Dismantle The Walls To Your Progress

MB Text 4-12-2015 (Dismantel Walls)Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.

-Benjamin Franklin

Benjamin Franklin is considered America’s first self-help author, who after leaving school at the age of 10 to work in his father’s candle making business, overcame incredible odds to accomplish a great deal in his lifetime. At the age of 12 Benjamin took an interest in the business of printing. It was there where he developed an appetite for reading and writing. Surprisingly enough, Benjamin Franklin became an accomplished inventor, writer, scientist, statesman, philosopher, diplomat and abolitionist. He achieved all of this without graduating from any one of the finest colleges in his day. Imagine what you can do when you understand the power of progress.

If you want to be a winner and you want your life to change for the better, change your philosophy about what is required for progress now! Learn how to make your progress a reality. Progress is not moving away from challenges; it is not shirking from pressure, and it is certainly not backing down from a fight. Progress earns the right to be what it is because it is the potential to push beyond those obstacles.

I so strongly believe there are no constraints on the human mind, no barriers around the human spirit, and no blockades to our progress except those we ourselves construct. Dismantle the walls that impede your progress. Although it may take some time, progress cannot be achieved without consistency.

Positive development, which is usually gradual in nature, works towards achieving a goal or reaching a higher standard. The principle agent for initiating progress is a word most people don’t mind reading about or saying to others. However, they are diametrically opposed to applying it to themselves. That word is CHANGE! If you don’t change what you’re doing, you will never shift your movement from regression to progression. Progress is forward or onward movement. Progress is advancement.

The words progress or progressiveness could be pleasant words to use, however change is the motivator, and change has its enemies. Resistance is an enemy to change; therefore, it is an adversary to progress. If you are resistant to change you are tolerant of excuses. If your ‘should’ does not turn into ‘must’, you will be consistently passive towards change, and progress will never be realized.

Your standards must change. You must place a higher standard on yourself than what others may require of you. If you remain passive toward making the necessary changes in your life, and wait for life to give you the ‘have-to’, something will come along in your life and provide you with the ‘must’ that may not be very pleasant.

It is sad when overweight people are warned by their physicians, that if they don’t change the way they eat they will probably be dead within two years. Only after hearing this kind of threat, do some of them finally get serious about their diets. Sometimes, life’s ‘musts’ comes too late and lives are lost as a result. Or consider relationships which were given little attention because one person thought providing money instead of time, was the only requirement for being a good spouse or parent.

The goal of progress is to reach whatever is placed before it, and the only thing you need to recover from is a fractured sense of self when the journey is laborious. Personal transformation can and does have global effects. As we change, so changes the world around us. The revolution which can save your life and ultimately someone else’s life, is a personal one.

As you learn to master the art of progression, your achievements will eventually give others the right to believe that what you accomplish, they can for themselves, experience similar accomplishments.

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Instinct of A Premonition

TransitionCan you feel something is shifting in the atmosphere? Can you sense something is stirring beneath everything going on in society? What is it and what can it be? This is not a spooky Twilight Zone episode or some paranormal activity to open you to clairvoyant ability. However, these feelings or this sensing is the infrastructure of your human make-up placed in you by God. It is just as natural as it is spiritual—it is similar to your innate ability to sense danger.

There are times when a person can have an intuitive inclination about something they know nothing about, times when a person can actually sense something is coming whereby the agent of preparation is being pushed by the challenges a person is facing.

When you feel a push in your spirit or you have a premonition or suspicion that your life is about to shift from one direction to another, it is because it is. Sometimes, you start gearing up for something big, when in fact it could be something small but extremely impactful to your future. In fact, when this transition actually occurs you will probably not notice it until you see the new levels of opportunities clearly standing before you.

Allow me to explain what I mean by this. When there is a convergence occurring in your life, it is as if you can feel the winds of circumstances shifting, but you are not quite sure what change to expect. What is happening is situations in life, small or big, are pushing you to the brink of destruction or construction. The company you are employed by just layoff laid your best friend off but they promised you are not on the upcoming list of layoffs. You, however, wanting to feel a sense of comfort, were not totally confident with their statement. Sure enough, two weeks down the road you got the pink slip and you packed your things and left the company.

The oddest thing happened when you received the initial notice that the company would keep you…you had this push in you to prepare like never before for your next level. So that uncomfortable feeling was a clock ticking inside you warning you of a shift. Therefore, when the pink slip came, you were not discouraged; you were actually encouraged because the pink slip was the final confirmation of a shift; convergence. Out of this convergence came the birth of a multi-million dollar company which would never have been birthed if you had stayed in the comfort of a nine to five job.

