Handle Your Business And Make Life Happen

MB Text 5-24-2015 1(Handle Your Business)How do you handle being offended? Are you easily offended by the truth, unsolicited advice or offended by a lie? How you handle an offense is most likely how you handle everything else in life. Oftentimes, when a person struggles with offense it is demonstrative of a lack of character.

Some people think they are strong and can handle correction or misfortune, but in most cases, their skin is slightly thicker than a thin veneer of cosmetic make-up. I learned early on that life is full of rules, policies, and systems. When any of these have been violated or misappropriated, correction has to be made by the violators if they want their lives to turn for the good. You won’t always get things right the first time, but you have to keep working at it until the correct system or pattern for doing something is discovered.

There are no shortages of opportunities to make a living at what you love; there’s only a deficiency of resolve to make it happen. It’s odd how people can get upset with everyone around them when they struggle with trying to accomplish something, as if everyone else is the chief cause of them getting something wrong.

Allen Iverson, one of the NBA’s great small guards, said that after making bad choices as a young NBA star, and no other team wanting him after he was released from his previous team, he penalized his children and wife as if they were the reasons for all his misfortune. In other words, he treated them badly because he found himself offended by other people’s rejection of his lifestyle, thinking he would be more of a hindrance than a help to their teams.

Sometimes, people carry in their minds a sense of entitlement because of their talents or abilities. They act or behave however they please, as if there are no consequences and others have to concede to them because of their ability to perform well in their gifted areas. Get over yourself! There are thousands of people who can do exactly what you can do, if not better. Balance your emotions and target your anger in the right direction. Make the necessary adjustments and refocus your efforts to not just develop your skills, but your character as well.

Never let life, or others’ opinions, impede on your ability to manifest your dreams. On the other hand, don’t be closed to correction and advice which can help you overcome the hurdles of pride and a false sense of confidence. Dig deeper into your dreams and deeper into yourself. Believe that anything is possible, and make it happen. This cannot, and will never happen, until you learn how life works. You cannot break the rules and expect the status quo to become your own opinion. You’ll never win at life if you don’t know how to play by the rules.

Just because you are struggling, it does not mean you are failing. Every great success requires some type of struggle to get there, even if it’s just learning something you were never trained to do. If you sit back and never do anything, you will never achieve anything. It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed on your first, second, third…or fiftieth attempt. All that matters is that you learn something, get back up, and do it again, until you learn the correct way of doing it.

Accomplishing something brings a good feeling, but achieving it after you almost gave in to failure, or when nobody else thought you could accomplish it, brings an awesome feeling.

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An Interview with Dr. Mikel Brown

This is an excerpt of an interview with Dr. Mikel Brown about various important topics.

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Q: What is your view on business?
A: It depends on what kind of business you are referring to; or are you asking me about business in general? Business in and of itself relates to exchange, agreements, acquisition, bartering, relationships, marriage, etc. All of the components I just mentioned define business. Business cannot truly be identified without these components because these components are business. If I were to define it in my own words, I would simply define it as the act of dealing with others in and for personal or corporate endeavors.
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Get out of my dreams and live your own!

“Get out of my dreams and live your own!” is the word I have for the thousands of people who are not settled with the fact that their life is worth living as well. Thousands and perhaps millions of people live in a state of disorientation when it comes to determining their own passion. Many people’s passion is based on someone else’s passion because they feel that their life is not interesting enough. These people are like children who are always competing for the attention of their parents or some adult.

One day, I was around a bunch of children that just wanted to say hi to me as though I was some rock star. I was flattered, but I also felt thronged by these children who were all competing for a handshake or a hug. I asked a young boy, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Another little boy quickly interrupted and said, “I don’t know.” Another little boy stared at me as though he was pondering on the question and shouted, “I want to be a fireman.” Immediately, the previous young boy that did not know what he wanted to be, yelled from the top of his lungs, “I want to be a fireman.” The bewildered young boy continued to change his life’s ambition based on what other children were saying because he thought I showed interest in what the others wanted to become. I thought to myself, this little boy has no clue that he was laying the foundation to be very unhappy with his life because for him his dream will never measure up to dreams of others.

Oftentimes, my wife and I would talk about the things we did as children growing up and how we daydreamed about what we wanted to become. She informed me that as a child her lifelong aspiration was to become a nurse. She was so aware of what she wanted to do that she pursued it all of her adolescence and young adult days. When she graduated from college, she no longer had to dream about becoming a nurse because her dream was realized when the Nurse State Exam Board mailed her test results, which was stamped—PASSED. She did not get her dream from someone else; she always knew that nursing would be her life assignment. It is particularly dangerous when a person desires to be someone else because they will eventually become lost in their own mind while trying to live the dream of someone else.

“My mother said to me, ‘If you become a soldier you’ll become a general, if you become a monk you’ll end up as the pope.’ Instead, I became a painter and wound up as Picasso,” said the great painter.

No one ever became great by imitating others. Do yourself a favor—don’t become some cheap copy of a great original. Make your own impression in life. I believe all people are created equal and endowed by their Creator with inalienable rights to be what they are destined to be. I am also persuaded that there is something for you to start that is ordained for you to finish. If you are like most people, who are waiting for the right time, you will discover that time will not wait for you. To only dream of the person you are supposed to be is a waste of the person you are. Claiming to be you while living the life of someone else is double trouble. Living a double life will get you nowhere twice as fast.

Seek to discover your gifts, talents and passion. If you do not have a plan, don’t borrow one until you get one or else you will end up settling with what you already have. Avoid becoming a complete stranger to yourself. Find out your uniqueness and fall in love with it because you are one of a kind. Start with what you have and develop it until there is nothing remotely close to resembling it.