Be Careful What You Ask For…!

MB_textImagine being blind from birth—never been able to see, and you’re trying to describe a person’s features. Or, perhaps you’re deaf from birth and you’ve never been able to use your imagination to try to imagine what sounds are like. When sight is given or sounds are realized, how do you think you would then view your life, the world and the people around you?

The gift of sight and sound is a phenomenal ability that opens the world to you in so many ways. Think of the beauty of the various flowers, the mountains, the ocean and seas, the trees and the stars in the universe. I assure you that the sounds would be equally as incredible when you hear the roaring waters of the ocean pushed by the wind, the voices of those you love, the amazing sounds of instruments and singing voices, and finally, the greatest three words ever spoken in human history; I Love You! How much would those three words mean to you now that you can see the person who says them to you?

Let me help you with the true ability and gift of sight and sound by starting with a simple question. What features would be considered beautiful if you have never been able to see and define for yourself, what is beautiful? Would color or race matter if there were no words that could be heard or image that could be viewed?

Let me tell you a story of a blind and deaf man who encountered a man with amazing ability. This man could communicate to the deaf and blind man relatively easily. The man with such incredible gifting granted the man three desires of his heart.

The deaf and blind man was amazed how he could understand this amazing gentleman and communicate what he really desired in his heart. He pointed towards his eyes, indicating that he wanted to see. When the gifted gentleman granted his desire by opening his eyes, the deaf and blind man was mirthful and in awe of what he could see. He looked at the different people, and every one of them was beautiful.

The man once blind went everywhere touching everything he could see, however, his understanding was still in a world of silence. He went back to the man with amazing ability and pointed towards his ear. The gentleman granted his second wish. Suddenly, with the same excitement he expressed about his sight, he becomes just as jubilant about his ability to now hear. The sounds are incredible, voices are melodious and to put sound with what he is now able to see was incredible.

A year passed and he came back to the man with this incredible gift and asked if his third wish can be granted. The gentleman said “Sure, what would you like me to do for you?” The person who experienced these awesome gifts said, “Please make me the way I was before I met you.” The gentleman said, “Why on earth would you want that?”

The man said, “When I first experienced sight and sound, everything was beautiful and great. Then, I saw the ugly side of people that I thought was incredible. I heard words that depicted prejudice, hatred, lies, and words too vulgar to mention. I saw the homeless, the battered women and abused children, and after hearing and being able to see, I experienced a world without peace. When I couldn’t see nor hear, my heart was at peace, and God was with me all alone. However, my peaceful world became violent, discouraging, and even hopeless. Sir, make me the way I was, and I will be content in the world without sight and sound—and God will be enough for me.

Sometimes, we end up getting just what we’ve always wanted, but when we see what comes with it, it oftentimes unwelcoming. Learn to be content at whatever station you are in life, and remember life doesn’t have to be for you what it seems to be for others.

It is harder to be what you are not, than who you really are. A person trying will experience stress and toil because it takes a lot to hang on to an image that is not you. However, a person will experience zero stress and labor by simply letting go. Holding on takes energy, letting go uses next to no strength at all. DON’T WORRY, BE HAPPY!

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The Secret To Discovering Solutions

solutions-post-630 Are you overlooking the solution by only focusing on the problem? Understanding the origin of life’s situations holds the key to discovering solutions to every problem.

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Disarming Pressure and Stress

stressed-200HOW DO YOU HANDLE PRESSURE OR STRESS? Pressure has a way of disorienting you, scrambling your brain patterns, and causing confusion. If you don’t learn to get a handle on it the moment it appears, the result could be drastic mood swings and destructive behavior patterns.

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The Prerequisite for Mental Toughness

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Mental Toughness
How do you think you would do in the area of exercising mental toughness?

It is easy to sit back and analyze another person’s performance, and say what you would do if you were in their situation. The truth of the matter is, if you have never been there or been trained for certain situations, you have no clue as to how you would respond under such severe mental pressure. Sometimes we are unable to change our environment to manage stress – this may be the case where we do not have the power to change a situation. Therefore, a person must learn to adapt and improvise in order to overcome the mental challenges and to have the best possible chance of succeeding. This is only accomplished with training.

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Improvising Under Pressure

Discover how to over the pressure of life.

What do you do when you’ve placed a lot of time and thought into your plan, but your plan does not seem to work out accordingly? How do you deal with the stress that is associated with having to make adjustments in the middle of a time restraint? Well, staying calm is your first inclination, but your initial action is to push the panic button. Staying calm and maintaining one’s composure is easier said than done. It is always less stressful for the person giving advice to stay calm, especially when they are on the outside looking in.

Pressure exists when time and schedule collides – which inevitably creates deadlines. However, a different kind of pressure exists when you are in the process of buying a new home and moving out of your existing one. I have never personally experienced or seen anyone seeking to purchase a home, where everything went according to plan. I am sure that there are isolated cases out there, but the majority of house hunting and moving in situations fail to meet the time schedule. A person can plan, plan and plan; but just when you think you have it all down, covering every mishap, something happens. Usually, someone in the process misses their cue, drops the ball, or procrastinates during the timetable, and creates an inconvenience for you.

I recall in 1993, my wife and I were in the process of buying our first home together and we thought we gave ourselves ample time to prepare to move out of the house we were living in and move into the new one. We had it all together. We were going to have the old house painted, cleaned and ready for the new tenets to move in right before closing on our new home. It was set, we were ready to move out, and I received a call from my real estate agent that closing was might be delayed for several days. My wife started asking questions concerning the reason for the delay and becoming frantic about having a place to stay. I couldn’t answer her questions until I spoke with the mortgage company. Suddenly, we are pushed into a situation that had catastrophic written all over it.

I quickly realized my temperature was rapidly increasing, so before I got out of control, I decided to remain calm so that I could digest the information and consider our next step. Two people in a panic only creates [create sounds wrong] more panic. I asked the new tenets if they could delay moving in to our home for several days until the mortgage company could straighten out the paper work. Thank God, they did not have a problem with it. When we sat down with the mortgage broker, he explained a catch 22 scenario and informed us that they would have to resubmit the paperwork to the loan committee. I asked, “How long will this take?” “Up to 30 days”, said the mortgage company broker. I wanted to say that we didn’t have thirty more days, but in reality, I resolved that we had as long as it was going to take to move into our new home.

I was determined that I was not going to be beaten down by someone’s apparent oversight and allow them to push us into a difficult situation. I said to the mortgage broker to resubmit the paper work, knowing that he didn’t have the guts to mention it was his fault. I collected my thoughts, talked to my wife about our next step and informed the new tenets to prepare to move in two days from then. We moved into a hotel, placed our furniture in storage, and went to a restaurant for dinner. When we became calm, so did our environment. It was not the end of the world; it was the beginning of a new plan. We ended up moving in with friends and paid them what we would have paid the hotel.

The mortgage paperwork took approximately thirty days to be approved and for us to move into our new home. However, something happened with us when we did not allow the situation to dictate to us feelings of panic and uncertainty. When situations are out of your control, it does not mean that you are out of control. Keep your cool, relax, and allow your creative juices to flow. You will discover new avenues that ultimately create situations that turn in your favor. Moreover, your blood pressure will remain 120 over 80, your stress will be less, and today will eventually turn into tomorrow. When schedules and time collide, don’t you crash with them! When things are out of your control, you remain in control. See you at the next deadline.

My book, Unexpected Treasures will give you many points on how to not coexist with stress, but neutralize its effect.