Now don’t move so fast because there is another side to this narrative. When a person senses these intangible and unidentifiable intuitions and ignores them, the results will be an internalization of despondency. They will not only be left without a job, but the ball will continues to roll downhill to negatively affect their marriage, savings, and living conditions.

This unwarranted stress is a measured indicator notifying you that you have to expand. So, the pressure makes you feel you’re not ready; but in fact, you are ready. To you the pressure is a problem, but in actuality the pressure is a signal that it’s time to expand. If you continue to ignore the signal to expand, you will eventually become expendable. I don’t like saying this, but some people will live their entire lives in a small cavity because they don’t want to face the challenges which will open their sights, enlarge their living capacities and introduce them to a whole new world; which for them, only exists on the big screen.

While you are having moments of despair, God is expanding your capacity to occupy your destiny.

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Uncompromising Dedication

dedication-postWhat is your level of dedication? Is dedication necessary for success? If so, how dedicated should one be if they are going to succeed? Can a person succeed with half-hearted dedication? The answer is yes, if the task before them requires little or no dedication. However, if the challenge is daunting and extremely difficult, which in most cases are the battles worth fighting; it will take everything in a person to succeed.

Dedication can never be categorized as a neutral void in the middle. You are either dedicated or you’re not; there is no in-between. Dedication is vital for success in anything you do, but especially in whatever your ultimate life pursuit may be.

Dedication is determined by the hours upon hours spent honing in on your craft. A professional athlete understands that the game they play is so competitive, and the margin for error is so slim, that if they are not dedicated to improving themselves to perform at the highest level of their game; they will not last long playing their particular sport. As great as talent is, it is not always enough to succeed. Another person’s natural talent may be greater than yours, but their heart and dedication may be diminutive.

I would love to tell you there are shortcuts to succeeding in life, business, or whatever sport you may be presently engaged in, but the truth of the matter is there are none. If success is what you genuinely want in life, it must, [not should], be pursued with a phenomenal amount of fortitude and dedication. Don’t misunderstand me, winning isn’t everything, but it is the most desired outcome for a goal oriented person, or any competitive athlete who is actually driven to succeed in life or business.

Dedication involves courage which is the gap between knowing the right thing and doing it. You really don’t choose courage and dedication; it chooses you because of your undying devotion to succeed in whatever the mandate laid upon you. It is an empowering decision to stand and fight rather than run; to persevere rather than quit. Dedication is refusing to overlook a difficult challenge standing in your path to prevent you from reaching your goal and choosing to move forward rather than remain stagnate.

What is dedication? It is a very strong mental and emotional support for, or loyalty to someone or something or a cause. It is not a desire to conquer or rule another person; instead, it is a deep intrinsic desire to conquer oneself and defeat one’s own fears. I believe and have often said people are generally one quality decision away from accomplishing any goal, achieving any personal desire or obtaining anything they want in life.

Dedication is not only an undying devotion to a particular cause or purpose, but a commitment to thrive and live out ones determination despite the cost. It is not the process of deciding to try or pursue something until it becomes difficult. The person of a dedicated quality mindset, who lives by their personal convictions, is no longer flexible concerning their life assignment; however, they may be flexible concerning their methods. Without preparation and attention to detail, one’s actions will not amount to courage. It takes courage and dedication to push through the difficulties of life and to maintain a positive mental attitude. Some people may not understand your relentless drive to do what you do on a daily basis, but they will appreciate it.

John is the kind of guy you love to hate, though not in a bad way. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!” He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing his style really made me curious, so one day I went up to John and asked him, “I don’t get it. You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” John replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, ‘You have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes, it is,” John said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.”

I reflected on what John said. Soon after, I left the Soar Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I decided to choose life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that John was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, John was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw John about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied. “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Would you like to see my scars?”

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon to be born daughter, “John replied.” Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.

John continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read ‘He’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

“Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said John. “She asked if I was allergic to anything.” ‘Yes’, I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Gravity.’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead’.” John lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of the amazing attitude that he embodied as a result of his dedication to being a positive person. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully, however, dedication is required.

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Disarming Pressure and Stress

stressed-200HOW DO YOU HANDLE PRESSURE OR STRESS? Pressure has a way of disorienting you, scrambling your brain patterns, and causing confusion. If you don’t learn to get a handle on it the moment it appears, the result could be drastic mood swings and destructive behavior patterns.

