Handle Your Business And Make Life Happen

MB Text 5-24-2015 1(Handle Your Business)How do you handle being offended? Are you easily offended by the truth, unsolicited advice or offended by a lie? How you handle an offense is most likely how you handle everything else in life. Oftentimes, when a person struggles with offense it is demonstrative of a lack of character.

Some people think they are strong and can handle correction or misfortune, but in most cases, their skin is slightly thicker than a thin veneer of cosmetic make-up. I learned early on that life is full of rules, policies, and systems. When any of these have been violated or misappropriated, correction has to be made by the violators if they want their lives to turn for the good. You won’t always get things right the first time, but you have to keep working at it until the correct system or pattern for doing something is discovered.

There are no shortages of opportunities to make a living at what you love; there’s only a deficiency of resolve to make it happen. It’s odd how people can get upset with everyone around them when they struggle with trying to accomplish something, as if everyone else is the chief cause of them getting something wrong.

Allen Iverson, one of the NBA’s great small guards, said that after making bad choices as a young NBA star, and no other team wanting him after he was released from his previous team, he penalized his children and wife as if they were the reasons for all his misfortune. In other words, he treated them badly because he found himself offended by other people’s rejection of his lifestyle, thinking he would be more of a hindrance than a help to their teams.

Sometimes, people carry in their minds a sense of entitlement because of their talents or abilities. They act or behave however they please, as if there are no consequences and others have to concede to them because of their ability to perform well in their gifted areas. Get over yourself! There are thousands of people who can do exactly what you can do, if not better. Balance your emotions and target your anger in the right direction. Make the necessary adjustments and refocus your efforts to not just develop your skills, but your character as well.

Never let life, or others’ opinions, impede on your ability to manifest your dreams. On the other hand, don’t be closed to correction and advice which can help you overcome the hurdles of pride and a false sense of confidence. Dig deeper into your dreams and deeper into yourself. Believe that anything is possible, and make it happen. This cannot, and will never happen, until you learn how life works. You cannot break the rules and expect the status quo to become your own opinion. You’ll never win at life if you don’t know how to play by the rules.

Just because you are struggling, it does not mean you are failing. Every great success requires some type of struggle to get there, even if it’s just learning something you were never trained to do. If you sit back and never do anything, you will never achieve anything. It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed on your first, second, third…or fiftieth attempt. All that matters is that you learn something, get back up, and do it again, until you learn the correct way of doing it.

Accomplishing something brings a good feeling, but achieving it after you almost gave in to failure, or when nobody else thought you could accomplish it, brings an awesome feeling.

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The Lesson Failure Taught Me

failure-lessons-200The disguise of failure can often deceive people into thinking that failure is actually fatal. When in fact, failure is not fatal, nor is success final.  
 

It is important to have a healthy perspective about life, success, and struggles, when one experiences failure, because of the frustration and disappointment often associated with it. However, failures are just lessons on how to get something done right; while at the same time, they increases your knowledge on what will not work. Some things that you may have thought were failures were actually successes. You may have looked at the things you’ve blown and felt like you made a complete donkey of yourself, but in actuality, those failures opened your eyes and made you a better person. 

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Mastering The Human Psyche

I consider myself to be a student of life, and because of that, I have studied different principles that exist in this earthly realm that have propelled people to succeed in life. One amazing truth that I have realized is that people who seem to be the most talented and intelligent don’t necessarily outperform those who are less talented. Rather, it is the people with the greatest desire to follow-through with their dream that excel the most.

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Why Great Leaders Are Great Team Players

Team PlayersYour Opportunity For Success Is About To Expire If You Don’t Do This ONE Thing!

