Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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Do You Love Or Like What You Do?

Love your Job textThe title of this post is in the form of a question. I believe that success is the difference between what you love to do and what you like to do. I have never seen or known of anyone who exponentially succeeds at their business, job, or life who didn’t love what they do. I also, have never known of any successful person who didn’t respect his or her time.

There is something extraordinarily interesting to watch a person do what they love doing. On the other hand, there is nothing more disinteresting as to watch a person do what they absolutely feel they have to do without applying any real energy in the process. Success is the difference between loving what you do or simply liking what one does. If life is a bore, then you can believe work makes life that much more boring.

I love waking up in the morning—ready to approach a new day with new exciting adventures waiting for me to experience. I look forward to pioneering new territory and bold endeavors. I can’t imagine what life would be like if I didn’t have a purpose or agenda. When God wakes me up, I get to use the creative ability He gave me to create or to format my day. I discovered the reason successful and creative people love staying up at night to work on ideas as much as getting up in the morning to go back at their project.

I remember sitting in the lobby at the office of a friend of mine, who was on the phone at the time while I was waiting for him. At the lobby desk were two women that stood out to me because there appeared to be such a great contrast between their demeanors and body language. The woman who I assumed was the higher paid secretary appeared more friendly and professional than the other woman who was the receptionist. Sometimes, our tendency is to associate performance with pay grade, but not so in this case.

The person that appeared livelier and more professional about her appearance and how she approached doing her job was actually the receptionist. The secretary looked nice, but every movement of hers suggested she didn’t want to be there. She was bland in her response on the phone, she didn’t greet others with a smile, and there was nothing about her that would make people feel comfortable in approaching her. In fact, I saw one man who seemed to wait for her to turn her back so he could ask the receptionist a question. To me, this would imply that her body language was as intrusive and offensive than someone with halitosis.

After the secretary took me into my friend’s office, I asked him a question about her demeanor. He said, “Funny you would ask that question. My partner and I spoke of moving her to another office with less traffic.”

You see, the receptionist exuded personality and vigor because she loved what she was doing. People who are in business or simply a domestic engineer, if you do not love what you’re doing the odds of you succeeding in that field is slim to none. To love or to like is the difference between surviving and striving. Your energy level will always be low when you don’t want to be somewhere or when you don’t like the job you have. For those who enjoy their job, life, or business, there seems to never be enough hours in a day.

People who like what they do, work to live; people who love what they do, live to work. People who do not understand life and how it works are oftentimes envious of those who do. Low energy people think that the person who is full of energy and excitement about what they do is over doing it and that much effort is not necessary. When you find yourself pondering on thoughts like this, usually somewhere in your subconscious, you believe that all financially successful people are greedy. This is the furthest thing from the truth!

If you don’t love what you do by committing your life and energy to it, it’s not worth doing. When you hear of a house flipper buying houses and fixing them up for a person to buy, it’s not just for the money. People like this will go from one project to another because they love the challenge. Their motivation is to see their creative value put into a dilapidated house that will then cause others to want to buy their work. To love what you do has to have a motivation that is beyond money. Successful people have a motivation to help others, to be creative, and they ooze purpose. A person will work harder for their children and legacy than they will for only themselves.

If you can find joy in your work, it will become more than a job; it will be a daily adventure. If you can change your attitude, which is that small thing that matter, you will be promoted from mediocrity to excellence. Success will always be the experience with the person who loves what they do.

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The Balance of Success

MB Text 7-12-2015 (Balance Success)Faith is the power link to every seeable impossible desirable endeavor you may encounter. If balance is the key to life, then, faith is the power of life, and patience is the virtue of life. It is quite easy to talk about how one’s life needs balance; but how to achieve it has escaped the majority of people.

Achieving balance can be difficult because it involves knowledge, wisdom, tenacity, and action, and some people may lack adequacy in one or more of these qualities. In your Bible, the book of James says that we must not be hearers of the word only, but also doers of the word. This is where the problem comes into the equation. Most people are good at hearing to a degree, but lousy at doing. Balance, then, is formed out of sound and unbiased advice and guidance from a creditable source, and then immediately made actionable.

