Change Yourself Before Change Changes You

MB Text 4-17-2015 (Change)If there is one thing constant in an endless series of episodes throughout one’s life; it is change. The objective or purpose of a person should never change, but the strategy to obtain it must frequently be modified or tweaked. Unforeseen challenges may require one to rethink and rework their strategy to tackle obstacles or struggles, which might otherwise, cripple efforts and negate objectives. It is important for a person to not be foreign to, or intimidated by change, so their approach to dealing with extenuating circumstances can be handled skillfully, and with thoughtful consideration.

Oftentimes, people sit back on their laurels without considering that the success they may have experienced yesterday, in most cases, is not adequate for motivating them to seek and pioneer new territories. Therefore, instead of continuing to seek new ways to keep their lives and businesses fresh and relevant, they become blind to their indifference to change. It is at this point, where life ends up making choices for people while forcing upon them a ‘must’ choice for which they are ill-prepared, both mentally and spiritually, to make on their own. If you, by choice, are not the mid-wife of the emerging newness waiting to envelop your life, your efforts are inadvertently helping to sustain your old way of life.

While one portion of your dream can be crumbling, another part of it may be budding; seeking to be born. One phase of your life can be on the verge of total collapse, while another segment of your life is struggling to gain access and existence into your world. My advice to you is to learn and practice the profession of a midwife. This way, you will know how to deliver even those dreams that are breach coming through the birth canal.

Change is inevitable and so are choices. It is better to change life on your own terms, into what you want it to be, rather than wait for circumstances to force change in your life which produces undesirable results.

“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

Too often, I have heard people refer to situations as being able to somehow work themselves out; as if they can correct themselves? I have never seen a mess clean itself up, nor have I ever encountered a solution to a problem not deriving from a person. When something is maintaining instead of thriving, it is slowly dying.

I spoke with a gentleman who told me his 92 year old grandmother had recently died. He said his grandmother worked until she was 87 and stayed active until she was 91. He said the moment she became inactive, she died. The same thing usually happens to people who are young and goalless. There is a 74 year old man who is able to bench press almost three times his weight, and if you were to see him, you would know that he must love life. On the other hand, there is a 29 year old man who is perfectly healthy, but mentally, he is slowing dying. He acts as if he has no energy, he has no dreams, and he’s always complaining about how life seems to have dealt him a bad hand. This young man is just as dead at 29 as the older woman was at 92.

Life requires action! Change is necessary for life to be fluent and graceful. My friend, rehearsal is over, the curtain is open and the lights are on; now live! Don’t lock change out; embrace it, own it, and use it according to your terms. Do not allow change to change your life without your approval.

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Dismantle The Walls To Your Progress

MB Text 4-12-2015 (Dismantel Walls)Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.

-Benjamin Franklin

Benjamin Franklin is considered America’s first self-help author, who after leaving school at the age of 10 to work in his father’s candle making business, overcame incredible odds to accomplish a great deal in his lifetime. At the age of 12 Benjamin took an interest in the business of printing. It was there where he developed an appetite for reading and writing. Surprisingly enough, Benjamin Franklin became an accomplished inventor, writer, scientist, statesman, philosopher, diplomat and abolitionist. He achieved all of this without graduating from any one of the finest colleges in his day. Imagine what you can do when you understand the power of progress.

If you want to be a winner and you want your life to change for the better, change your philosophy about what is required for progress now! Learn how to make your progress a reality. Progress is not moving away from challenges; it is not shirking from pressure, and it is certainly not backing down from a fight. Progress earns the right to be what it is because it is the potential to push beyond those obstacles.

I so strongly believe there are no constraints on the human mind, no barriers around the human spirit, and no blockades to our progress except those we ourselves construct. Dismantle the walls that impede your progress. Although it may take some time, progress cannot be achieved without consistency.

Positive development, which is usually gradual in nature, works towards achieving a goal or reaching a higher standard. The principle agent for initiating progress is a word most people don’t mind reading about or saying to others. However, they are diametrically opposed to applying it to themselves. That word is CHANGE! If you don’t change what you’re doing, you will never shift your movement from regression to progression. Progress is forward or onward movement. Progress is advancement.