Are You A Part Of A Team, Or A Part Of The Problem Causing A Team To Fall Apart? Being able to touch your dream is the consequence of pulling together people who can help you live it. Have you ever met someone who seems to have all the qualities for getting a job done, but they lack the essentials to pull together quality people to help them complete the work they’ve started. This is when the cleverness and resourcefulness of a good leader should come into play. Understanding one’s own gift is important, but recognizing and knowing how to incorporate the gifts of others is extremely important. No “one man” can do any job alone.

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The Challenge of Perseverance

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There is but one major quality that works alongside of one’s faith. I regard this quality as being most greatly associated with success, whatever the field. It is the quality of persistence. Determination to endure to the end after facing horrific and discouraging situations, demonstrates perseverance.
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Gifting, Training or Both

There are many things during your lifetime that will capture your eye and pull your attention, but only a few things will seize your heart and encapsulate your dreams. These quality traits of life are necessary to pursue because they are designed to create balance and wholeness. Be careful of what you say to yourself because you will respond to whatever you say. It is not as critical to know who you presently are, as much as it is for you to know who you want to be.

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

~George Bernard Shaw

I am personally acquainted with people who have exceptional oratory skills-some are professional speakers, others are clergymen, some are CEOs and people in top managerial positions, and yet, these well-trained and qualified speakers rave about me having a magnetic gift to communicate. I am astonished at their personal admiration, but sometimes I cannot help and wonder if the adoration is for my so-called gift of gab or for the words I share that seem to narrow in on the innermost recesses of the listener’s heart. Personally, I survey my speaking as imparting which I view as entirely different from one who simply eloquently articulates.

What is your gift? Do you believe you have a gift? Can you identify what your gift is? Do you believe that your gift needs no additional grooming? I believe everyone has a special gifting, but not everyone is as talented as others. Many people can sing, but there aren’t as many that can lead a song. Now, we can it narrow down to those who can be the lead on a song, but only a few have a special gift to sing with such emotion that they inherently move their audience to tears. Identifying your gift or talent is relative to how you train. Those who can recognize their ability can employ the right person to help them develop it.

It is difficult to know who you want to be until you see what you can actually do. Michael Jordan almost forgot who he wanted to be because of the death of his father. After Michael Jordan’s father pasted, he returned to his childhood desire of playing baseball which was spurred by his father’s passion. Michael had only a desire to play baseball, but his father had a passion for the game. After MJ went to the baseball minor league and miserably failed at playing the game, he became absolutely certain of his deep passion to play basketball. For those who watched him while he won his individual basketball accolades and his six national basketball championships (two three-peats), he became ‘the’ Michael Jordan.

Lack and limitation can only exist when we make room for them in our mind.

~Bob Proctor

When you plan to be who you want to be, you do not plan for incidentals. You work to develop your gift and passion. Life is a series of lessons, which must be lived to be understood. Motivation is the engine to move you to start your dream, but habit is the oil that keeps your engine lubricated and operating smoothly.

Don’t Wait for the Chance of a Lifetime

Does it pay to wait for opportunities or should we create them? Opportunities will rarely come to those who sit on their couch watching the soaps. In fact, sitting in your living room waiting for a hand to come out of heaven with a million dollars in it is just as unlikely as a leopard changing its spots to stripes.

One old cliché says, “Good things come to those who wait.” I say that good things are the leftovers from people that got the best things because they decided not to wait. The great and always funny comedian, Jonathan Winters, once said, “I couldn’t wait for success so I went on without it.” People will not always recognize your talent, but they will give voice to your persistence.

Are you sitting and waiting for someone or something extraordinary to happen for you? Have you been sitting back in hope that God will somehow touch someone’s heart to give you enough money to start your business? Have you thought about the opportunities you miss on a daily basis while waiting for your miracle? Let’s face it; opportunities are more frequent than miracles. I am not belittling or dismissing the reality of miracles. I am merely stating the truth when it comes to a person that is in position to make something positive happen for him or herself.

