What We Have Is A Failure To Communicate

Communication1Does what you say matter more than how you say it? This is the age-old question that many people have concerning verbal communication. This dilemma seems to arrest people as they are trying to verbalize their feelings in order to get their point across. There is a huge discrepancy between the way people generally process the information they hear as opposed to the way they communicate their thoughts. Factors often exist when there is a breakdown in the communication process that are often overlooked such as culture, ethnicity, education, economics, a person’s mental condition, preferences, etc. These factors should not be undermined as though they are not important to proper communication. If a person desires to get their point across without causing a ruckus, it will prove to be a wise investment of time to learn communication skills. Especially if you are married, where most of your communication battles will occur, this is the ideal dialogue for you.

The Communicator’s Aim:
The person communicating should immediately take into account the aforementioned factors. This is not an assumption of one’s intelligence, but rather wisdom. The communicator’s aim should be to be understood. If a person attends any of my business conclaves, they can easily discern that I do not use big words to try to impress the people in attendance. My aim is not to impress, but to impress upon them the importance of the information given. I like to hold my audiences with my verbal skills not lose them.

Communication Problems in Marriage:
When married couples have communication problems, it is usually because they have established a non-verbal communication basis that they have not mastered. Assumptions are made because of previous misunderstanding and therefore instead of clearly communicating their thoughts to one another they give out singles that are rarely caught or understood. If you find yourself often saying, “I thought you meant…,” this response is an indication that you clearly have a communication problem.

A Communication Problem:
Some years back, there was a movie that Paul Newman starred in entitled, Cool Hand Luke. The character Paul Newman was playing was a rebel young man that often found himself in trouble with the law. He ended up in a back-woods prison surrounded by swamp and venomous snakes. The Warden would often inform the prisoners that if they tried to escape, they would both be recaptured and returned to be brutally beaten to serve as a reminder to not attempt to escape again or the swamp would kill them before they could escape to freedom. One day, Paul Newman’s character escaped, but was later captured and returned to the prison to resume his sentence. This is when the Warden spoke the famous phrase, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.” As a young man, I loved the phrase but I did not fully understand it until later in my years. What was meant was if you continue to do the opposite of what is spoken, obviously there is a misunderstanding.

Body Language Speaks Loudly:
Oftentimes, when words or phrases are misunderstood, it is usually because what is said may have a different meaning or connotation to the listener. The second reason for the possible misunderstanding could be, and in most cases is, when what is said does not correspond with the tone and facial expression when it was spoken. Therefore, the person may not have heard what you said because they were engulfed by how you said it. This is a major problem in marriage and sometimes in business board meetings. Identifying the problem is a third of the solution. However, knowing what to do with your new discovery is another part of the solution. Having the humility to place priority on the importance of getting and receiving an understanding, is far better and advantageous than gratifying your frustrations.

Clarification of a Solution:
Take your time, be patient, because the person you may be talking to, may have a legitimate hearing impairment. Communication is the basis to life. General simple verbiage gives you a far better percentage of being understood than speaking in an extra extensive vocabulary that may not impress anyone but you.

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The Balance of Success

MB Text 7-12-2015 (Balance Success)Faith is the power link to every seeable impossible desirable endeavor you may encounter. If balance is the key to life, then, faith is the power of life, and patience is the virtue of life. It is quite easy to talk about how one’s life needs balance; but how to achieve it has escaped the majority of people.

Achieving balance can be difficult because it involves knowledge, wisdom, tenacity, and action, and some people may lack adequacy in one or more of these qualities. In your Bible, the book of James says that we must not be hearers of the word only, but also doers of the word. This is where the problem comes into the equation. Most people are good at hearing to a degree, but lousy at doing. Balance, then, is formed out of sound and unbiased advice and guidance from a creditable source, and then immediately made actionable.

Faith is the power of life because it produces the ability to be tenacious. Power is power; it has no alternative to its strength and supremacy. Faith rests in its own pool of authority, and it is the force behind every movement and action. Patience is the virtue of life. It is the quality of character and the strategy to winning. Patience is needed in order to qualify the balance in one’s life, or else everything will be done in life without forethought and purpose.