The words progress or progressiveness could be pleasant words to use, however change is the motivator, and change has its enemies. Resistance is an enemy to change; therefore, it is an adversary to progress. If you are resistant to change you are tolerant of excuses. If your ‘should’ does not turn into ‘must’, you will be consistently passive towards change, and progress will never be realized.

Your standards must change. You must place a higher standard on yourself than what others may require of you. If you remain passive toward making the necessary changes in your life, and wait for life to give you the ‘have-to’, something will come along in your life and provide you with the ‘must’ that may not be very pleasant.

It is sad when overweight people are warned by their physicians, that if they don’t change the way they eat they will probably be dead within two years. Only after hearing this kind of threat, do some of them finally get serious about their diets. Sometimes, life’s ‘musts’ comes too late and lives are lost as a result. Or consider relationships which were given little attention because one person thought providing money instead of time, was the only requirement for being a good spouse or parent.

The goal of progress is to reach whatever is placed before it, and the only thing you need to recover from is a fractured sense of self when the journey is laborious. Personal transformation can and does have global effects. As we change, so changes the world around us. The revolution which can save your life and ultimately someone else’s life, is a personal one.

As you learn to master the art of progression, your achievements will eventually give others the right to believe that what you accomplish, they can for themselves, experience similar accomplishments.

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The Intrinsic Quality of the Successful

iqs-200-postIf you are waiting for someone to substantiate that you are a success, you are waiting for the wrong information. If you are looking around to see the symbols of your success to validate whether or not you are a success, you are looking at the wrong things.


Internal success far outweighs external success. Knowing who you are and living a life of fulfillment is far more valuable than all the money in the world. In fact, having a powerful sense of self-awareness, and an intuitive knowledge of who you truly are without the need of outside influences to help you secure your mental sense of self-worth, is a priceless commodity.

I am not saying wealth and material things are not important, because that would not be true. On the contrary, money and material things are an absolute necessity if one is going to survive in this world. Riches may not bring permanent happiness, but neither will poverty. I have seen wealthy people miserable and unhappy, though they possess all the money and material things a person can dream of having. I have also seen people living with just the bare basic necessities of life, and they are just as miserable and unhappy as the person with everything.

Therefore, money and material things are not the true symbols of success. The Good Book says that a person who cannot rule their own soul is like a city without walls. This means that the person’s life and all they may have built throughout their lifetime is completely vulnerable and open to assaults. These people usually end up losing everything because they most likely have stepped on (not over) many friends and associates just to get what they thought would validate them in the eyes of people. A person succeeding in making money is not an indicator that the person has succeeded with controlling their insatiable appetites of lasciviousness.

Your self-image is a product of your experiences, failures, triumphs, humiliations, and breakthroughs. Through these experiences, you create a picture of yourself and most importantly, you believe that it is a true depiction of who you are. Because you believe your self-image is accurate, you base your actions on it. If your actions lead to failure or success, your self-image is then is responsible. There is a reason why willpower does not work, and why it is like a snap-back effect. Your “will” is powered by something other than you simply making a decision to do something. Your mind controls your body, but your will controls your mind.

When people use willpower, what they are actually doing is going to battle against their self-image. However, the self-image is always stronger because it is their subconscious belief. To further explain my point, I want you to view yourself as a rubber band. When you stretch the rubber band, it is similar to your willpower. If you think you can go around for a full day as a fully stretched out rubber band, you are sadly mistaken. At some point during the course of the day, something will distract you—and you will let up on the pressure. When that happens, the rubber band snaps back to its true shape. This is what happens when you use your will power to mentally change what you think about yourself without you changing your intrinsic core belief of who you are. Woody Allen said, “My only regret is that I’m not someone else.”

What a sad way of thinking about yourself. You can make all the money your little heart desires, but you better know why you are trying to make money, because money itself will not be the remedy to your lack of fulfillment. This is one of the reasons why so many people experience the yo-yo effect. The will is designed to do what it does, but it does not make you who you are. If you learn to re-engineer your self-image based on a God-consciousness, you will permanently expand it, and there will be no more snap-back effect.