The person who sits back and hopes that something will happen in their favor is usually lacking inspiration. Discover ways to ignite your inspiration. What kinds of people inspire you? Start looking for inspiration in the most unlikely places. In fact, look for inspiration everywhere—in movies, books, TV Shows or people you encounter daily. Some of the most highly paid people in the nation are in the business of inspiring others. Many of these wealthy people have claimed to receive their inspiration from helping others. For instance, Oprah Winfrey, she inspires millions while she herself is inspired by the people her foundation has helped. The Oprah Winfrey Foundation has helped to empower women, children and families by providing opportunities for a better education, start up businesses and other worthy causes. She is known as the greatest female philanthropist in the United States because she helps people help themselves. I believe because she is such a giver to the cause of humankind, her mind is constantly open to more ideas to increase her billionaire status.

Inspiration has always come from giving and so does opportunity. Sir John Templeton asked himself this question; “Is it my philosophy that what I am given—in terms of my abilities, my intelligence, and my material success—should be returned to the world in some form that will help others?” By answering yes to this question, you are already a giver and your life is enriched. Keep in mind that spiritual progress and material success are closely connected. Never be afraid to give. Serve others and you serve yourself. If you are intimidated about giving, you lock yourself out of opportunities and can become completely blind to the ones that are right in front of your face.

You can live an incredible wealthy life if you can believe that you can live an incredible wealthy life. Unfortunately, most people believe just the opposite. Therefore, these people struggle with increasing their wealth, but have no problem with increasing their debt. They are disgruntled, discouraged, and often depressed about everything in their world. However, it does not have to be this way. Incomes of people have changed just because they started thinking differently and speaking differently. Beloved, that is all that is needed—an attitude adjustment. If you look up there is no limit, but if you look down, you are standing on it.

Develop Your Full Potential

Do you ever question yourself on why you do not reach your full potential? I am certain that at one time or another, you can recall a teacher, a coach or mentor tell you about the great potential you have. It all sounds so promising but oftentimes people do not feel like they have as much potential as others have claimed they have.
Many people struggle with low self-esteem and other mental defective processes because of their past occurrences.

Potential vs. Talent
Potential is not something that sits on the surface as though you can just pick it up and use it. Potential is hidden deep within the crevices of a person’s natural ability called talent. Talent is the natural ability to do things almost as second nature. However, potential is unrealized ability that goes far beyond talent. This simply means that the ability is present but it takes a lot more to first realize it and second, to tap into it. Potential is not easily accessible because it takes believing in yourself to push beyond your failures and disappointments.

Wanting More…

“I feel like I can do and be anything in the world that I want. I see other people far less talented than I am succeeding and enjoying the good life. It is not that I am lazy, but something holds me back from going full steam ahead. It’s become so frustrating, wanting more out of life but not going for it.”

Does this sound like you? You believe that you are different from those who sabotage their success because of an underlying feeling of no self-worth. Your lack of success is not based on incompetence or low self-esteem. It may be that you are among the more talented people with great potential to succeed. However, your challenge is that while you may have a passion pushing you in one direction, you also have other interests pulling you in another.

Less Talented but More Successful
A lack of focus leaves you experimenting in areas that keep you from being as productive. Therefore, you have very little to show for your short-lived efforts. Although there are people out there less talented than you, their advantage is their ability to remain focused by becoming frozen on one goal until success has been achieved. Accomplishment of any magnitude is difficult without follow-through.

Potential Scattered
Your weakness is not the lack of passion. It is just that your energy and attention is scattered. In addition, to compound your situation, you are probably prone to dwelling on ideas constantly and insatiably so that you force yourself out of your previous project leaving it oftentimes undone. Potential means nothing if it cannot be used.

Fix It

To remedy your problem all you have to do is stay emotionally connected to your passion behind your objective. When other ideas and interest comes to your mind, you do not have to dismiss them; categorize them from least to the most important. Your brain is simply craving variety, but you must remember to force focus in order to be mentally stable to continue on your present objective. This will help you realize your greater potential to succeed.