Since most people are good at hearing instructions but terrible when it comes to follow through, failure is frequently inevitable. Balance is not leveling every quality off to the same degree; it is placing the importance on each quality regardless of its magnitude. When balance is achieved, it looks like the display on an equalizer component. Therefore, perfect harmony is realized because balance has been accomplished. This kind of action results not only in life becoming manageable, but also in success as being practical. There is nothing more attractive to God than a breathing faith.

Your life is at its finest when you become entrenched and completely invested in the effort but unattached from the results. I realized how difficult this can be, but it’s possible. This is the place where you are intimate with your personal power because you realize that the expedition and the exertion are important. There is a place you arrive where you must draw a line in the sand and let go of that something which has to lead you to a new position, or to a certain person loving you, or it has to lead to you making a lot of money. When your desires are discombobulated or targeted towards you feeling better about yourself, you actually become disempowered by making the goal the consummate.

I believe the goal has to do with the process itself. In reality, the end is inherited in the means. Who you are when you put forth the effort is more important than what you want to become at the end of your effort. If you are totally convinced you have nothing left in you after your effort, how can you not be content with the outcome?

Understanding the balance to success is not winning every battle or achieving every goal. It is what knowledge you are to acquire, or what skill you are to develop, or what corrections you are to make from each skirmish or attempt at something, regardless of the outcome, so that you are more prepared for the next endeavor.

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Think and Speak Out Loud

MBBlog_inside I believe the right talk is the key to produce the right results. But, I also believe the wrong talk is one of the main components that will produce the wrong results in your life. Based on the Good Book, you shall have whatever you say.

One of the greatest formulas you can discover in life is how to renew your mind by transitioning your thoughts from one form to another—thought to material; learning how to shift your mindset to your heart thoughts. There is no condition that is irreversible. All that can be broken is fixable. The reality of your world is not what you experience first, but what you envision first. Thoughts are the core substance that precedes the reality of its creation. Speaking the word is vital, but speaking out of your heart gives the word tangibility.

I have said often that you are a spirit, which has a soul and lives in a body—and this is the proper sequence. Your mouth is a release valve for what is overstuffed in your heart. Therefore, you have no other choice but to speak when the things in you are tipping over your lips. Believing is the start, but what you believe has the potential for life. However, life doesn’t occur until the stuff in your heart comes out of your mouth; good, bad or indifferent. Trying to convince you is not the same as being convinced.

You see, what you believe in your heart about your life, the world you live in, and your environment is evident by what you see around you and experience on a daily basis. The things that adorn your life are the things you have spoken from your heart life, or else those things would not be present.

Boldly speak out your words while targeting your expectations. It is important not to think into the atmosphere, but rather to speak into the atmosphere by discharging your words. No matter how people may struggle with particular situations, people rarely detect their condition as something reparable. An individual can fix a lot of things that are wrong in their life without having the pay a psychiatrist to help them if they will value their own importance. If you don’t believe in you, than who does? If you are negative about manners of your life, you are gushing out of your mouth the words from your heart to express or convey what you want to happen for your environment.

Your fortune begins in you, as you, and with you. Most people do not realize the force that change makes in one’s life by making a decision and speaking that decision out of your heart. Making a decision cannot be like a wish list stating your preferences. I would like to make more money, etc. The reason nothing happens is because instead of speaking a definitive word into the atmosphere, we speak our wishes.

Making a decision means cutting off any other possibility. In fact, ‘decision’ in the Greek understanding is to “cut off.” There are important basic decisions you have to pay attention to because they shape every moment of your life and control your destiny. Most of us make decisions by default, meaning we leave them up to circumstances. Because we delay in making a decision, we wait for circumstances to force us in a direction that we hope would eventually lead to our benefit.

