The Intrinsic Quality of the Successful

iqs-200-postIf you are waiting for someone to substantiate that you are a success, you are waiting for the wrong information. If you are looking around to see the symbols of your success to validate whether or not you are a success, you are looking at the wrong things.


Internal success far outweighs external success. Knowing who you are and living a life of fulfillment is far more valuable than all the money in the world. In fact, having a powerful sense of self-awareness, and an intuitive knowledge of who you truly are without the need of outside influences to help you secure your mental sense of self-worth, is a priceless commodity.

I am not saying wealth and material things are not important, because that would not be true. On the contrary, money and material things are an absolute necessity if one is going to survive in this world. Riches may not bring permanent happiness, but neither will poverty. I have seen wealthy people miserable and unhappy, though they possess all the money and material things a person can dream of having. I have also seen people living with just the bare basic necessities of life, and they are just as miserable and unhappy as the person with everything.

Therefore, money and material things are not the true symbols of success. The Good Book says that a person who cannot rule their own soul is like a city without walls. This means that the person’s life and all they may have built throughout their lifetime is completely vulnerable and open to assaults. These people usually end up losing everything because they most likely have stepped on (not over) many friends and associates just to get what they thought would validate them in the eyes of people. A person succeeding in making money is not an indicator that the person has succeeded with controlling their insatiable appetites of lasciviousness.

Your self-image is a product of your experiences, failures, triumphs, humiliations, and breakthroughs. Through these experiences, you create a picture of yourself and most importantly, you believe that it is a true depiction of who you are. Because you believe your self-image is accurate, you base your actions on it. If your actions lead to failure or success, your self-image is then is responsible. There is a reason why willpower does not work, and why it is like a snap-back effect. Your “will” is powered by something other than you simply making a decision to do something. Your mind controls your body, but your will controls your mind.

When people use willpower, what they are actually doing is going to battle against their self-image. However, the self-image is always stronger because it is their subconscious belief. To further explain my point, I want you to view yourself as a rubber band. When you stretch the rubber band, it is similar to your willpower. If you think you can go around for a full day as a fully stretched out rubber band, you are sadly mistaken. At some point during the course of the day, something will distract you—and you will let up on the pressure. When that happens, the rubber band snaps back to its true shape. This is what happens when you use your will power to mentally change what you think about yourself without you changing your intrinsic core belief of who you are. Woody Allen said, “My only regret is that I’m not someone else.”

What a sad way of thinking about yourself. You can make all the money your little heart desires, but you better know why you are trying to make money, because money itself will not be the remedy to your lack of fulfillment. This is one of the reasons why so many people experience the yo-yo effect. The will is designed to do what it does, but it does not make you who you are. If you learn to re-engineer your self-image based on a God-consciousness, you will permanently expand it, and there will be no more snap-back effect.

A neighbor was befriending a child in the neighborhood.
“I understand that you have twins in your home. Are you one of them?”
The boy slowly put his head down and said, “No sir! I’m just a spare.”

Once you learn how to activate and release God’s power in every situation, you will find yourself moving beyond obstacles that previously frustrated you. You will actually develop an unstoppable God (self)-confidence and a heightened excitement about your future. Like most people, your will is to be successful, but it does not mean because your will is for success, that you will obtain it. You have to go further than just to will it; you have to believe it so that no approval would be necessary to make your life work. There is no doubt in my mind that if you are a success; the only thing I must do is to believe that you are.

Now, let me re-address the subject of money. It’s right to make money and even ethically there is nothing wrong with making a lot of money. Money may not grow on trees, but it does grow from talent and knowledge. Concentration, Creativity, and Negotiation are three important elements of having a successful business. The ability to take an idea, analyze business opportunities, and evaluate business options is a major attribute use. When your heart is balanced, it takes a conscientious effort to ensure that your mind coincides with your heart.

