basketball team, he learned a valuable lesson. If you are going to succeed in living your dream, it’s going to take more than talent…it’s going to take you giving your all.

It’s not as important to know how he became a billionaire, as it is important to know why he became one. The why always exceeds the how! Therefore, whatever you do in life; whether it’s playing sports, being a student, a janitor, or working as the manager of an assembly line, if you can discover the why you want something bad enough, the how will manifest with ease.

Whatever you do in life, give it your all or don’t do it at all. It’s not worth doing, if your heart is not in what you’re doing. If You Want More Out Of Your Life? Give It Your All, Give It Your All, Give It Your All!

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Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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Control Your Environment for Success

Control Environment MB TextHave you ever felt a sense of hopelessness about a situation in your life or felt completely powerless to change your circumstances? Well, welcome to the club! Anybody who has ever thought of attempting anything worthwhile, has at some time in their life, looked up at a huge mountain of things to do, which seemed beyond their reach to complete. This viewpoint leads many people to never set goals, for fear they will not score.

People often approach me with the thought of starting a business, but they are quickly discouraged when they discover the amount of paperwork which must be completed, or the funds which are necessary to begin. Having a desire to start a business or to author a book is not motivation enough to propel a person to not only start, but also complete the endeavor.

Government agencies encourage people to pursue government funds which are offered to serious people. Bureaucratic red tape is a deterrent only to those who are not serious enough to pursue much-needed assistance, which may be offered to the general public through start-up business grants or low interest loans. As a result, their dreams will usually come to a squelching halt because they did not take into account how laborious and painstaking it is to start a business.

Listen to me! You do not have to be dissuaded or shoved around like some rag-doll by fear. You can discover the power to stand up to the bully of success, which is fear, and never feel powerless again. Feeling powerless and being powerless are two different positions, and feeling powerless does not make it so. The impediment standing between you and starting your dream endeavor, is not the lack of knowledge or money; it is simply the apprehension that it may be too hard or too much of a price to pay. Therefore, failure is the mental image which must be changed before you will ever believe you can set your dream in motion.

People have gone to great lengths to protect their emotion of fear so that in the eyes of relatives, friends, and associates, their personal image is not tainted. They want people to see them as powerful and daring. Therefore, they lie and shield their fears with anecdotes and excuses to direct the focus away from them. In truth, they are frightened of challenges and they have chosen to sit back in the comfort of mediocrity. Don’t look to manage your fears, learn how to cripple them before they cripple you.

People do not drown because they cannot swim; they drown because they believe they cannot swim. If a person drowns, it is because they panic and fight the water until they are completely exhausted. Afterwards, their bodies float to the top. You do not have to drown in order to float on top of water, you can simply decide to relax (be at ease) and you will find yourself floating. When people lose the fear of something, they can learn to master it; but as long as fear dominates a person, the thing they are fearful of will dominate them.

I would like to think that I am interested in wanting the best for people I love and mentor, especially those I am intimately engaged with on a daily and weekly basis. However, my nurturing image of what many of them can become, and the things I believe they are capable of accomplishing is oftentimes in conflict with where they have chosen to settle instead of pursuing their highest aspirations.

Stop living in fear and start fearlessly living. Life is short and filled with frustrations, disappointments, and failures. On the other hand, life is inundated with contentment, pleasures, and fulfillment. Failure and disappointment do not define you; they are designed to refine you.

My friend, it is how you see it. Frustrations can become advantageous, disappointments can become fulfilled appointments, and failure can be replaced with success. The choice is yours! Choose today, how you are going to live the rest of your life. Remember, how you live tomorrow is determined by the things you do today. Decision Determines Destiny!

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What We Have Is A Failure To Communicate

Communication1Does what you say matter more than how you say it? This is the age-old question that many people have concerning verbal communication. This dilemma seems to arrest people as they are trying to verbalize their feelings in order to get their point across. There is a huge discrepancy between the way people generally process the information they hear as opposed to the way they communicate their thoughts. Factors often exist when there is a breakdown in the communication process that are often overlooked such as culture, ethnicity, education, economics, a person’s mental condition, preferences, etc. These factors should not be undermined as though they are not important to proper communication. If a person desires to get their point across without causing a ruckus, it will prove to be a wise investment of time to learn communication skills. Especially if you are married, where most of your communication battles will occur, this is the ideal dialogue for you.

The Communicator’s Aim:
The person communicating should immediately take into account the aforementioned factors. This is not an assumption of one’s intelligence, but rather wisdom. The communicator’s aim should be to be understood. If a person attends any of my business conclaves, they can easily discern that I do not use big words to try to impress the people in attendance. My aim is not to impress, but to impress upon them the importance of the information given. I like to hold my audiences with my verbal skills not lose them.