Faith is the power of life because it produces the ability to be tenacious. Power is power; it has no alternative to its strength and supremacy. Faith rests in its own pool of authority, and it is the force behind every movement and action. Patience is the virtue of life. It is the quality of character and the strategy to winning. Patience is needed in order to qualify the balance in one’s life, or else everything will be done in life without forethought and purpose.

Since most people are good at hearing instructions but terrible when it comes to follow through, failure is frequently inevitable. Balance is not leveling every quality off to the same degree; it is placing the importance on each quality regardless of its magnitude. When balance is achieved, it looks like the display on an equalizer component. Therefore, perfect harmony is realized because balance has been accomplished. This kind of action results not only in life becoming manageable, but also in success as being practical. There is nothing more attractive to God than a breathing faith.

Your life is at its finest when you become entrenched and completely invested in the effort but unattached from the results. I realized how difficult this can be, but it’s possible. This is the place where you are intimate with your personal power because you realize that the expedition and the exertion are important. There is a place you arrive where you must draw a line in the sand and let go of that something which has to lead you to a new position, or to a certain person loving you, or it has to lead to you making a lot of money. When your desires are discombobulated or targeted towards you feeling better about yourself, you actually become disempowered by making the goal the consummate.

I believe the goal has to do with the process itself. In reality, the end is inherited in the means. Who you are when you put forth the effort is more important than what you want to become at the end of your effort. If you are totally convinced you have nothing left in you after your effort, how can you not be content with the outcome?

Understanding the balance to success is not winning every battle or achieving every goal. It is what knowledge you are to acquire, or what skill you are to develop, or what corrections you are to make from each skirmish or attempt at something, regardless of the outcome, so that you are more prepared for the next endeavor.

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4 Non-Negotiable Qualities I Look For In Hiring

MB Text 6-7-2015 1(Business Hiring)There are certain qualities I look for in a person in which determines the kind of relationship I choose to have with them. I believe the degree of my personal relationships, whether professional or personal, are determined by the qualities I listed below. If you have a relationship with a person who does not add to promoting or improving your quality of life, than they are perhaps unintentionally diminishing it. These qualities will help employers as well as individuals who are interested in making the right choice of those they allow in their space.

Honesty

I look for integrity in a person’s life, because if you can’t trust a person, it is difficult to build a quality structural business or relationship. We live in a society where lying is a common practice, and no one seems to care unless they are the ones being lied to. In case you didn’t know, honesty is telling the truth. In other words, we conform our words to reality. On the other hand, integrity is conforming reality to our words. It is keeping promises and fulfilling expectations. Therefore, when I employ the term “honesty,” I am alluding to both honesty and integrity.

At the most basic level of human characteristics, an honest person does not lie. They will not exaggerate or misrepresent the facts. They do not withhold negative information. They will give you the good, the bad, and the ugly. They have the courage to face reality head-on and make their words conform to it. They would never ask someone else to lie on their behalf or to cover for them.

They are also honest in giving others feedback and they are able to be direct without being insensitive. They refuse to create unnecessary drama, and they do not say anything about those who are absent that they wouldn’t say if they were present.

Humility

An unassuming person doesn’t mean they are egotistical in a quiet way. A person with the characteristic of humility has a good sense of him or herself. They do not think more highly of themselves than they should which deals with pride, nor do they think lower of themselves than they ought which lends itself to having a poor self-esteem. They are sober-minded and usually unruffled by compliments, having a realistic grip on their strengths and weaknesses.

It is important to this person not to exhibit a life of self-importance, thinking that the world center’s around them. They may display determination and get-up-and-go for the cause, for the company, or for the team, but they are not ambitious for themselves. They are not overly-concerned about titles, status, or position in comparison to others.

Proactive

A proactive person takes a practical, hands-on approach to life. They are hungry and single-minded with an appetite for accomplishment. Metaphorically speaking, their last meal or last accomplishment is already a fading memory. They know what they want and they want it now. They are not impatient, just eager. They are looking for the next project, the next challenge or the next obstacle so they can figure it out like a Rubik’s cube.