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It Takes Everything To Win!

It Takes Everything To Win!
It Takes Everything To Win!
In my many years of studying personal human behavior, I have discovered that a person, in and of himself, cannot determine how far they can go or how much they can take. Neither, can they determine the extent to which they are willing to sacrifice, without something or someone coercing them to either their breaking point, or their refusal to break point. When you are pushed and shoved to exceed your personal limits, it demonstrates how your personal boundaries are not necessarily determined by you, as much as by your willingness to triumph against the person or challenge that is poised to conquer you.

Your internal drive and determination to win in life, sports, or business is not accelerated by the limits you have set, but by the challenge that pushes you to reposition the line of your capability, just to overcome. This is usually the story behind every great person who discovered that the boundary they set was only established because they had no opponent or challenge to impel them to reestablish their limits.

There can be no victories without encountering conflict. Whoever concedes to the pressures of life or the abilities of their competitor, cannot exceed the limits they have personally set for themselves.

As I watched game seven of the NBA 2013 Finals between the San Antonio Spurs and the Miami Heat, I saw both teams display resilience and mental toughness throughout the course of the game. My thought was that a loss on either side would come down to one individual breaking down during the last seconds of the game. I thought the person that mentally breaks down and creates mistakes would not be a person who is not a good player, but one who has not consistently played well throughout the series. Unfortunately, that player was Manu Ginobili. The collage of negative thoughts that bombard a person after a poor performance, whether in life, sports or business, has but one aim—and that aim is to discourage and batter you until you find yourself rehearsing the mistakes that you are so desperately trying not to repeat.

Whether a team wins or loses, it is still a team. However, the individual role player on that team who isn’t mentally hungry and composed enough to want to do anything and everything to win, will allow their opponent to push them to move their mental and physical limitation, and they are just as responsible for the team’s loss as the team itself.

I heard LeBron James in an interview after winning the seventh game of the NBA 2013 Finals say, “The Spurs are a great team that pushed us to new limits.” In a nutshell, what LeBron James was saying was that his internal hunger to defeat the San Antonio Spurs became more intense during the game. It made him play smarter and harder than he’s ever played, dig deeper inside himself than he’s ever internally dug, and fight harder than he’s ever fought before.

My friend, this is what champions are made of. You will never realize how great you can be until you become hungrier to succeed than you are fearful to fail.

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Facing the Challenges

never-give-up200x150I have encountered many obstacles during my lifetime and undoubtedly, I will experience more. Nevertheless, there is one principle I have learned which has been the catalyst for my fighting through these obstacles… and this principle in simple form is to never give up!

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The Prerequisite for Mental Toughness

Mental Toughness
Mental Toughness
How do you think you would do in the area of exercising mental toughness?

It is easy to sit back and analyze another person’s performance, and say what you would do if you were in their situation. The truth of the matter is, if you have never been there or been trained for certain situations, you have no clue as to how you would respond under such severe mental pressure. Sometimes we are unable to change our environment to manage stress – this may be the case where we do not have the power to change a situation. Therefore, a person must learn to adapt and improvise in order to overcome the mental challenges and to have the best possible chance of succeeding. This is only accomplished with training.

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Understanding Your Commodities

Don’t spoil today by worrying about tomorrow. Pressure is not your enemy; it is what is in you that causes you to react to it the way you do. Pressure normally occurs when the flow of something is held up either by the narrowing of the channel through which it flows or when momentum is met with a dead end. If the hindrances persist, the pressure will build until it stops the flow or until the flow violently breaks out under pressure. Pressure squeezes what is in you out of you. If there is a lack of character in you, it will come out under pressure. When life’s pressure pushes you in a corner, the first lesson is to not panic.

Some things may get in your way but they don’t have to stay in your way. Bats are said to live longer for their size than any other animal. They have a life span of twenty years. It has been suggested that the secret to their longevity is their ability to relax and go quickly into the deep sleep of hibernation. Right after fighting, bats can almost immediately slow its heartbeat from 180 per minute to three and it can retard its respiration from eight breaths a second to one every eight minutes. A person under stress needs to study the life of a Bat and practice its habits of rest because it may not only extend one’s life, but also strengthen their psyche.

A woman was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given a short time to live. She and her husband began to live each day with tremendous clarity and love. When it was nearly the end of her life, a friend finally got up the courage to ask the dying woman a question: “What does it feel like to live each day knowing you are dying?” She raised herself up on one arm, and then asked him, “What does it feel like to live each day pretending that you are not?