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Water Your Own Grass

water200I once had a conversation with a gentleman who appeared as if he were in his mid thirties and spoke as though he was disgruntled about how unfair he thought this world was to the unfortunate. Obviously, he viewed himself as one of those unfortunate people who never seems to get a break. You could easily pick up his attitude toward people who seem to have it all, because he mentioned how most of the wealthy people haven’t a clue about what it means to ration their food—while staying up and burning the candle on both ends to make a buck.


After hearing this young man voice one displeasure after another, I asked him a question. “Do you know any of these people you’re speaking of, because you sound like you know some of them very well?” “No, I just know they will never understand what it’s like to struggle financially”, he said. “If I had their money, I would be just as creative and innovative to increase my bottom line as they are”, he exclaimed.

The best of us have been on the side of this young man before, thinking the grass is much greener on the other side. The truth of the matter is, the situation a person may be experiencing is the reason they may ignore or become blind to where they are at the moment. It may be true you don’t have all the skills of your coworker, or your spouse may not look like Raquel Welch or Denzel Washington in their prime, nor do you have the youth, net worth, and success of Mark Zuckerberg, but you do not need to compare your life to anyone else’s life.

It is not the net worth that matters most; it is the self worth which is supreme. Your ability is incredible and your knowledge is extensive. My only concern is convincing you that it is. You possess the same qualities as others. However, your focus should be on developing you, not you attempting to live your life similar to the way others are living theirs.

Stop looking at your neighbor’s lawn and start taking care of your own, by fertilizing it and giving it sufficient water. You will discover your grass is just as green, if not greener. When you look from a distance at someone else’s life, you may be surprised to know everything that glitter’s isn’t gold. It only appears as if they don’t have a financial worry in the world, or their marriage is so good, it’s like trying to break the Da Vinci code.

Things may not be going so well right now in your life or business, but it doesn’t mean things will remain the same throughout your lifetime. Situations, circumstances, and problems are all scenarios subject to change. You may not need a miracle to straighten things out in your life; you may only need a little focus, dedication, and belief in your ability, and you can turn things around.

There was a business executive who was deep in debt and could see no way out. Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him. ”Young man, I can see something is troubling you,” he said. After listening to the executive’s woes, the old man said, “I believe I can help you.”

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, “Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time.” Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller; then, one of the richest men in the world!

“I can erase my money worries in an instant!” he realized. But instead, the executive decided not to cash the check, but to put the check in his safe. Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.

With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the same check, un-cashed. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.

“I’m so glad I caught him!” she cried. “I hope he hasn’t been bothering you. He’s always escaping from the rest home and telling people he’s John D. Rockefeller.” And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he’d been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized it wasn’t the money, real or imagined that had turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence which gave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

You see, this is a classic story of how people play themselves short, and assume they are a failure because someone else’s life seems to be better than theirs. If your decision making has gotten you into the mess which now exists, it will be that same decision making ability, this time with careful consideration that will exonerate you from the mess you’ve made.

In the story I wrote, the executive found the courage to get back in the game of business after a huge disappointment, however this time, he decided to give his all. Why was his self-confidence all of a sudden riding high? The reason is simple; he had complete confidence in what he thought he possessed. The phony $500,000 check was his placebo, which actually made him dig deeper within himself, become more creative than he had been in the past, and believe more in his ability to get the job done.

Imagine the power of self-confidence when a person believes in him or herself. Your qualities are intrinsic and your skill level is without limits. You can stretch yourself as far as you can believe. Take a deep breath and plunge into the best you ever.

You do not need $500,000 or five hundred million dollars in order to have confidence in yourself and your abilities. You can create so much more money and do so much more with your present life. The best investment you can ever make is in yourself. If you will decide to take care of your own grass, you will never be tempted to speak more favorable about how much greener the grass looks on the other side.

It doesn’t matter where you start or how you start, however, a considerable amount of weight is given to how you finish. You can make your grass look just as green as your neighbor’s grass with a little TLC (tender loving care).

It’s your life; love it!


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