Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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Think and Speak Out Loud

MBBlog_inside I believe the right talk is the key to produce the right results. But, I also believe the wrong talk is one of the main components that will produce the wrong results in your life. Based on the Good Book, you shall have whatever you say.

One of the greatest formulas you can discover in life is how to renew your mind by transitioning your thoughts from one form to another—thought to material; learning how to shift your mindset to your heart thoughts. There is no condition that is irreversible. All that can be broken is fixable. The reality of your world is not what you experience first, but what you envision first. Thoughts are the core substance that precedes the reality of its creation. Speaking the word is vital, but speaking out of your heart gives the word tangibility.

I have said often that you are a spirit, which has a soul and lives in a body—and this is the proper sequence. Your mouth is a release valve for what is overstuffed in your heart. Therefore, you have no other choice but to speak when the things in you are tipping over your lips. Believing is the start, but what you believe has the potential for life. However, life doesn’t occur until the stuff in your heart comes out of your mouth; good, bad or indifferent. Trying to convince you is not the same as being convinced.

You see, what you believe in your heart about your life, the world you live in, and your environment is evident by what you see around you and experience on a daily basis. The things that adorn your life are the things you have spoken from your heart life, or else those things would not be present.

Boldly speak out your words while targeting your expectations. It is important not to think into the atmosphere, but rather to speak into the atmosphere by discharging your words. No matter how people may struggle with particular situations, people rarely detect their condition as something reparable. An individual can fix a lot of things that are wrong in their life without having the pay a psychiatrist to help them if they will value their own importance. If you don’t believe in you, than who does? If you are negative about manners of your life, you are gushing out of your mouth the words from your heart to express or convey what you want to happen for your environment.

Your fortune begins in you, as you, and with you. Most people do not realize the force that change makes in one’s life by making a decision and speaking that decision out of your heart. Making a decision cannot be like a wish list stating your preferences. I would like to make more money, etc. The reason nothing happens is because instead of speaking a definitive word into the atmosphere, we speak our wishes.

Making a decision means cutting off any other possibility. In fact, ‘decision’ in the Greek understanding is to “cut off.” There are important basic decisions you have to pay attention to because they shape every moment of your life and control your destiny. Most of us make decisions by default, meaning we leave them up to circumstances. Because we delay in making a decision, we wait for circumstances to force us in a direction that we hope would eventually lead to our benefit.

You will pay a major price for not taking control and consciously and definitively making a decision. However, you can take control of these decisions and actually start to form your experiences so that you are living your life on purpose and not by experimentation. When decisions are definitively made, it places you in the flow of the intended choice. When you don’t make a decision, you get caught up in the current events, current circumstances, and current culture.

People are usually quick to accept horoscope writings to lead their daily activities and Christians accept salvation, but they aptly neglect the full council of the Bible. Thus, making them saved to the bone and broke as a bum.

I WILL NEVER ACCEPT A REALITY THAT IS NOT MY OWN!

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Are You Connected?

What separates the very good from the very best? One of the key principles of life and business is always searching for ways to get better at what you do because it is not how good you are it is how good you want to be. Life has rules and understanding those rules will help you stay in the game of life.

There is a difference between being wise and being smart. Smart people generally know how to do something, but wise people understand why you do it. Wise people may not be as knowledgeable as those who are considered smart, but they realize how to employ the expertise of others to create the wealth they desire. Knowledgeable people are usually the employees of people who operate in wisdom. Wise men and women are accustomed to making the kind of choices that smart people have calculated as impossible. Sometimes knowledge can get in the way of just plain simplicity, confusing the simple as complex. Calculating every move can prove to be a waste of time and it may signal that fear is chauffeuring you around rather than faith.

It takes faith in God, faith in yourself, and faith in your mentors to develop a mental toughness during these ever-shifting economic and speculative times. Confidence does not eliminate or undermine the importance of knowledge; it simply moves knowledge down the list of priorities when it comes to using the appropriate components to accomplish difficult tasks. When you possess an inadequate amount of knowledge or when times do not call for knowledge because the potential of your knowledge cannot be measured or used, as a way to accomplish a particular thing, there is a more useful, intangible ability. There are times when the situation is beyond knowledge that it requires belief in oneself that is predicated on faith; and that faith will find a way to make the impossible possible.