A neighbor was befriending a child in the neighborhood.
“I understand that you have twins in your home. Are you one of them?”
The boy slowly put his head down and said, “No sir! I’m just a spare.”

Once you learn how to activate and release God’s power in every situation, you will find yourself moving beyond obstacles that previously frustrated you. You will actually develop an unstoppable God (self)-confidence and a heightened excitement about your future. Like most people, your will is to be successful, but it does not mean because your will is for success, that you will obtain it. You have to go further than just to will it; you have to believe it so that no approval would be necessary to make your life work. There is no doubt in my mind that if you are a success; the only thing I must do is to believe that you are.

Now, let me re-address the subject of money. It’s right to make money and even ethically there is nothing wrong with making a lot of money. Money may not grow on trees, but it does grow from talent and knowledge. Concentration, Creativity, and Negotiation are three important elements of having a successful business. The ability to take an idea, analyze business opportunities, and evaluate business options is a major attribute use. When your heart is balanced, it takes a conscientious effort to ensure that your mind coincides with your heart.

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The Strength of Perseverance

refuse-200 If I could give in a single word the missing ingredient that people seem to lack in their pursuit of excellence, or in reaching their goals or avoiding discouragement, it would be perseverance. To define perseverance in its most generic term, it would be described as the ability to ‘keep on keeping on.’ Most people have no idea as to how critical these words are to your success.


How do you continue doing the things that you have committed yourself to doing, when it seems to be no fruit production from your labor?  How do you continue doing something when you no longer like doing it?

This matter of perseverance is so critical to life that above all human traits, the perseverance characteristic should be built into the psyche and life of every child. The Greek word for perseverance literally means “staying power”.  The ability to remain focused under the pressure is the key while traveling on the road of success. If success is a journey than perseverance is the vehicle used. While you are traveling on any road, there will be some bumps (disappointments) and potholes (obstacles) in the road that you must learn to avoid.

It is easy to start the race with exuberance, but it is not so easy to finish.  Every marriage starts with the blissful thought of a couple being together forever, but today approximately 60 percent of them end up in Divorce Court. Every dreamer starts off with the idea that their business concept is the best on the market and that they are going to be on the fast-track to sell tons of their products, only to discover that they produced a ton, but only sold a few. If you think that life is a sprinters paradise, you are sadly mistaken. Life is a marathon; therefore, it should never be viewed as a 100-yard dash.

What happens with a marriage that ended in divorce? This question is easy; rather than preparing for 40 or even 60 years, which takes work, they thought that the marriage would take care of itself and so they made no preparations at all. This is why we have such great starters out from the gates, but very few ever make it to the finish line. They end up making some lame excuse so that they do not look bad in the eyes of their contemporaries. However, what does it matter what other people think when you yourself realize that you didn’t fail because you did not have the right stuff, you failed because you quit.

The opposite of perseverance is giving up. I personally know what it feels like to be in a dark place in life as if you are in a dark tunnel and that you have been traveling for days with no light in sight. It can be hard to concentrate when the darkness literally impedes your view. However, making the conscious decision to move forward is a matter of knowing what you want and how bad you want it. When you are faced with turbulent times is when your faith is tested, your resilience is stretched, and your toughness is brought into question. I know, I know…no one likes to be in this station in life, however, life goes on. What each person has to decide in a situation that seems to have no visible options is does the dream go on, does the marriage go on, or does the business go on.

If ten percent of the population controls wealth, then ninety percent might be scrubbing the bottom of the barrel. Most start up businesses, especially restaurants, fail with its first year, while others may have a window of two to four years. Why? Good question. To be willing to survive tough times, you have to be willing to learn. Learning is fundamental! You can learn a lot by what you go through, but you can learn a lot more by listening to others who outlasted the tough times you are presently experiencing.

Get inspired! Get turned on! Never, never quit because you will never get to see what the end will actually look like. Your dream is worth the fight, and so is your life. Hold on and keep on keeping on.


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In The Hunt For One Thing!

200-one-thing What does Tiger Woods, Donald Trump, Michael Jordan, Warren Buffet, Oprah Winfrey, Mark Victor Hansen, and Dr. Ben Carson all have in common?