They don’t spend their time dwelling on past accomplishments. They realize life is about living and living is about activity or movement. If a person isn’t moving, they must be dead. They are always reaching for more—setting higher goals. This is the kind of person who is driven to exceed whatever expectations have been imposed upon them. This is just a part of their make-up. They love figuring something out, especially if they have had no prior knowledge of it.

A hungry proactive person is intellectually curious. They read regularly —newspapers, magazines, and books. They love learning new things and sharing what they’ve learned with others. They can’t just sit around because it would just about kill them—not in a literal sense.

A proactive person will come to a meeting prepared, having completed his or her assignment. In the meeting, they are active listeners, asking questions and taking notes. They are not intimidated by the apathy of others or the views of others because of their active involvement and concern about getting the much needed information to do a job correctly. After the meeting, they follow up. They complete their assignments on-time without someone having to prod them to do so. They are relentless when it comes to execution. Although this is an admirable trait, others working around them are sometimes disturbed because their high-powered standards exposes the low standards they may govern their lives by.

Resolute Thinker

This is a person who is not afraid of making decisions. However, unlike strong-minded and sometimes unbendable people, the resolute thinker is one who makes calculated decisions. He or she believes rather mentally, orally, or by written annotation that collecting data is a necessity. They can easily spot a person ill prepared for their task, or a product part that is faulty or sub-standard. They will never sell or offer such a sub-quality product for the sake of a sell.

A Resolute Thinker is usually a person who exercises initiative and is very resourceful. This person is mainly resolution oriented and secondarily results responsive. In other words, to solve a problem is more important than getting the results, which may eventually reveal a lack of prioritizing for a company. He or she will work better in customer service or human resource departments. They are good at reading personalities and good at helping people figure out what they want. If you are an employer, put this person in front as a representative, and your rewards will be returned by an enormous amount of compliments.

For the employer who is looking for a good employee, these standards should be non-negotiable. It’s hard to find the buried treasure unless you have a map. It’s difficult to win a scavenger hunt unless you have a list. And, it’s impossible to hire the right people unless you know exactly what you are looking for.

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The Benefits of Zest

MB_textWhat do you think makes the difference in the quality of people’s lives? This question is not one people would look forward to answering if their life is filled with despondency and regret; however, on the other hand, if a person was accustomed to applying the one component which is the difference between overcoming obstacles rather than capitulating to them, this is a great question.

“The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” –Vince Lombardi

What shapes your ability to contribute to not only your own success, but to aid in assisting others in their success? Knowing the answer to this question is the key to avoid making all the wrong turns as you journey towards carving out your purpose and destiny. What you believe is either empowering or disempowering you. Whatever your lead system of belief is, it will lead you towards your success or failure. It is heartrending that a person can so strongly believe in the wrong philosophy that is actually disengaging them from the source of motivation that feeds their passion to achieve their goals.

I have learned that there are no excuses for staying in the same predicament. A person’s physical ability may be impeded, but your mind always has the potential for liberty. Start your process of change by changing your attitude which will eventually help change your environment. Some things can change rather quickly if you just make a choice about what you want in life and where you want to go. As long as your attitude is to take one step at a time, which can be the implication that you want others to applaud your one step, you will be paralyzed with no movement at all.

Steps are usually continuous, not stagnate. No one naturally takes one step and stays frozen in that position unless their true intention is not to do anything more than take that one step. If you want to go somewhere in life and you want to fulfill the dream hiding within the crevasses of your heart, you better start moving today. Change your attitude about what resources you don’t have, and just start moving and doing something with what you already have in your possession. Dismiss the “woe is me” attitude and get excited about your future prospects.

An Attitude is the mirror of the mind and heart. Your attitude reflects your thinking. Attitude also exposes the level of your enthusiasm. However, I discovered that attitude, along with enthusiasm, determines your altitude. It is not ‘why’ you think that shines through, but ‘what’ you think which shows through in how you act. People read attitudes through expressions, voice tones and inflections. Therefore, watch how you respond to questions from your boss or coworker or even life’s situations, because they might be reading you like a book.