If you are going to be successful, if you are going to accomplish the goals you have set for yourself within the next twelve months, you will be required to transition from one mindset to a greater one that is conducive to handling the explosiveness that your life is going to experience. It is necessary that you be fully committed to your dream. I believe a connection to the right mentor will be the bridge to living your dream. You cannot fake a connection. The sure sign of someone being connected to a mentor will reflect in that mentor becoming the transitional bridge between them existing in life to actually living life. The voice of a mentor is the bridge that allows the dreamer to have access to their dream life.

People, to some degree, have this picturesque ideal life, which many would love to live. Most people have aspirations that they would love not being encumbered with exasperation. Are you tired of living the life that does not match up with the life of your dream? Do you see your dream on one side while your job is on the other side and would want nothing more than to get from the job that you hate to your dream that you love. If this describes you, you need to build a transitional bridge and have a transitional strategy. A proper mentor connection can help you get into the environment of your dream. Success leaves clues while failure leaves you with the blues. There are two ways to learn-mistakes and mentors. Advisors are everywhere. Avoid going after someone who is available; pursue someone who is qualified.

There are three things that must be adhered to that will become the catalyst to your turning point, from what was to what is, and transition your life into high-octane synergistic energy. Remember that in every orange seed is the blueprint for increase, multiplication and/or duplication. Your best work will be on display when you are proactive. Here are the three transitional strategic steps.

  1. Do Not Place New Wine Into Old Wine Skin. (You cannot pour new wine into old wine skin without the acids from the new wine cracking and sipping through. In other words, you cannot get new results with an old way of thinking.)
  2. Water the Seeds in Your Own Personal Life Garden. (Whatever you water grows. Use the books you read as water for your mind. Readers are leaders!
  3. Get Connected and Stay Connected. (Being “appropriately-connected” means a lot in our society. It means everything in nature – it’s a Web of Life. All species and populations in isolation accomplish little. It’s only when they are linked that things begin to happen and ecosystems begin to work.)

The right connection can be the bridge to your success or the wrong connection can be the downward escalator to your demise.

Lakers clinched the lead in the 2008 Western Conference

Anyone who really knows me is fully aware of my love for the Los Angeles Lakers. I have been a Lakers’ fan since the early seventies and I do not intend on changing. The NBA 2007-2008 year has ended and the LA Lakers have clinched the lead in the Western Conference. This simply means that they will have home court advantage throughout the Western Conference playoff.

There are major factors that go in to playing any sport.
The owners, coaches, and those who study stats are intimately aware of the factors that can have the pendulum swing in their direction. Those factors are the law of averages and the principle of persistence and momentum. Oftentimes, you will hear the announcer say, “Whenever the Lakers shoot fifty percent or more and score over a hundred points, they are 38 and 4.” What they are saying is that the odds are in their favor to win.

Momentum is a strange phenomenon because once it latches on it continues to increase. What happens with momentum is that it is mental. Once you think that you have enough points or wins, your mindset shifts to cruise control and then momentum is lost. This is why a team can be winning a game by more than 25 points, and they not only lose their lead, but they also lose the game.

When the mentality shifts to cruise control and the other team has narrowed the spread to less than fifteen, the cruise control mentality shifts to survival mode. Suddenly the team that once led by more than twenty-five points is now playing not to lose instead of playing to win.

Persistence is another plus which works in the favor of a team that displays more than a desire to win, but single-minded doggedness to conquer despite the odds.

I have seen this kind of perseverance in Magic Johnson, Larry Bird, Michael Jordan and now, Kobe Bryant. Once Michael Jordan had momentum in a game, he never played a team that he did not want to push the dagger into deeper. He knew how to keep the momentum until it worked like a dynamo.

Kobe Bryant can have a lasting legacy if he continues to play the game to conquer his opponent, instead of playing to convince the naysayer; and he will win the championship.

Neither life nor business is any different from sports. All are governed by rules and regulations that must be adhered to, coupled with desire, will, persistence, and faith. Challenge yourself to move off the pedestal of mediocrity and move into a dimension of the victorious.