It Takes Everything To Win!

It Takes Everything To Win!
It Takes Everything To Win!
In my many years of studying personal human behavior, I have discovered that a person, in and of himself, cannot determine how far they can go or how much they can take. Neither, can they determine the extent to which they are willing to sacrifice, without something or someone coercing them to either their breaking point, or their refusal to break point. When you are pushed and shoved to exceed your personal limits, it demonstrates how your personal boundaries are not necessarily determined by you, as much as by your willingness to triumph against the person or challenge that is poised to conquer you.


Your internal drive and determination to win in life, sports, or business is not accelerated by the limits you have set, but by the challenge that pushes you to reposition the line of your capability, just to overcome. This is usually the story behind every great person who discovered that the boundary they set was only established because they had no opponent or challenge to impel them to reestablish their limits.

There can be no victories without encountering conflict. Whoever concedes to the pressures of life or the abilities of their competitor, cannot exceed the limits they have personally set for themselves.

As I watched game seven of the NBA 2013 Finals between the San Antonio Spurs and the Miami Heat, I saw both teams display resilience and mental toughness throughout the course of the game. My thought was that a loss on either side would come down to one individual breaking down during the last seconds of the game. I thought the person that mentally breaks down and creates mistakes would not be a person who is not a good player, but one who has not consistently played well throughout the series. Unfortunately, that player was Manu Ginobili. The collage of negative thoughts that bombard a person after a poor performance, whether in life, sports or business, has but one aim—and that aim is to discourage and batter you until you find yourself rehearsing the mistakes that you are so desperately trying not to repeat.

Whether a team wins or loses, it is still a team. However, the individual role player on that team who isn’t mentally hungry and composed enough to want to do anything and everything to win, will allow their opponent to push them to move their mental and physical limitation, and they are just as responsible for the team’s loss as the team itself.

I heard LeBron James in an interview after winning the seventh game of the NBA 2013 Finals say, “The Spurs are a great team that pushed us to new limits.” In a nutshell, what LeBron James was saying was that his internal hunger to defeat the San Antonio Spurs became more intense during the game. It made him play smarter and harder than he’s ever played, dig deeper inside himself than he’s ever internally dug, and fight harder than he’s ever fought before.

My friend, this is what champions are made of. You will never realize how great you can be until you become hungrier to succeed than you are fearful to fail.

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The Prerequisite for Mental Toughness

Mental Toughness
Mental Toughness
How do you think you would do in the area of exercising mental toughness?

It is easy to sit back and analyze another person’s performance, and say what you would do if you were in their situation. The truth of the matter is, if you have never been there or been trained for certain situations, you have no clue as to how you would respond under such severe mental pressure. Sometimes we are unable to change our environment to manage stress – this may be the case where we do not have the power to change a situation. Therefore, a person must learn to adapt and improvise in order to overcome the mental challenges and to have the best possible chance of succeeding. This is only accomplished with training.

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Habits of the Self-Motivated

Self Motivated
Oprah Winfrey, Magic Johnson, J.K. Rollins, John Paul DeJoria, Michael Dell

What are you more interested in hearing, well said or well done? Many people do little or nothing to live their dreams, but they are great at trying to instruct others on how to live their dream. The odd thing about this is that these people are first-class at starting something but are quickly discouraged with the slightest opposition or challenge. They have an acute awareness of what to do, but they do not have a reliable competent stamina to plow through the discouragement and disappointments that show up when little or no progress is apparently made. Therefore, knowing what to do is not good enough. It is not what you know; it is what you do with what you know.

There are habits that separate those who are satisfied with an occasional win and those who ‘will’ themselves to win every time. Every effort demands and should be accompanied with a strong unrelenting aggression that gives one the edge when they are apparently outmatched by his or her opponent. Being less talented is not a guaranteed lost. Being stronger, more agile, athletic and even smarter than your opponent is not the prerequisite for success. These important ingredients will serve you well if you are aware of how to use them intelligently to your advantage. Unfortunately, knowledge with the absence of heart and spirit is just a know-it-all who has not developed the resilience to win in life.