You will pay a major price for not taking control and consciously and definitively making a decision. However, you can take control of these decisions and actually start to form your experiences so that you are living your life on purpose and not by experimentation. When decisions are definitively made, it places you in the flow of the intended choice. When you don’t make a decision, you get caught up in the current events, current circumstances, and current culture.

People are usually quick to accept horoscope writings to lead their daily activities and Christians accept salvation, but they aptly neglect the full council of the Bible. Thus, making them saved to the bone and broke as a bum.

I WILL NEVER ACCEPT A REALITY THAT IS NOT MY OWN!

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The Secret To Discovering Solutions

solutions-post-630 Are you overlooking the solution by only focusing on the problem? Understanding the origin of life’s situations holds the key to discovering solutions to every problem.

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Why Great Leaders Are Great Team Players

Team PlayersYour Opportunity For Success Is About To Expire If You Don’t Do This ONE Thing!

Are You A Part Of A Team, Or A Part Of The Problem Causing A Team To Fall Apart? Being able to touch your dream is the consequence of pulling together people who can help you live it. Have you ever met someone who seems to have all the qualities for getting a job done, but they lack the essentials to pull together quality people to help them complete the work they’ve started. This is when the cleverness and resourcefulness of a good leader should come into play. Understanding one’s own gift is important, but recognizing and knowing how to incorporate the gifts of others is extremely important. No “one man” can do any job alone.

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The Law of Exchange Part 2

If you have not read Part One of this article, I suggest you read the first part of “The Law of Exchange” before reading this part.

The Law of Exchange
The Law of Exchange
If you’d like to become part of today’s elite group of men and women who are making extraordinary amounts of money, there’s no better way to start than with understanding this colossal principle called the Law of Exchange.

I first became aware of this principle after experiencing a divorce in the late 1980s. I was struggling with depression and living under major financial problems without knowing the first thing to do. My car was about to be repossessed, my house payment was overdue and to add insult to injury, people left me holding the bills for all my business expenses. In hindsight, difficulties can become rewarded with opportunities if one can only maintain their sanity while under such stress. Continue reading “The Law of Exchange Part 2”

The Law of Exchange

The Law of Exchange
The Law of Exchange
Do you want to be rich and successful or successfully broke and needy? Do you want to be a mover and shaker? If so, one key is a necessity to have and understand if your personal desire is going to meet your expectation.If any person is going to succeed in business or in life, they must have some degree of understanding about the law of exchange. You will never escape the financial cell of imprisonment if you do not fully understand this colossal law. Continue reading “The Law of Exchange”

Legacy! What is Yours?

When the last chapter has been read and the book cover of your life closed, will most people feel as if they never had the opportunity to experience your full potential? Will they say that the wisdom gained throughout your life died along with you and therefore the next generation was not able to draw from your resources and years of experience? It is supposed to be that the philosophy and education of the previous generation serves as common sense for the next generation.

The good and bad experiences we have had in our generation are to help the next generation avoid the pitfalls of our time, while embracing the good experiences and improving upon them. Legacies are left behind so that others can experience the passion of the past.

I discovered that the richest place in the world is not the United States; it is not Saudi Arabia; and it certainly is not Holly Wood (Beverly Hills). The wealthiest place in the world is in the most unlikely proximity: the grave yard. More wealth is secured in a small six by three plot of land than the greatest oil producing countries in the world.

Once that wealth of knowledge and wisdom has been permanently stored away in the minds of the deceased, there is no way to unlock it. It is forever lost; and the next generation must suffer from the void of what they cannot realize is absent.

The greatest mentor of my life was a man I both revered and loved. His embracing me as a son unlocked in me more potential than I ever thought I had.

To this day, I am still experiencing the many-sided possibilities because a man, Dr. Turnel Nelson, emptied himself before he went on to be with the Lord. What a legacy! He would often say, “Don’t die full!”

The fruit that grows from the tree of your life experiences is to leave the seeds for those left behind to germinate. Growing older does not translate into stop growing and enjoying life. In fact, growing older suggests the opposite. The longer I am on this earth the more fruit I get to grow and the more seeds I get to drop for those following my example.

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