If Others Can Succeed, You Can Do It Too!

MB Text 3-29-2015There are certain myths and beliefs about why some people seem to overcome life’s struggles, and somewhat thrive through the ranks with such ease. I’m not talking about those who inherited money from their great or great, great grandparents, but rather the people who had humble beginnings and tragic upbringings, yet whose gifts or talents opened many doors for. In comparison, there are millions of people with great abilities who are smart and intelligent, yet it seems as if life is passing them by.

When you hear and read the stories of people who have risen out of humble or poor conditions such as Michael Jordan, Mark Zuckerberg, Oprah Winfrey, Howard Schultz, Russell Simmons, Earvin (Magic) Johnson, John Paul DeJoria, and others who have come from low income lifestyles only to rise to the lifestyles of the rich and famous; You can almost believe to a large degree that maybe there are people who had a little extra gold dust sprinkled on them at birth.

These are some of the people of which 90% of us look at as being super- human, or as having some special gift that most people in this world just don’t have. Perhaps, they sold their soul to the devil in exchange for wealth and success. Now, as outlandish as this may sound, some people will accept this as a reality to justify why they just can’t seem to get over the hump.

Well, let me tell you the truth. Not one single person has any more ability to succeed in life or business than you. Life doesn’t have to be hard; it has to be functional and purposeful. You have to add meaning to your life; and goals, dreams, and vision are one way to add significance. Some people excel at life and business and some don’t – which one are you?

Contrary to popular belief, there are no codes to crack, safes to pick, or mysteries to solve. All that is required is to understand that the so-called-secret hidden behind a successful life, is diligence. You have to know what you want, and you have to want it bad enough to go for it regardless of the sacrifices it demands. Sometimes, the only thing blocking you from reaching your goal is the one thing you have a difficult time letting go. So, what’s blocking you?

“Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.”
~Napoleon Hill

When people come to me about what they would like to do with their lives, I usually try to get them to make the decision to start the journey of reaching their goals before they find an excuse they can believe. If you give them a ‘What if it doesn’t happen’ scenario, you will have just reduced their dream or goals to an excuse. The excuse would prove to be just what they were looking for, because the demands may be greater than their desire. There is no room in my life for excuses—every space is occupied.

If you want to be a winner, change your philosophy about what it requires now! If you think you are totally incapable of owning and running your own business, then make that your goal. Why? It’s hard to keep score without a goal. Life needs adventure, excitement, and challenge; without these you’re just waiting for the grave.

Did you know that you only have today to get tomorrow right; but you cannot use today to correct the wrongs from yesterday? Belief in yourself and in your God-given abilities is a premium. Real confidence and empowerment is not determined by knowledge. Knowledge is from the past, which means it is safe but outdated. Why? Because what got you here, won’t get you there!

Some knowledge conflicts with originality and innovation. Knowledge is experience, and most people wish they had avoided most of the experiences they’ve encountered during their lifetimes. Experience can be an inhibitor to your success because it is built on solutions to old problems and situations. If you have the knowledge you most likely will use it again. Experience is the opposite of being imaginative and resourceful.

Find your true authentic self, and you will discover your hidden treasure. However, if you continue to search outside of yourself, you will only seek to be a cheap carbon copy of a great original.

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Water Your Own Grass

water200I once had a conversation with a gentleman who appeared as if he were in his mid thirties and spoke as though he was disgruntled about how unfair he thought this world was to the unfortunate. Obviously, he viewed himself as one of those unfortunate people who never seems to get a break. You could easily pick up his attitude toward people who seem to have it all, because he mentioned how most of the wealthy people haven’t a clue about what it means to ration their food—while staying up and burning the candle on both ends to make a buck.


After hearing this young man voice one displeasure after another, I asked him a question. “Do you know any of these people you’re speaking of, because you sound like you know some of them very well?” “No, I just know they will never understand what it’s like to struggle financially”, he said. “If I had their money, I would be just as creative and innovative to increase my bottom line as they are”, he exclaimed.

The best of us have been on the side of this young man before, thinking the grass is much greener on the other side. The truth of the matter is, the situation a person may be experiencing is the reason they may ignore or become blind to where they are at the moment. It may be true you don’t have all the skills of your coworker, or your spouse may not look like Raquel Welch or Denzel Washington in their prime, nor do you have the youth, net worth, and success of Mark Zuckerberg, but you do not need to compare your life to anyone else’s life.

It is not the net worth that matters most; it is the self worth which is supreme. Your ability is incredible and your knowledge is extensive. My only concern is convincing you that it is. You possess the same qualities as others. However, your focus should be on developing you, not you attempting to live your life similar to the way others are living theirs.

Stop looking at your neighbor’s lawn and start taking care of your own, by fertilizing it and giving it sufficient water. You will discover your grass is just as green, if not greener. When you look from a distance at someone else’s life, you may be surprised to know everything that glitter’s isn’t gold. It only appears as if they don’t have a financial worry in the world, or their marriage is so good, it’s like trying to break the Da Vinci code.

Things may not be going so well right now in your life or business, but it doesn’t mean things will remain the same throughout your lifetime. Situations, circumstances, and problems are all scenarios subject to change. You may not need a miracle to straighten things out in your life; you may only need a little focus, dedication, and belief in your ability, and you can turn things around.

There was a business executive who was deep in debt and could see no way out. Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him. ”Young man, I can see something is troubling you,” he said. After listening to the executive’s woes, the old man said, “I believe I can help you.”

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, “Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time.” Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller; then, one of the richest men in the world!

“I can erase my money worries in an instant!” he realized. But instead, the executive decided not to cash the check, but to put the check in his safe. Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.

With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the same check, un-cashed. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.

“I’m so glad I caught him!” she cried. “I hope he hasn’t been bothering you. He’s always escaping from the rest home and telling people he’s John D. Rockefeller.” And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he’d been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized it wasn’t the money, real or imagined that had turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence which gave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

You see, this is a classic story of how people play themselves short, and assume they are a failure because someone else’s life seems to be better than theirs. If your decision making has gotten you into the mess which now exists, it will be that same decision making ability, this time with careful consideration that will exonerate you from the mess you’ve made.

In the story I wrote, the executive found the courage to get back in the game of business after a huge disappointment, however this time, he decided to give his all. Why was his self-confidence all of a sudden riding high? The reason is simple; he had complete confidence in what he thought he possessed. The phony $500,000 check was his placebo, which actually made him dig deeper within himself, become more creative than he had been in the past, and believe more in his ability to get the job done.

Imagine the power of self-confidence when a person believes in him or herself. Your qualities are intrinsic and your skill level is without limits. You can stretch yourself as far as you can believe. Take a deep breath and plunge into the best you ever.

You do not need $500,000 or five hundred million dollars in order to have confidence in yourself and your abilities. You can create so much more money and do so much more with your present life. The best investment you can ever make is in yourself. If you will decide to take care of your own grass, you will never be tempted to speak more favorable about how much greener the grass looks on the other side.

It doesn’t matter where you start or how you start, however, a considerable amount of weight is given to how you finish. You can make your grass look just as green as your neighbor’s grass with a little TLC (tender loving care).

It’s your life; love it!


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