What are these polished habits that separate those that simply have a desire to win and those who will themselves to win? Clearly, there must be a difference? Oftentimes, the various patterns of these two characters look similar until you get down to the stretch when the challenge is more intense and the intricacy increases as you approach the finish line. Luck has no place where skill and heart has collaborated to repudiate losing at any level, or with any game. The reason people like Bill Russell, Kareem Abdul Jabbar, Michael Jordan, Babe Ruth, Magic Johnson, Larry Bird, Vince Lombardi, Terry Bradshaw and presently, Kobe Bryant were and are considered among the best in their field, is that they all hated or hate to lose. What separates these great men from the other very good athletes that played before, during and after their time, is that they won multiple championships.

There are other men and women that fit the description of resilience and resolve that are in other fields. People such as such as Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, John Paul DeJoria, Larry Ellison, J.K. Rowling, and Michael Dell and there are many others, have beat unbelievable odds to reach the top.

It has been my observation that most people get ahead during the time that others waste time.
~Henry Ford

Allow me to list a few dynamic habits that will inevitably launch you into the orbit of your success where money is not the issue, but rather the chosen tool used to live your dream. This list starts with endurance, fortitude, tenacity, perseverance, enthusiasm, faith, boldness, mental toughness, courage, determination, consistency, persistence, self-control, creativity, a resistance to pressure, etc. I can go on but it may be a bit too much for you to handle because you may look at these important qualities as requiring far too much time to develop. I cannot, however, leave out the habit of discipline. Discipline is the one quality that can help you as you pursue achievement. Remember greatness is in you, and you will become the great person people will remember.

I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Purpose in life, therefore, I demand of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action.

Napoleon Hill

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Maintaining Mental Toughness in Tough Times

How do you handle life’s little challenges? Little effort and intensity placed at the beginning stage of a project may be an indication that one may be egocentric and/or over-confident in his or her ability.

Usually when a person displays this kind of attitude is when they underestimate their opponent. I consider it a positive aspect when an individual believes in his or her ability, but it can prove to be a huge mistake to undermine the strength and the resolve of your opponent. Heart (the will to win) far exceeds skill and talent.

A sport demands the same intense effort during the course of a game that life demands during the course of a day, if a person is going to be successful. We should begin our day with a sense of urgency so that we can have a better chance of maintaining focus throughout the day.

We are living in tough economic and stressful times, which seem to wear down the best of us. These times require more than a melancholy effort. They require mental toughness to remain focused, and a perseverance that will outlast today’s challenges. Life’s every day trials are making greater demands on people’s time, money and energy. And, like sports, it is extremely wearisome to try to catch up when a lead was exponentially increased while you were indulging in your self-confidence. Perhaps you did not notice that people are in a real battle for their marriages, businesses, sanity, self-esteem, finances, nation, etc.

People must live life with a sense of purpose because the challenges in life will not stop. Just when you think that everything is going fine, you are blindsided by some unfortunate incident. How do you maintain your focus when your expectations are frustrated and your efforts are insufficient for the challenge ahead? Do not lose your cool!

Composure means everything in the midst of chaos. A cooler head will prevail; but a confused mind will further exasperate the problem. I recently had surgery to repair a hernia. While I was recuperating, a water line broke during the night and flooded two thirds of the first floor of my home. My wife was the first to wake up only to put her feet into a puddle of water.

When I heard my wife call my name with a sense of urgency, my adrenaline was flowing so heavily that I jumped up without the thought of the metal staples in my body and the pain I was experiencing through the night. I quickly discovered the cause of the flood, shut off the water valve, which stopped any further damage from occurring.

My mind immediately went into survival mode, protecting me from the pain until I could rectify the problem. Once everything was settled, my mind turned off survival mode and I immediately felt the pain.

I called for personal and professional help, called my insurance company, took a couple of pain pills and rested. I was disappointed, to say the least, because of the damage, but I was not disjointed. Life for me remains joyous despite the challenges because I stay in a mindset of readiness. Things are not always as bad as they seem if you can see them as fixable or trash. Repair what you can, and can what you cannot repair.