You have to make quality decisions that can positively shape your destiny and change your circumstances, and one of those decisions is to select the right attitude. Attitude is your disposition, demeanor, temperament, mannerism, or outward conduct. It is your behavior and it reflects in the way you act and react. No one can choose your attitude but you—so choose the right one.

Attitudes do make the difference. The right attitude will pave the way to having not only a healthy and happy marriage, but add to your life the quality needed to help build the kind of fortitude and courage necessary to deal with all of life’s challenges. The right attitude makes you effective in dealing with people.

If you plan on going somewhere in life, dress for it. Wear the right attitude and you will put on the right clothes. Attitude changes your appearance and when your appearance looks like what you want, you will dress like where you’re going. You can ascend superior over every condition through the strength that Christ provides. People usually don’t attempt anything they don’t believe they can do.

What you fail to muster enthusiasm for usually dies.

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Are You Holding Your Money Hostage?

money-hostage-email200Riches may not bring happiness, but neither will poverty. When it comes to making money, you must use money itself. To bet on a horse is gambling; to bet you can come up with three spades is entertainment, to bet on cotton going up three points is business. You see the difference?


Most people have it all wrong about wealth in America. Wealth is not the same as income. Wealth is what you accumulate, not what you spend. The Good Book teaches us not to trust in money, but it does teach us to place it in trust. Money that is not moving is not money at all. Money is a seed to use in order to accumulate, but it cannot increase without movement. Nothing good can come from you holding your money hostage.

There is a lesson in the seed of a man. When a man emits semen into a woman, millions of sperms are discharged, but only one has the assignment of the production of life. You may still have that one thing you won’t release and it may be the very seed to increase your capacity.

People who are looking for the next financial miracle are those who have not planned or made provisions for their future. These people are literally playing Russian roulette with their lives. Are you?

The point I’m making, is finances and creating finances, is not a game. Through nutritional research, we’ve learned the body reflects the diet fed to the body. Physical stamina, resistance to disease, body size, even how long we live, is all closely related to what we eat. The body is what the body is fed. By the same token, the mind is what the mind is fed. Mind food is the countless things which influence our conscious and subconscious thoughts. The mental foods we consume determine our habits, attitudes, and personality. The mind reflects what its environment feeds it, just as surely as the body reflects the food you feed it. So, your belief about money may be the reason you don’t have enough of it.

Have you ever thought what kind of person you would be had you been reared in some foreign country instead of the United States?, What foods would you prefer?, Would your preference for clothing be the same?, What would be your religion?, What sort of entertainment would you like the most?

Environment shapes us and causes us think the way we do. Try to name just one habit or one mannerism you have, which you did not pick up from other people. The way we walk, cough, hold a cup; our preferences for music, literature, entertainment, and clothing—all stem in very large part from environment.

More importantly, what you believe about money, the size of your thinking, your goals, your attitude, and your very personality, is formed by your environment. If most of the people you spend your time with are financially broke, and they have no ambition to change their financial status, the likelihood of you living with that same mindset is at least ninety percent. If you hang around three broke people, you are sure to be the fourth.

There once lived a very wealthy man who was famed for his great wealth and his liberality. There were certain friends of his younger days who came to him and said: “You are more fortunate than we. You have become very rich while we struggle for existence.

You can wear the finest garments and you can enjoy the rarest foods, while we must be content if we can clothe our families in raiment that is presentable and feed them as best we can.

Yet, once we were equal. We studied under the same master. We played in the same games. And in neither the studies nor the games did you outshine us.

And in the years since, you have been no more an honorable citizen than we have. Nor have you worked harder or more faithfully, insofar as we can judge. Why, then, should a fickle fate, single you out to enjoy all the good things of life and ignore us who are equally deserving?”

The wealthy man said to them, “If you have not acquired more than a bare existence in the years since we were youths, it is because you either have failed to learn the laws that govern the building of wealth, or you do not observe them.”

There are no excuses for staying in the same predicament. Start your process of change by changing your attitude about money. Just like you learned about everything else you presently know, if you will just make a choice about money and how it grows; your financial situation can change in an instant.

Remember, all you may know is not all there is to learn. Learn to respect money and you will attract it.


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