Communication Problems in Marriage:
When married couples have communication problems, it is usually because they have established a non-verbal communication basis that they have not mastered. Assumptions are made because of previous misunderstanding and therefore instead of clearly communicating their thoughts to one another they give out singles that are rarely caught or understood. If you find yourself often saying, “I thought you meant…,” this response is an indication that you clearly have a communication problem.

A Communication Problem:
Some years back, there was a movie that Paul Newman starred in entitled, Cool Hand Luke. The character Paul Newman was playing was a rebel young man that often found himself in trouble with the law. He ended up in a back-woods prison surrounded by swamp and venomous snakes. The Warden would often inform the prisoners that if they tried to escape, they would both be recaptured and returned to be brutally beaten to serve as a reminder to not attempt to escape again or the swamp would kill them before they could escape to freedom. One day, Paul Newman’s character escaped, but was later captured and returned to the prison to resume his sentence. This is when the Warden spoke the famous phrase, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.” As a young man, I loved the phrase but I did not fully understand it until later in my years. What was meant was if you continue to do the opposite of what is spoken, obviously there is a misunderstanding.

Body Language Speaks Loudly:
Oftentimes, when words or phrases are misunderstood, it is usually because what is said may have a different meaning or connotation to the listener. The second reason for the possible misunderstanding could be, and in most cases is, when what is said does not correspond with the tone and facial expression when it was spoken. Therefore, the person may not have heard what you said because they were engulfed by how you said it. This is a major problem in marriage and sometimes in business board meetings. Identifying the problem is a third of the solution. However, knowing what to do with your new discovery is another part of the solution. Having the humility to place priority on the importance of getting and receiving an understanding, is far better and advantageous than gratifying your frustrations.

Clarification of a Solution:
Take your time, be patient, because the person you may be talking to, may have a legitimate hearing impairment. Communication is the basis to life. General simple verbiage gives you a far better percentage of being understood than speaking in an extra extensive vocabulary that may not impress anyone but you.

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The Balance of Success

MB Text 7-12-2015 (Balance Success)Faith is the power link to every seeable impossible desirable endeavor you may encounter. If balance is the key to life, then, faith is the power of life, and patience is the virtue of life. It is quite easy to talk about how one’s life needs balance; but how to achieve it has escaped the majority of people.

Achieving balance can be difficult because it involves knowledge, wisdom, tenacity, and action, and some people may lack adequacy in one or more of these qualities. In your Bible, the book of James says that we must not be hearers of the word only, but also doers of the word. This is where the problem comes into the equation. Most people are good at hearing to a degree, but lousy at doing. Balance, then, is formed out of sound and unbiased advice and guidance from a creditable source, and then immediately made actionable.

Faith is the power of life because it produces the ability to be tenacious. Power is power; it has no alternative to its strength and supremacy. Faith rests in its own pool of authority, and it is the force behind every movement and action. Patience is the virtue of life. It is the quality of character and the strategy to winning. Patience is needed in order to qualify the balance in one’s life, or else everything will be done in life without forethought and purpose.

Since most people are good at hearing instructions but terrible when it comes to follow through, failure is frequently inevitable. Balance is not leveling every quality off to the same degree; it is placing the importance on each quality regardless of its magnitude. When balance is achieved, it looks like the display on an equalizer component. Therefore, perfect harmony is realized because balance has been accomplished. This kind of action results not only in life becoming manageable, but also in success as being practical. There is nothing more attractive to God than a breathing faith.

Your life is at its finest when you become entrenched and completely invested in the effort but unattached from the results. I realized how difficult this can be, but it’s possible. This is the place where you are intimate with your personal power because you realize that the expedition and the exertion are important. There is a place you arrive where you must draw a line in the sand and let go of that something which has to lead you to a new position, or to a certain person loving you, or it has to lead to you making a lot of money. When your desires are discombobulated or targeted towards you feeling better about yourself, you actually become disempowered by making the goal the consummate.

I believe the goal has to do with the process itself. In reality, the end is inherited in the means. Who you are when you put forth the effort is more important than what you want to become at the end of your effort. If you are totally convinced you have nothing left in you after your effort, how can you not be content with the outcome?

Understanding the balance to success is not winning every battle or achieving every goal. It is what knowledge you are to acquire, or what skill you are to develop, or what corrections you are to make from each skirmish or attempt at something, regardless of the outcome, so that you are more prepared for the next endeavor.

