Change Yourself Before Change Changes You

MB Text 4-17-2015 (Change)If there is one thing constant in an endless series of episodes throughout one’s life; it is change. The objective or purpose of a person should never change, but the strategy to obtain it must frequently be modified or tweaked. Unforeseen challenges may require one to rethink and rework their strategy to tackle obstacles or struggles, which might otherwise, cripple efforts and negate objectives. It is important for a person to not be foreign to, or intimidated by change, so their approach to dealing with extenuating circumstances can be handled skillfully, and with thoughtful consideration.

Oftentimes, people sit back on their laurels without considering that the success they may have experienced yesterday, in most cases, is not adequate for motivating them to seek and pioneer new territories. Therefore, instead of continuing to seek new ways to keep their lives and businesses fresh and relevant, they become blind to their indifference to change. It is at this point, where life ends up making choices for people while forcing upon them a ‘must’ choice for which they are ill-prepared, both mentally and spiritually, to make on their own. If you, by choice, are not the mid-wife of the emerging newness waiting to envelop your life, your efforts are inadvertently helping to sustain your old way of life.

While one portion of your dream can be crumbling, another part of it may be budding; seeking to be born. One phase of your life can be on the verge of total collapse, while another segment of your life is struggling to gain access and existence into your world. My advice to you is to learn and practice the profession of a midwife. This way, you will know how to deliver even those dreams that are breach coming through the birth canal.

Change is inevitable and so are choices. It is better to change life on your own terms, into what you want it to be, rather than wait for circumstances to force change in your life which produces undesirable results.

“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

Too often, I have heard people refer to situations as being able to somehow work themselves out; as if they can correct themselves? I have never seen a mess clean itself up, nor have I ever encountered a solution to a problem not deriving from a person. When something is maintaining instead of thriving, it is slowly dying.

I spoke with a gentleman who told me his 92 year old grandmother had recently died. He said his grandmother worked until she was 87 and stayed active until she was 91. He said the moment she became inactive, she died. The same thing usually happens to people who are young and goalless. There is a 74 year old man who is able to bench press almost three times his weight, and if you were to see him, you would know that he must love life. On the other hand, there is a 29 year old man who is perfectly healthy, but mentally, he is slowing dying. He acts as if he has no energy, he has no dreams, and he’s always complaining about how life seems to have dealt him a bad hand. This young man is just as dead at 29 as the older woman was at 92.

Life requires action! Change is necessary for life to be fluent and graceful. My friend, rehearsal is over, the curtain is open and the lights are on; now live! Don’t lock change out; embrace it, own it, and use it according to your terms. Do not allow change to change your life without your approval.

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Aging with Grace

You know you’re getting older when your children begin to look middle aged. When your back goes out more than you do, that’s a sure sign that your days are numbered. Aging doesn’t have to be bad or regrettable. Aging can be fun if you approach it with the right attitude.

I appreciate being in my fifties because I still view myself as being quite young. I may not be as young and vibrant as I once was, but still, I have enough energy and mobility to rival any 30 year old. Okay, I thought the gleam in my eyes was from the sun, only to discover it was hitting my bifocals. And, there are times I feel like the “morning after”, but I hadn’t been anywhere. Nevertheless, I am having a ball.

There are some awesome benefits with aging and they are quite hilarious. For example, you can say things that young people cannot say. You can humiliate people and they simply chalk it up to your age. You can act like you forgot something and actually get away with it. Younger people will think you know all the answers without being asked. They do not have a clue that you have already been down the street several times that they are traveling on. Younger people consider your evenings dull, but you consider them very enjoyable and relaxing.

I discovered that the more I am left alone, the more I love it. Just imagine, I get to fall asleep anywhere and wake up refreshed. I like getting older; I just refuse to get old. My I.Q. has increased; I can answer many of the questions on the game show called, Jeopardy and actually like my adult children. Everything is great!

Unless, God just blessed you with a surprise baby boy who makes life’s processes start over again for you. This time, I started off at nearly fifty and my wife in her mid-forties. Wow, starting again isn’t all bad; I get to play baseball, basketball, soccer, kickball, bowling, golf, tennis, run and dodge, football, etc… Boy, I’m getting tired just thinking about all the running around I must still have left in me. If God has a sense of humor, this sure isn’t funny. Age with grace or you will find yourself becoming a miserable old person.