The Intrinsic Quality of the Successful

iqs-200-postIf you are waiting for someone to substantiate that you are a success, you are waiting for the wrong information. If you are looking around to see the symbols of your success to validate whether or not you are a success, you are looking at the wrong things.


Internal success far outweighs external success. Knowing who you are and living a life of fulfillment is far more valuable than all the money in the world. In fact, having a powerful sense of self-awareness, and an intuitive knowledge of who you truly are without the need of outside influences to help you secure your mental sense of self-worth, is a priceless commodity.

I am not saying wealth and material things are not important, because that would not be true. On the contrary, money and material things are an absolute necessity if one is going to survive in this world. Riches may not bring permanent happiness, but neither will poverty. I have seen wealthy people miserable and unhappy, though they possess all the money and material things a person can dream of having. I have also seen people living with just the bare basic necessities of life, and they are just as miserable and unhappy as the person with everything.

Therefore, money and material things are not the true symbols of success. The Good Book says that a person who cannot rule their own soul is like a city without walls. This means that the person’s life and all they may have built throughout their lifetime is completely vulnerable and open to assaults. These people usually end up losing everything because they most likely have stepped on (not over) many friends and associates just to get what they thought would validate them in the eyes of people. A person succeeding in making money is not an indicator that the person has succeeded with controlling their insatiable appetites of lasciviousness.

Your self-image is a product of your experiences, failures, triumphs, humiliations, and breakthroughs. Through these experiences, you create a picture of yourself and most importantly, you believe that it is a true depiction of who you are. Because you believe your self-image is accurate, you base your actions on it. If your actions lead to failure or success, your self-image is then is responsible. There is a reason why willpower does not work, and why it is like a snap-back effect. Your “will” is powered by something other than you simply making a decision to do something. Your mind controls your body, but your will controls your mind.

When people use willpower, what they are actually doing is going to battle against their self-image. However, the self-image is always stronger because it is their subconscious belief. To further explain my point, I want you to view yourself as a rubber band. When you stretch the rubber band, it is similar to your willpower. If you think you can go around for a full day as a fully stretched out rubber band, you are sadly mistaken. At some point during the course of the day, something will distract you—and you will let up on the pressure. When that happens, the rubber band snaps back to its true shape. This is what happens when you use your will power to mentally change what you think about yourself without you changing your intrinsic core belief of who you are. Woody Allen said, “My only regret is that I’m not someone else.”

What a sad way of thinking about yourself. You can make all the money your little heart desires, but you better know why you are trying to make money, because money itself will not be the remedy to your lack of fulfillment. This is one of the reasons why so many people experience the yo-yo effect. The will is designed to do what it does, but it does not make you who you are. If you learn to re-engineer your self-image based on a God-consciousness, you will permanently expand it, and there will be no more snap-back effect.

A neighbor was befriending a child in the neighborhood.
“I understand that you have twins in your home. Are you one of them?”
The boy slowly put his head down and said, “No sir! I’m just a spare.”

Once you learn how to activate and release God’s power in every situation, you will find yourself moving beyond obstacles that previously frustrated you. You will actually develop an unstoppable God (self)-confidence and a heightened excitement about your future. Like most people, your will is to be successful, but it does not mean because your will is for success, that you will obtain it. You have to go further than just to will it; you have to believe it so that no approval would be necessary to make your life work. There is no doubt in my mind that if you are a success; the only thing I must do is to believe that you are.

Now, let me re-address the subject of money. It’s right to make money and even ethically there is nothing wrong with making a lot of money. Money may not grow on trees, but it does grow from talent and knowledge. Concentration, Creativity, and Negotiation are three important elements of having a successful business. The ability to take an idea, analyze business opportunities, and evaluate business options is a major attribute use. When your heart is balanced, it takes a conscientious effort to ensure that your mind coincides with your heart.

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Defining Success! Discovering How?

What is your perception of how you can be successful? I discovered that most people are capable of defining what success is to them; however, how to be successful is what eludes them. Some believe that success is having certain possessions such as power, fame, or prestige. If this is a person’s belief of what constitutes success, then these things will be their signal that they’ve made it.