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Handle Your Business And Make Life Happen

MB Text 5-24-2015 1(Handle Your Business)How do you handle being offended? Are you easily offended by the truth, unsolicited advice or offended by a lie? How you handle an offense is most likely how you handle everything else in life. Oftentimes, when a person struggles with offense it is demonstrative of a lack of character.

Some people think they are strong and can handle correction or misfortune, but in most cases, their skin is slightly thicker than a thin veneer of cosmetic make-up. I learned early on that life is full of rules, policies, and systems. When any of these have been violated or misappropriated, correction has to be made by the violators if they want their lives to turn for the good. You won’t always get things right the first time, but you have to keep working at it until the correct system or pattern for doing something is discovered.

There are no shortages of opportunities to make a living at what you love; there’s only a deficiency of resolve to make it happen. It’s odd how people can get upset with everyone around them when they struggle with trying to accomplish something, as if everyone else is the chief cause of them getting something wrong.

Allen Iverson, one of the NBA’s great small guards, said that after making bad choices as a young NBA star, and no other team wanting him after he was released from his previous team, he penalized his children and wife as if they were the reasons for all his misfortune. In other words, he treated them badly because he found himself offended by other people’s rejection of his lifestyle, thinking he would be more of a hindrance than a help to their teams.

Sometimes, people carry in their minds a sense of entitlement because of their talents or abilities. They act or behave however they please, as if there are no consequences and others have to concede to them because of their ability to perform well in their gifted areas. Get over yourself! There are thousands of people who can do exactly what you can do, if not better. Balance your emotions and target your anger in the right direction. Make the necessary adjustments and refocus your efforts to not just develop your skills, but your character as well.

Never let life, or others’ opinions, impede on your ability to manifest your dreams. On the other hand, don’t be closed to correction and advice which can help you overcome the hurdles of pride and a false sense of confidence. Dig deeper into your dreams and deeper into yourself. Believe that anything is possible, and make it happen. This cannot, and will never happen, until you learn how life works. You cannot break the rules and expect the status quo to become your own opinion. You’ll never win at life if you don’t know how to play by the rules.

Just because you are struggling, it does not mean you are failing. Every great success requires some type of struggle to get there, even if it’s just learning something you were never trained to do. If you sit back and never do anything, you will never achieve anything. It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed on your first, second, third…or fiftieth attempt. All that matters is that you learn something, get back up, and do it again, until you learn the correct way of doing it.

Accomplishing something brings a good feeling, but achieving it after you almost gave in to failure, or when nobody else thought you could accomplish it, brings an awesome feeling.

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Learning To Manage Distractions

MB Text 5-17-2015 (Distractions)I have heard many people call the times we live in, the age of information. This may be true to a large degree. While we are living in precarious times, new information seems to be quickly outdated. The more informed the public becomes, the more problems seem to exist, brought about by the new information. In fact, the greater the technological advancement the more distracted we become.

I call this age, “The age of great distractions.” People are rarely able to maintain any focus today, and the medical field has documented this. A.D.D., better known as Attention Deficient Disorder, is rocking both the young and aging of the Western World, making stakeholders of pharmaceutical companies supplying the drugs for treatment, very wealthy.

It used to be common culture for everyone to read the newspaper on the subway train while going to work. Advertisements were posted on city streets and in shopping malls, etc. Now a large majority of the population, seemingly everywhere, can be found with their heads buried in their mobile devices scanning the internet, their emails, Twitter accounts, and Facebook. If this is not the age of distraction, I don’t know what is.

Technology is the base cause for an increase in traffic fatalities in the United States, because texting and driving has proved to be just as deadly as drinking and driving. So although technology is good, it breeds other problems that arise as a result of new information. The faster the newer products, and things made more convenient, the more complex our problems become.

I was driving past a High School that had recently released its students from class. When I looked at the youth leaving the building, over half had their heads buried in their cell phones. Can you believe that a child walked into the street without looking and nearly got hit because he was reading something on his phone?

These are just a few examples. There are other distractions which also make it difficult to get any real work done on the job. Computers have taken all the thinking ability of humanity, leaving most Americans scatterbrained and unable to figure out or solve problems on their own. Rather than deriving from a person’s heart, the media influences dreams and ambitions via movies, advertising, and periodicals, distracting people from their true purpose.

How do you distract a man with a dream? Give him another one. People are moving from one career to another without realizing what is creating all this movement without motive. People are getting college degrees in business management, yet pursuing jobs in healthcare facilities. One person I’m familiar with moved from working as a logistics manager to a car salesperson, from that to a healthcare facilitator, and from that to a Wal-Mart employee, all in two years.

