“Greatness is not what comes out of the womb of a woman; greatness is birthed out of the courageous heart that refuses to do anything but stand and fight when faced with an insurmountable challenge, even when initially afraid.”
~Dr. Mikel Brown
We have all experienced, in some form or another, abuse in our lives from friends, relatives, parents, and even self-inflicted wounds, which have left an indelible mark on our psyches. For some of us, even our bodies.
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It is dangerous to have something and not know what you have. It is even more treacherous to know what you have and to do nothing with it. People who struggle with low self-esteem generally have low incomes as well. In addition, people with low self-esteem are less motivated to break the negative frame of mind that has led them to living a mediocre lifestyle. Low self-esteem does not see race, sex, age, religion, marital status, height, weight, or any other label or category you could possibly attach to yourself. Unfortunately, a low self-esteem is not something you can plan for either. However, a low self-esteem is something you can change.
The Advantage of Change
With a little hard work and patience, your low self-esteem can be transformed into a healthy one. Having a healthy self-image allows you to be more extroverted when it comes to seeing opportunities. When your focus is not internal, possibilities come alive and burst into a thousand suns. Your horizon becomes much broader and clearer as you delve deeper into the reality of limitless potential. Self-esteem is underrated as a valued commodity. Oftentimes, it is an over-looked factor when it comes to building a career or starting a business. People usually define success by the size of the paycheck; when it is actually how one would consummate his or her dream.
Your Actions Reflect Your Thoughts
Average people give average effort. You cannot expect extraordinary results by giving ordinary effort. What you think of yourself determines how hard you push to achieve your goals; but it will also dictate how high you are willing to aim. It is impossible to have high expectations while wrestling with a low self-esteem. The law of reflection is as real as the law of gravity. Your life mirrors what you think and believe. You have no more or no less in life or possessions than what you believe and think you really deserve. Carter G. Woodson said,
“If you can control a man’s thinking, you don’t have to worry about his actions. If you can determine what a man thinks, you do not have worry about what he will do. If you can make a man believe that he is inferior, you don’t have to compel him to seek an inferior status, he will do so without being told and if you can make a man believe that he is justly an outcast, you don’t have to order him to the back door, he will go to the back door on his own and if there is no back door, the very nature of the man will demand that you build one.”
Do you ever question yourself on why you do not reach your full potential? I am certain that at one time or another, you can recall a teacher, a coach or mentor tell you about the great potential you have. It all sounds so promising but oftentimes people do not feel like they have as much potential as others have claimed they have.
Many people struggle with low self-esteem and other mental defective processes because of their past occurrences.
Potential vs. Talent
Potential is not something that sits on the surface as though you can just pick it up and use it. Potential is hidden deep within the crevices of a person’s natural ability called talent. Talent is the natural ability to do things almost as second nature. However, potential is unrealized ability that goes far beyond talent. This simply means that the ability is present but it takes a lot more to first realize it and second, to tap into it. Potential is not easily accessible because it takes believing in yourself to push beyond your failures and disappointments.
“I feel like I can do and be anything in the world that I want. I see other people far less talented than I am succeeding and enjoying the good life. It is not that I am lazy, but something holds me back from going full steam ahead. It’s become so frustrating, wanting more out of life but not going for it.”
Does this sound like you? You believe that you are different from those who sabotage their success because of an underlying feeling of no self-worth. Your lack of success is not based on incompetence or low self-esteem. It may be that you are among the more talented people with great potential to succeed. However, your challenge is that while you may have a passion pushing you in one direction, you also have other interests pulling you in another.
Less Talented but More Successful
A lack of focus leaves you experimenting in areas that keep you from being as productive. Therefore, you have very little to show for your short-lived efforts. Although there are people out there less talented than you, their advantage is their ability to remain focused by becoming frozen on one goal until success has been achieved. Accomplishment of any magnitude is difficult without follow-through.
Your weakness is not the lack of passion. It is just that your energy and attention is scattered. In addition, to compound your situation, you are probably prone to dwelling on ideas constantly and insatiably so that you force yourself out of your previous project leaving it oftentimes undone. Potential means nothing if it cannot be used.
To remedy your problem all you have to do is stay emotionally connected to your passion behind your objective. When other ideas and interest comes to your mind, you do not have to dismiss them; categorize them from least to the most important. Your brain is simply craving variety, but you must remember to force focus in order to be mentally stable to continue on your present objective. This will help you realize your greater potential to succeed.