What is your perception of how you can be successful? I discovered that most people are capable of defining what success is to them; however, how to be successful is what eludes them. Some believe that success is having certain possessions such as power, fame, or prestige. If this is a person’s belief of what constitutes success, then these things will be their signal that they’ve made it. On the other hand, others may say that success is achieving set goals or reaching that certain place when their soul is completely content and worry free. Despite what you believe what success is for you, how to gain it is an entirely different ball game.

Why is it that most people never reach the pinnacle of their own concept of success? What is the barrier that locks away their dreams and aspirations into a personal prison system and keeps them trapped in their own world of underachievement? It may not be as simple as one blockage, but several blockades. People may live their lives behind a series of cell doors where different keys are necessary to unlock their success from incarceration. Moreover, while people may think there is only one, or maybe two obstacles hindering them, it can be multiple hindrances. The truth of the matter is that if you can define what success is to you, why do you find it difficult to achieve it? Let us take a short walk into your belief system because this may hold the keys to your prison doors.

What you believe about something, based on your subconscious thoughts, can mean the difference between success and failure. You see, some people believe they do not deserve to achieve their personal concept of success because they may not have worked as hard, or because of the bad things they have done in their past. Others may feel that they are not as talented or articulate, and therefore, without fail, they sabotage their success. Now, this may seem odd, but some people believe that God has sentenced them to a life of mediocrity or that God destined only a small number of people to be rich and successful. This could not be further from the truth.

I do not want you to be shocked by this statement; but God wants you successful. However, God left success or being successful up to you. I am asking you to put your defenses down and listen very carefully to what I am about to say. God placed within your DNA the potential to be successful at whatever you put your hands to do. However, our understanding of success may be obscured. The real concern should be… does the attainment of certain particular goals produce genuine satisfaction in your heart. For as much as I know people, getting that top position with the corner office or buying that new car or even experiencing nominal success in your business is only the external picture of success. Moreover, achieving one or all of these does not necessarily guarantee internal success, which is peace and happiness.

If success is not measured in terms of possessions, status or performance, then how can it be defined? It is a great feeling to land that huge deal or to negotiate the biggest sale of your career or to marry the person of your dreams. Nevertheless, what happens to you when the money from your sale or huge deal runs low and the notoriety diminishes, or you have marital problems with the spouse of your dreams? Will your success and happiness go out with the misfortunes? Money is great to have and success is a plus, but understanding what defines you as a person cannot be tied up in your finite understanding of success.

Oftentimes, what we call success really isn’t success at all. When you discover who you are, what you are designed by God to do, and where you are suppose to be, that will be the greatest accomplishment of your life. Life will no longer be an experiment or test to be determined by unchallenged failed results. Thomas Edison, with limited education because he did not attend college, still believed that he would create the first light bulb. After over seven hundred attempts, and believe you me, he challenged every one of his failures, he eventually accomplished his goal. Thomas Edison believed that he could help this world by doing his part…he lit up the world.

Defining yourself does not start with your beginnings. George Washington Carver was born of Missouri slaves, yet he did not allow his beginning to determine his end. He attended Iowa State University, earning a bachelor’s degree in 1894 and a master’s in 1896. He then joined the faculty of Booker T. Washington’s Tuskegee Institute. His attempts to find crop alternatives to cotton led him to the peanut; eventually he created more than 325 products from the humble legume, helping to create demand for the plant and establish it as a major American crop. Carver also worked with sweet potatoes, soybeans and pecans, among other plants, and is often credited with changing the face of agriculture in the American south. George Washington Carver once said, “Our creator is the same and never changes despite the names given Him by people here and in all parts of the world. Even if we gave Him no name at all, He would still be there, within us, waiting to give us good on this earth.” You are God’s creation and God wants nothing more than for you to succeed with the life He gave to you. Don’t give up on God; He has not given up on you.

Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
~ George Washington Carver