If you don’t learn to do one thing well, you will not be able to do anything well enough! Watch out for distractions because they are seriously looking to pull your attention elsewhere.

Seriously consider that your ability to get focused, and stay that way, is more than just an advisable thing to develop and nurture—it’s a decisive aspect of your success or failure. Getting things done the right way and on schedule is absolutely imperative. Staying keenly centered is the key to getting things done, because you learn to work smarter rather than harder.

Take advantage of opportunities to develop ways to help yourself stay focused at work, school, and even in your daily life, by managing your distractions and reducing the possibility for procrastination. This will help you eliminate most setbacks and delays so work is not merely thought of, but actually completed.

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Failure In Business Or Life Is Not An Option

failure-option-postIn life, business, or anything else I decide to do, I refuse to accept failure as an alternative. It can be quite difficult for some people to understand what I’m sharing in this blog, but I assure you that by the time you finish reading this article you will agree with this most simplistic approach to viewing disappointment or things when they do not go according to plan.

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Resolve Or Dissolve

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You either expand or you become expendable. You have to decide to live your passion or else it will be easy to become distracted? Have you committed to developing a winning strategy to cultivate greatness? No person can reach his or her full capacity without being committed to achieving it. Success should not be measured in terms of perfection, which can hardly be sustained, but rather by progress.

When your endeavors fail to attain a status of flawlessness, progress should be the expected outcome. Improvement is insignificant gain when your goals are enormous. Therefore, focus on realistic goals with their foundations settled in your passion, which is fueled by your inspiration. Avoid setting goals which are easily achievable. In fact, you should not set your expectations so far out of reach that you would need wings to get there.

Believable goals are far better than inconceivable ones. The evidence of commitment is what drives the athlete to perform at their personal best when they have to play extra endings of baseball, shoot one more basketball in overtime, or fight one more round when it appears they are losing the fight. You should not be overly concerned with winning by a landslide, just winning. Your aim should be to beat average, not succumb to it.

Being victorious in any area of life, whether by a large spread or an inch, is still winning. Let’s face it; there are no short cuts to success and it never goes on sale. Oftentimes, people want to achieve success at basement bargain prices without investing their time, energy, and resources. My friend, you must discover what is so personally valuable to you that it unleashes the fight in you. It must be that thing which makes you lose yourself in the moment of someone’s audacity to try to take it from you. You growl at the challenges, as a female dog will growl when strangers are trying to take her pups.

Regardless of how you hear others talk about how dreadful the economy is, the rising divorce rate, and the humongous loss of jobs, do not allow these individuals to weaken your defenses. Yes, negative occurrences are all around us, but it doesn’t mean they’re in us. You should not allow yourself to become contaminated with the misdirection of others and lose your dedication. Continue to fight for your dream of a wonderful marriage, a successful business, and a powerful and fulfilling life. If you can discover your passion in life, it will begin to spill over into other areas of your life.

How you view your circumstances and disappointments is important in determining to whether or not you will muster up the strength to go at it again. I cannot overemphasize the value of a failed attempt. That’s right; I said there is value in failure. How else can you learn to persevere if you never experience the kind of challenges which test your resolve and tenacity to fight, until accomplishment has been achieved? Discouragement is not fatal and failure is not final.

The more you fall short of your goals, the more you learn concerning what not to do. The reward of success is capitulated only to those who persevere over failure. Therefore, do not use failure as a reason to quit, but the motivation to go at it harder than before. Your failures can only make you smarter and privy to information you would not otherwise have accumulated.

All the rewards of life are beyond the comfort zone of convenience. Here is a remedy for being cantankerous and just plain irritable about life’s situations. Instead of trying to force yourself to pretend you are cheerful about the circumstances which are seemingly getting the best of you, take a real-life approach to fixing the whole matter. I discovered circumstances do not truly create moods; people do.

Your frame of mind is not preconditioned to circumstances, which cause your emotions to become erratic. People have simply learned over time to associate emotional responses with certain occurrences. Our thinking patterns are involuntarily forced into emotional responses based on the consistent images which suggest behavioral responses. It takes years of seeing these mental images which are conducive to producing reactionary responses without forethought. Therefore, it is not so simple to act as if you are happy about things falling apart in your life, which would normally cause an emotional shift.

Are you ready to hear how you can change your seemingly predisposed behavior? Count your blessings or they do not count! You might respond here with a resounding “What?!” I know you thought the remedy to controlling your emotional mood was a more complicated process. On the contrary, the answers to much of our problematic situations are discovered in simplicity.