I know; you may agree with the fact that they are all rich and famous. And, you are absolutely correct in your personal assumption. You could even say that each of these individuals have achieved something notable. I will not argue with you about that. However, there is something else…a quality that these and other not-so-rich and famous people have acquired. They have all discovered the one personal characteristic that billions of people have yet to discover. You heard correctly, I said Billions with a B.


People spend their entire lives thinking of what could make them happy. Regrettably, over ninety percent of the population thinks having more than enough money would make them the happiest people on the planet. I personally differ with that opinion. I am not saying that these people do not know what they want, but what I am saying, is that they haven’t the faintest idea of what they need to actually fulfill their lives. The only reason an overwhelming percentage of the population, especially those living in the United States, feel like money is the solution to their misery is because they have not discovered their true passion. Hundreds of people have won hundreds of thousands and even tens to hundreds of millions of dollars in some lottery game, and yet in five years or less, close to eighty percent of those winners are broke.

The previous list of people I mentioned, have one thing in common, and it’s not money. What they all have in common is that they have discovered the one thing that lights up their eyes more than money itself. Money is important but not that important. It’s just unfortunate that in this nation, money is how we keep score. Purpose, destiny, passion and/or a dream is more valuable than money itself to those who breathe their ‘one’ thing. It is what keeps them getting up in the morning when nothing is going right for them.

When you realize what it is you were called to do, you’ll find that you would rather be happy in the right place doing what you love, with hardly anything going right for you at that moment, than to be in the wrong place and feeling miserable when everything is picture perfect. You can never be yourself until you know yourself.

“The people who make it to the top – whether they’re musicians, or great chefs, or corporate honchos – are addicted to their calling … [they] are the ones who’d be doing whatever it is they love, even if they weren’t being paid.”

~Quincy Jones

So, have you discovered what it is you were called to do? Some people can have an inkling of their true calling, but for them there are too many obstacles, too many distractions, and too many people standing in their way. The cost is too much for them to pay and they feel they have too much to lose.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said something so profound in one of his speeches that when I read it, it dropped deep within my soul and exploded and I have never recovered from this truth, neither do I ever want to recover. This quote helped me to focus my life with purpose and escape the mediocrity of a blurred vision.

“Deep down in our non-violent creed is the conviction there are some things so dear, some things so precious, some things so eternally true, that they’re worth dying for. And if a man happens to be 36-years-old, as I happen to be, some great truth stands before the door of his life–some great opportunity to stand up for that which is right.
A man might be afraid his home will get bombed, or he’s afraid that he will lose his job, or he’s afraid that he will get shot, or beat down by state troopers, and he may go on and live until he’s 80. He’s just as dead at 36 as he would be at 80…”

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

Never, ever apologize for doing what you love and what you believe you are called to do, even if what you love doesn’t meet the specifications of a loved one. Never settle for a paycheck to ignore your passion…which has no equal value to your dream-worth. And, never let anyone talk you out of what you believe God has placed deep down in your heart. What you know to do in your heart has greater value and purpose than what you think you know to do with your life.

If I were you, I would not rest from my search of discovering my purpose until I was totally convinced of what I was created to perform on this planet, or life just will not have the same worth.


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Facing the Challenges

never-give-up200x150I have encountered many obstacles during my lifetime and undoubtedly, I will experience more. Nevertheless, there is one principle I have learned which has been the catalyst for my fighting through these obstacles… and this principle in simple form is to never give up!

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It’s Not Over: You Can Defeat What’s Got You Down!

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Negatives Are All Around Us, However, So Are the Positives. You Can Always Find a Reason To Get Up After Being Knocked Down By Life.

Many people living today may not know who Bing Crosby was, but he was a well known singer from the 40’s to mid 70’s, but who is better known for his movies, “The Bells of St. Mary and White Christmas.” Bing Crosby sung a song that said, “Accentuate the Positive, Eliminate the Negative, Latch on to the Affirmative, and Don’t Mess with Mr. In Between”. This is a powerful way of saying, ‘Focus on your positives, neglect the negatives, and be decisive.’ Continue reading “It’s Not Over: You Can Defeat What’s Got You Down!”