When life is underestimated, so is the value of time. Moreover, when time is misappropriated, life is simply wasted. Doing nothing is about the most tiresome work in the world because you cannot stop and rest. God may be in control of time, but you determine what to do with it. We cannot recuperate lost time or lengthen the amount of time given to us. However, if we are wise, we can fundamentally know how not to waste it. The law of waste dictates that when something as precious as time is squandered on worrying, it becomes litter or trash. If wasting time was against the law, how many people would be in jail or fined? I do not believe that it is possible during this lifetime to estimate how much time is wasted doing nothing. Worrying is like throwing time away when it could be used for brainstorming solutions.

A young successful attorney said:
“The greatest gift I ever received was a gift I got one Christmas when my Dad gave me a small box. Inside was a note saying, “Son, this year I will give you 365 hours, an hour every day after dinner. It’s yours.”
“My dad not only kept his promise,” he said, “but every year he renewed it-and it’s the greatest gift I ever had in my life. I am the result of his time.”

Time is your most precious commodity; if you spend it wisely, it will not only benefit you but the world as well.

Improvising Under Pressure

Discover how to over the pressure of life.

What do you do when you’ve placed a lot of time and thought into your plan, but your plan does not seem to work out accordingly? How do you deal with the stress that is associated with having to make adjustments in the middle of a time restraint? Well, staying calm is your first inclination, but your initial action is to push the panic button. Staying calm and maintaining one’s composure is easier said than done. It is always less stressful for the person giving advice to stay calm, especially when they are on the outside looking in.

Pressure exists when time and schedule collides – which inevitably creates deadlines. However, a different kind of pressure exists when you are in the process of buying a new home and moving out of your existing one. I have never personally experienced or seen anyone seeking to purchase a home, where everything went according to plan. I am sure that there are isolated cases out there, but the majority of house hunting and moving in situations fail to meet the time schedule. A person can plan, plan and plan; but just when you think you have it all down, covering every mishap, something happens. Usually, someone in the process misses their cue, drops the ball, or procrastinates during the timetable, and creates an inconvenience for you.

I recall in 1993, my wife and I were in the process of buying our first home together and we thought we gave ourselves ample time to prepare to move out of the house we were living in and move into the new one. We had it all together. We were going to have the old house painted, cleaned and ready for the new tenets to move in right before closing on our new home. It was set, we were ready to move out, and I received a call from my real estate agent that closing was might be delayed for several days. My wife started asking questions concerning the reason for the delay and becoming frantic about having a place to stay. I couldn’t answer her questions until I spoke with the mortgage company. Suddenly, we are pushed into a situation that had catastrophic written all over it.

I quickly realized my temperature was rapidly increasing, so before I got out of control, I decided to remain calm so that I could digest the information and consider our next step. Two people in a panic only creates [create sounds wrong] more panic. I asked the new tenets if they could delay moving in to our home for several days until the mortgage company could straighten out the paper work. Thank God, they did not have a problem with it. When we sat down with the mortgage broker, he explained a catch 22 scenario and informed us that they would have to resubmit the paperwork to the loan committee. I asked, “How long will this take?” “Up to 30 days”, said the mortgage company broker. I wanted to say that we didn’t have thirty more days, but in reality, I resolved that we had as long as it was going to take to move into our new home.

I was determined that I was not going to be beaten down by someone’s apparent oversight and allow them to push us into a difficult situation. I said to the mortgage broker to resubmit the paper work, knowing that he didn’t have the guts to mention it was his fault. I collected my thoughts, talked to my wife about our next step and informed the new tenets to prepare to move in two days from then. We moved into a hotel, placed our furniture in storage, and went to a restaurant for dinner. When we became calm, so did our environment. It was not the end of the world; it was the beginning of a new plan. We ended up moving in with friends and paid them what we would have paid the hotel.

The mortgage paperwork took approximately thirty days to be approved and for us to move into our new home. However, something happened with us when we did not allow the situation to dictate to us feelings of panic and uncertainty. When situations are out of your control, it does not mean that you are out of control. Keep your cool, relax, and allow your creative juices to flow. You will discover new avenues that ultimately create situations that turn in your favor. Moreover, your blood pressure will remain 120 over 80, your stress will be less, and today will eventually turn into tomorrow. When schedules and time collide, don’t you crash with them! When things are out of your control, you remain in control. See you at the next deadline.

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