Count Your Blessings. If you are only considering how bad your situation is, think of how much worse it could be. There are more things working in your favor than are working against you. When you begin to count your blessings, you will notice how the good far outweighs the bad. Therefore, thank God! Complaining about your circumstances will not fix them; it will only exacerbate them. If however, you count the good things which can come out of a bad situation; your emotional response will be favorable rather than negative. Try it; it works.

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Why Do What You Always Wanted To Do?

wanted200When will you be ready to live the life you really believe you were destined to live? When will you finally decide to get up from your slumber and get on with the business of losing weight? When will you go back to school and get the college degree you always wanted to earn, or start that restaurant with your proven family recipes, or even open that merchandise store?


It is a travesty when I hear all the stories of people who found and used every excuse to avoid reaching for that one thing they always wanted to do. I can only imagine how it must feel to arrive at the end of your life, and realize how much you cheated yourself out of your best life. I say, I can only imagine because I decided over thirty years ago, I will only die once, but I get an opportunity daily to reach for my goals, to go to places others only dream of, and to enjoy the life I have. Why would I want to be stagnated by others whose only desire is for me to be as underachieving as they are?

I make no apologies for the amount of money I make, the best hotels I’ve stayed in, the cars I drive, the many books I’ve written, the famous and wealthy people I’ve met and spent time with, the amount of money I’ve given to religious charities, …the list goes on. And, I will continue doing these things and reaching for more until I have exhaled my last breath.

Why not go for it? Why not do all you believe God has placed in you to do? What are you afraid of? I believe one of the reasons why most people are so sad and unfulfilled is they have not figured out their happiness is attached to their purpose. I asked one middle age woman once, when do you feel you are at your happiest? To my surprise, she said when she is crocheting. When I looked at all the creative designs she has crocheted, I was amazed. In fact, I actually purchased several from her. I asked her if she ever thought of selling them since it could help her with the extra income she needed. She said she had only thought of giving them away. I replied, that sounds noble, but did you know the thing you love to do most is designed to feed you? Therefore, your labor of love is supposed to support you financially. She later took my advice, started selling her crocheted quilts, and averaged an additional $1400 a month in income.

Why stay miserable, settling for a life you know brings you no joy at all? Don’t give up on your dream because that would mean you’ve given up on life. You have so many awesome intrinsic qualities. Don’t sentence your life to a life of mediocrity because a few years have passed without you accomplishing anything worthwhile. Get up, and refuse to sit on a couch of ease. You shouldn’t want to stay in your house with your window shades down, blocking the sunlight; hoping someone will come by and spend some time with you in your misery. In case you haven’t noticed, you may be deliberately trying to make other people feel responsible for you making a decision to do nothing with your life.

I understand it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the threat of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine? Stop suffocating your dream under the pillows of discouragement and disappointments. Both of these are a part of life. Haven’t you heard all success begins with failure? If you never give yourself the chance to fail, you will never reap the rewards of knowing how to get up again.

Let me tell you a story about John, a young man who really loved to run. John lived in a small town with a population of approximately 15,000 people, along with a couple of hogs and cows. John ran about three to four times a week. He didn’t do it simply to stay in shape; he did it because he loved it. At the ripe old age of 87 years, John decided to run the marathon hosted in a large city located about 220 miles away from where he lived. John first started entertaining the thought of running the marathon when he was about 55 years old, however, he was too busy making a living to take care of his family. He kept putting it off, and putting it off, although he would runs for miles for enjoyment. At seventy-five years old he decided he was going to enter the marathon, but his wife fell ill. Several years later, John’s wife died. John continued to walk and run for miles during the course of a week just to stay in shape.

One day, John’s only son came to visit him and told him about the marathon kicking off in two months. John thought for a moment and sighed, “I’m 87 years old; what can I do at my age?” “Dad, you are in better shape than most 40 year olds. Why don’t you go for it?! I took the liberty and signed you up.”, John’s son said. John said, “I always wanted to run a marathon, but I’m too old now and it will take too long for me to finish.” His son said, “Dad when I was only 10 years old, you taught me one of the greatest lessons of all, when you spoke to me about finishing last in a race.” You said, “it matters not how long it takes to finish what you’ve started, what matters is that you finish.”

So at 87 years old, John fulfilled his lifelong aspiration and ran and finished his first and only marathon. John died later that year with running shoes on his feet, as he sat on his porch in his chair, ready to run that evening. After running the marathon, John would hardly speak of anything else. John died doing what made him happy.

It matters not how long it takes to finish what you’ve started, what matters is that you finish.


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