Gifting, Training or Both

There are many things during your lifetime that will capture your eye and pull your attention, but only a few things will seize your heart and encapsulate your dreams. These quality traits of life are necessary to pursue because they are designed to create balance and wholeness. Be careful of what you say to yourself because you will respond to whatever you say. It is not as critical to know who you presently are, as much as it is for you to know who you want to be.

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

~George Bernard Shaw

I am personally acquainted with people who have exceptional oratory skills-some are professional speakers, others are clergymen, some are CEOs and people in top managerial positions, and yet, these well-trained and qualified speakers rave about me having a magnetic gift to communicate. I am astonished at their personal admiration, but sometimes I cannot help and wonder if the adoration is for my so-called gift of gab or for the words I share that seem to narrow in on the innermost recesses of the listener’s heart. Personally, I survey my speaking as imparting which I view as entirely different from one who simply eloquently articulates.

What is your gift? Do you believe you have a gift? Can you identify what your gift is? Do you believe that your gift needs no additional grooming? I believe everyone has a special gifting, but not everyone is as talented as others. Many people can sing, but there aren’t as many that can lead a song. Now, we can it narrow down to those who can be the lead on a song, but only a few have a special gift to sing with such emotion that they inherently move their audience to tears. Identifying your gift or talent is relative to how you train. Those who can recognize their ability can employ the right person to help them develop it.

It is difficult to know who you want to be until you see what you can actually do. Michael Jordan almost forgot who he wanted to be because of the death of his father. After Michael Jordan’s father pasted, he returned to his childhood desire of playing baseball which was spurred by his father’s passion. Michael had only a desire to play baseball, but his father had a passion for the game. After MJ went to the baseball minor league and miserably failed at playing the game, he became absolutely certain of his deep passion to play basketball. For those who watched him while he won his individual basketball accolades and his six national basketball championships (two three-peats), he became ‘the’ Michael Jordan.

Lack and limitation can only exist when we make room for them in our mind.

~Bob Proctor

When you plan to be who you want to be, you do not plan for incidentals. You work to develop your gift and passion. Life is a series of lessons, which must be lived to be understood. Motivation is the engine to move you to start your dream, but habit is the oil that keeps your engine lubricated and operating smoothly.

My Incredible Self

Psychologists claim that the number one problem that people constantly confront is how they think about themselves. Are people actually wrestling with the concept of understanding themselves? To say the least, people generally illustrate the level of their self-esteem by how much they attempt to change their outward appearance rather than focusing on their inner self.

How you feel about yourself should be 10 percent exterior, and 90 percent interior. A person’s house can look immaculate on the outside, but unfortunately, people do not live outside of their homes. Feeling good about yourself begins with how you feel internally about you. If you place all your stock on your exterior, your self-esteem is actually unhealthy.

What if you gained 50 pounds or more or crashed into an on-coming vehicle while driving your car, and your face became severely scarred; or your health quickly deteriorated, leaving you physically incapacitated? Since how you feel about yourself is based mostly on your physical appearance, if any of these three things occurred, it would drive your self-esteem in the basement.

I am not suggesting that the exterior does not matter; but what I am alluding to is that you have a natural propensity to give more credence to a part of yourself that does not equate to your inner most recesses. Who determines if you are unattractive, weak, or worthless? It certainly cannot be other people; because they don’t live in your skin. You determined that how you feel is the way you are. This is the furthest from the truth. Your feelings (emotions) are the imagination (pictures) of your thoughts. Change what you think, and your feelings will shift as well. Do not simply think of yourself as incredible, believe that you are incredible; and thus, you will live an incredible life.

An Excerpt from Marianne Williamson, “Our Greatest Fear”

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
  • Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
  • It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
  • We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?